Ok people, this time please give me real advice, no smarta$$ answers..?

last time I ask this question I got all kinds of jokes and bad comments that didnt help, but I also got some really good.


Anyways, like I said before, I been seperated from my girl of 7 years due to all kinds of problems, verbal abuse, liyin, not carin, concentratin at work more, payin attention to my dumb guy friends, but not cheatin. Anyways I been livin at my mom's since a month ago; my girls' aunt pass away like two weeks ago, she call me, and we started gettin closer, more ';ok';, she did told me durin that time ';i want u back, cuz u are showin that you are changin, but give me time to fall in love wit you, cuz i do love u';, but then again last week I acted like an idiot, and put pressure on her for us to get back together, and now we are back to square one again, now she tells me, ';right now i dont know if i want u back'; the same thing that she told me when i move out of the house. Before you go all crazy on me, i know is all my fault, and I want to fix things, we have a son of 2Ok people, this time please give me real advice, no smarta$$ answers..?
first of all no offense, but it is pretty stupid to get mad over you being idiot. i would blame that on her and not you. we all have our moments and acting stupid. your ex should think about what is best for your son and not only herself. since there is a child involved, i think you guys should try and work it out. if you dont have any feelings there, then let it be. no offense, but the only reason she called you was cause she was greaving and needed someone to turn too. she probably wants someone there if she dies. it probably put her life into perspective for her. make sure if you are going to get back together that she likes you, and not because she needes comfort or anything. i dont know why you guys would want to get back together again anyways from all the abuse that is happening. if it is you, then i can understand why she isnt sure if she still loves you. if it is her, then i dont know why she wants to put you through any of that again. well hope i helped. i would be glad to help of email, if you want. good luck!Ok people, this time please give me real advice, no smarta$$ answers..?
Was the cheating and abusing caused by you? If so, then she is better off without you.....It is not a smart azz answer....it is the truth. When ever abuse and cheating is involved...it is better off done.
If it is meant for you two to get back together, you will. I know you want her back and you want her back, right now, but is this what is best for BOTH of you? If you become too pushy, at this point, after all you and her have been through, you will only push her away, more. Actions speak louder than words, so instead of begging for her to come back to you, SHOW her that you have grown up. Sometimes, though, there is no fixing things in a relationship...sometimes, the best thing you can do is to just ''move on'' with living your life. Live your life and surround yourself with friends and family and sooner or later, she will come back to YOU when and if she is ready. If she never comes back, though, at least you will have your family and friends to turn to.
Tell her you want to make things better.
Do romantic things for her like give her real flowers, open doors for her, pull her chair back for her before she sits down, say things like please, thank you, and you're welcome, give her a wallet-sized photo of you to remember you by, offer to watch your son while she gets a professional massage using a gift certificate you gave her, and things like that.
LMAO! Sir the fact that you have a child together means you'll always be in each others lives. However, that does not mean you are meant to be a couple. Her aunt died, she was emotional, you stepped in like captain save em and made her feel better. Again, that does not mean you should be a couple. Clearly neither of you are ready for true love so just be good ';single'; parents to the little one and leave all the complicated relationship stuff behind you. Good luck!
She'll be more interested in you when you stop paying so much attention to her. The moment she figures out you're not wondering what she's up to....she'll be wondering what you're up to.





If she doesn't....you're better off without her.





Either way...enjoy life! DONT spend yer days driving yourself crazy over her. You'll be sorry that you did.
to start with the two of you need to be honest with each other on how you feel about each other. and don't let anyone say anything to get in your way. you need to put everything on the line. if you love her tell her so and lisson to her and what she has to say. its bet to get it all out ..
If I were you I'd start the courting process all over again. . . a date at a time, flowers, candy, nice dinner, little specials, etc. You, however, HAVE to hold yourself responsibile for mature, adult behaviour and not vary from that at any time. That's the only way I know you can win this battle.
some people were in lust not love, very easy to mix those to up, i have had girls that i missed like hell but always found a better one, now im happily married to my wife who i met after them all.
she doesn't want you back
She could do a lot better. First. learn English so that people will take you seriously. Secondly, get a vasectomy. Good luck I bet someone else is raising your child.
You need to chill out! Stop pressuring her. Give it time and if it is ment to be it will happen!!!
You need to give her space......7 years is a long time.....and you admitted to it being your fault......So just kick back, stop calling, and trying to get back with her.....Don't call her for a while....She'll notice that you didn't call her verses you calling her....Let her do the calling....I know this may be hard for you to do....but it needs to be done.....If she still cares about you after some time she will find a reason to call you, and when she does call you don't make yourself so available.......tell her you will call her back even if your not busy.....wait 10 minutes then call her back....and be very casual.....then take it from there...........


On the other hand, if she doesn't react on this, count it as a loss and move on brother....Good luck
Well, maybe just kind of keep to yourself for a while. Call her once in a while and talk, don't start begging her back or none of that, jst be her friend. Continue to be a good fathe to your son and if it works out grea if not, you are still a good dad. Best of Luck, one more thing, play a little hard to get, sometimes thats fun!!!!
its time to grow up and know your priorities. if you want your family then you have to fight for it either outside or within yourself. that's how you know if you really care or love this girl as much as you said. commitment is not a yo-yo setup that you could just be good now and the next your friends could just easily pull you away and do stupid things. you should fight your cravings of stupidity, k?


good luck and be smarter this time.
if you moved out seven years ago, how do you have a son of two years with her? Are you sure you're the father?
move into your own place and focus on your career and building a life of your own...stay away from each other for a while.
You guys sound like you've got a lot of things going on - but your most important thing is your son





Ask her to sit down and talk to you - u sound like you want to b with her but things keep happening





Before you talk write down ques that you want to ask her, and the things you 2 need to change to make the relationship work. While you are talking to her you'll be able 2 tell if she really wants to be with you, let her know you don't want this on again off again relationship.