Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?

I find it interesting on all the swinging questions on YA, so many people says things like, Don't Do It! It will ruin your marriage. It will give you STD's, you should have never got married nor took vows, it's disgusting, it's cheating, it's immoral, it's abnormal, you cannot turn back. You are a sick person...





Then if they choose to qualify their backgrounds, it's always a friend, and it's always a failure. If it does work, it's an exception.





Why don't these pro's of swinging say something like, it's only for one type of marriage, and if your relationship equates love and sex as the same thing, it will ruin your marriage. Nope, instead, the part about being able to separate love and sex never gets uttered by these so called experts.





Then come the calls that you will get an STD. I say to these so called experts, prove it. Just find me one site like the CDC, that says swinging, or that kind of lifestyle is spreading STD's, and I will be happy. I will warn you naysayers, I have looked far and wide for these details. I am not saying it cannot happen, I am just saying that it's not as big of an issue, because protection is a far greater issue, not to mention selectivity of swingers. Yes, they can be choosy, and very critical who they have sex with. But NO! Swingers are suppose to have uncontrolled, and wild sex with every other swinger they meet. Really folks? When you were single, did you jump in bed with every person who was willing or made a hit on you?





The list just goes on and on. Why do these so called experts do a little research first? At least before they try to tell others how it's not done, what the facts are, and what it really means to Swing?





Speaking of which, I challenge anyone who disagrees with Swinging to find one negative website that is not a blog, or YA answer that says swinging is bad, will ruin your marriage most of the time, and will give you STD's? I have been doing that myself for more than a year now, and still can't find one.Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
WOW!...... Thanks so much for posting as you have.





I certainly don't want to convince anyone that swinging is a lifestyle for them, I wouldn't even try to. But geeezzzz before not even attempting to offer me the same respect, atleast know what you are talking about before trying to sound knowledgeable on a subject you know absolutely nothing about.





I totally agree with your perceptions, thanks again for sharing them!





Would you like to do some writing for http://www.Ginsopinion.com LOL





Ginni Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
Well if you have all the answers then why do you need to post here? To get pissed at people that disagree with you %26amp; put them in their place? Whatever. When some poor soul comes to the Marriage %26amp; Divorce section asking if that's a GOOD idea they will usually be told that it's NOT. Should everyone just be like ';yeah do it. It's cool watching your husband bang other chicks';. NO. If you don't want opinions then don't ask the question.
just because you do not think swinging is bad


does not make it so





you are of a mindset


and no one is ( even with evidence in hand ) will change your mind of what you think swinging is





so you get defensive for the sake of the lifestyle





rather than say who cares what you think and delve headlong into it





so what do you have to hide?
yes most of us did jump in bed with the first person who hit on us, we were teenagers, and if you need to look for something, try finding out , of all the thousands that died from aids, how many of those were swingers or just had sex with others, and do u really think u can select a couple that u know for sure , is 100% clean, the ones of us that are still alive today are very lucky
Here is all the research I need.





There is no such thing as an open marriage. Screwing whomever whenever is called DATING. If dating is all you want, why not have one steady gal or guy and screw whomever on the side? Why take something like marriage (which is still sacred to some believe it or not) and try to put an STD infested spin on it? I don't believe swinging devestates marriages, because there is such a lack of respect and self worth there to begin with that marriage (in the definition that most people know) isn't even there in the first place. You're kidding yourself and you are making a complete *** of yourself for trying to justify your lifestyle. If it was something you felt good about, you wouldn't feel the need to get defensive.
why do you always ask this question on YA if you are so sure about what is right and what is wrong, is it your life, and im sure many people care about how you live it, but cant prevent you from doing it, youve called me ignorant for finding your first post a joke apparently but ten you go on right after putting how if its ok if u date another women with a spouse.i find it interesting that how from maybe 8 posts of your idiotic remarks and after getting ALL these people against your side, you still try to prove us, which probablly dont care, wrong. keep swinging for the rest of your life, i hope you get tired of it, because youll never find the joys of having a family and true love, stop asking yahoo because youll keep getting the answers you hate getting like ';itll ruin your marriage, and you will get STDs'; i could go on and on on how you think that being married, swinging is not bad, you even went to the extent where you said that God wanted you to swing, your so desperant you found it in yourself to even say that, and you were proven wrong horribly by one answerer, Go swing, remember, its your life, and i assume that youll think youll be happy the rest of your life swinging, obviouslly you yourself know it is wrong but cant admit it, so you try to post these questions with some random website trying to prove us otherwise so you can feel better, your wife deserves better and you deserve better from yourself, all you get is negative answers from your question, i just dont understand why it wrong get through your thick skull, you act as if swingers are all clean and loyal and loving and everyone woul benefit from swinging, you wont





btw your link dosnt work
I answer questions on Yahoo Answers all the time and I do not consider myself or claim to be an expert.





I have answered questions a time or two about swinging. If people wanted responses from experts they certainly would not come to this web site because it is a well known fact this site is Full of opinions.





Swinging is kinda a taboo to many people and maybe they do think swingers are swinging from the ceilings have wild untamed sex with whoever passes by. This site is full of different personalities from many different walks of life and Im sure there are many different views on this topic.





I don't believe non-swingers give much of a damn what other websites or people think/say about what swinging can do for your marriage. Because that is not the kind of thing non-swingers would even think of looking up in their free time.





I am guessing people who answer and say anything about STd's are thinking anytime you have sex even with one person you could be subjecting yourself to disease. The more numbers you add to your list the higher your chances increase. Condoms break and unless every sexual partner goes through a STD screening right before having sex there is no guarantee the condom won't break and a disease may leak right out.





I see no reason to get upset over answers from regular everyday people who live many different types of lifestyles.






I don't need to jump off a cliff to know its gonna hurt a lot at the bottom.





You don't need to be an expert to know that swinging is unwise.





A marriage would have to be pretty hollow emotionally and spiritually to willingly give oneself away to someone outside your bond.





Do newly weds in love even entertain the idea of swinging? No.





Couples who swing are ineffectively dealing with issues in their marriage , have low understanding of the concept of marriage or are simply horny and think if both partners cheat, then its okay.





As for being mature adults, consenting , choosy, bla bla bla bla bla. There is always a RISK of losing your partner to another (intellectually, emotionally, not just sex and stds)





If you truly loved your partner,simply the thought of possibly losing his/her heart via swinging should invoke healthy jealously, protectiveness and possessiveness in you. And you should feel that way towards each other.