i'm a sophomore in high school, and im disliked by a lot of girls that don't even know me. i love my friends and they love me, but i get a lot of criticism about the way i look.
i have a slim figure - i'm 5'4 and weigh 120 pounds - but I have a very large chest. I'm a 32F. i get a lot of attention from guys, which is probably why random people don't like me..perhaps they're jealous or something (not to sound conceited).
this is such an issue for me because it gets in the way of my being sociall accepted. im never invited to parties, for example, and ive heard through the grapevine that its because people are afraid ill get all the attention.
i have the reputation of a **** in my school, and i haven't even had a boyfriend there. it pisses me off.
how should i deal with stuff like this? im just looking for as much advice as i can get. thanks :]People hate me for something I can't help. Advice on how to deal..??
It sucks that people's insecurities make them hurt others. There's nothing you can do to change those people, so you'll need to change your perspective. How important is their acceptance of you? This will fluctuate, believe me. People can be so petty that it becomes plain obvious that they're not worth it. Other days I know the need to be accepted can be so accute that it stings. Get involved in activities that will bring you into new situations- join a club where your ideas, intelligence, abilities etc. will be showcased. It might bring people's perspective of you into a new light. Besides that, you'll need to develop a bit of a shell against those lunkheads who won't accept you no matter what you do. So sorry you're going through such a rough time and I hope things change for the better soon.People hate me for something I can't help. Advice on how to deal..??
Well, you can't really help it if you have a large chest, so if people hate you, just ignore them. Maybe they're jealous, since you get so much male attention. A lot of people like to put down others so that they can feel better about themselves.
And if they think you're a **** just because you have big boobs, prove them wrong with your character.
Just have confidence with what you have, but not TOO MUCH. Don't let them bother you. If they are indeed jealous of you, then let them be, they don't deserve having you waste time thinking of them. Just be cool so that people would see this and surpass what they see physically. If they see that you are someone worth hanging around with instead of someone who they see as conceited that she's prettier than her friends, then they'd definitely invite you to their parties. Get the driff?
Good luck! :D
Who cares what they say about u. Let them talk. I know it's hard to do though. The girls are probably just jealous!
Friday, January 8, 2010
I was wondering if anyone had any tips/advice/etc on communicating with other people?
I tend to have a problem communicating effectively with people. Talking to people I don't know is not something that I enjoy, but I realize that I need to be better at it than I am. My fiancee says that sometimes (in these situations) I act like I am better than the other person, or that I don't care about the topic, or I just seem rude. I do not mean to do any of these things, and it has never really bothered me before, but I think my lack of these communication skills is a big part of what cost me a spot in vet school. I have a phone appointment with the school to talk about my application and interview and how I can improve my application/interview for next time. I would really like any tips/advice/information to help me with my people skills/communication skills.I was wondering if anyone had any tips/advice/etc on communicating with other people?
Lots of folks sometimes talk more bluntly or 'holier than thou' than they intend, but you're engaged so you're obviously not socially inept :)
But my advice is seriously think about how your opinons count in the long run - which is as much as everyone elses. The best way to talk to other people isn't to force opinions on them or say they're wrong or right (make a conscious effort to never be objective with people), but to take whatever positive you can from what they're saying - or atleast ask yourself if you can see some truth in what they're saying - whether they're talking about faith, plastic surgery, or television shows. Try and just be as respectful to their opinions as you can, and I find, listening is often better than talking for helping to get to know folks, and offering advice and all of that. I don't know you but you seem intelligent, so I'm sure you'll get your vet school place. After all animals don't care what you say, just how you say it :)I was wondering if anyone had any tips/advice/etc on communicating with other people?
You might be able to enlist your fiancee; get him to signal you when you do these things, so you know exactly the moment you do them.
A bit of a smile can help.
Some people do have a way of talking that's off-putting, and seems superior -- flat, making statements (sometimes it's things everyone knows, so your saying it sounds like you think everyone's a moron; sometimes it's flatly contradicting people -- even though you're right, it's better to put things in a less ';correctly your idiocy'; thing, and inject a little uncertainty into it).
Maybe your fiancee can find a TV show or movie of someone who does the same thing as you. You might then be able to see what it is you're doing.
I have the same problem - sometimes I seem rude or don't care when talking to people - it has to do with vocal tone, body language, etc. Sometimes the way you say something means all the difference. If you perceive yourself to be that way, then perhaps you can talk less and listen more. Be positive. Keep the flow of the conversation, even though you may feel inside that you want to bring up something tangential. If you feel very strongly about something, that may be the best time to stay quiet. (i know this is not an ideal way to have to be.....but it pleases others....it is boring to conform, but if you have to get into vet school, it may be the way you have to be in an interview). Best of luck to you
Lots of folks sometimes talk more bluntly or 'holier than thou' than they intend, but you're engaged so you're obviously not socially inept :)
But my advice is seriously think about how your opinons count in the long run - which is as much as everyone elses. The best way to talk to other people isn't to force opinions on them or say they're wrong or right (make a conscious effort to never be objective with people), but to take whatever positive you can from what they're saying - or atleast ask yourself if you can see some truth in what they're saying - whether they're talking about faith, plastic surgery, or television shows. Try and just be as respectful to their opinions as you can, and I find, listening is often better than talking for helping to get to know folks, and offering advice and all of that. I don't know you but you seem intelligent, so I'm sure you'll get your vet school place. After all animals don't care what you say, just how you say it :)I was wondering if anyone had any tips/advice/etc on communicating with other people?
You might be able to enlist your fiancee; get him to signal you when you do these things, so you know exactly the moment you do them.
A bit of a smile can help.
Some people do have a way of talking that's off-putting, and seems superior -- flat, making statements (sometimes it's things everyone knows, so your saying it sounds like you think everyone's a moron; sometimes it's flatly contradicting people -- even though you're right, it's better to put things in a less ';correctly your idiocy'; thing, and inject a little uncertainty into it).
Maybe your fiancee can find a TV show or movie of someone who does the same thing as you. You might then be able to see what it is you're doing.
I have the same problem - sometimes I seem rude or don't care when talking to people - it has to do with vocal tone, body language, etc. Sometimes the way you say something means all the difference. If you perceive yourself to be that way, then perhaps you can talk less and listen more. Be positive. Keep the flow of the conversation, even though you may feel inside that you want to bring up something tangential. If you feel very strongly about something, that may be the best time to stay quiet. (i know this is not an ideal way to have to be.....but it pleases others....it is boring to conform, but if you have to get into vet school, it may be the way you have to be in an interview). Best of luck to you
HELP PLZ!. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME AND IM REALLY CONFUSED. A bunch of people plz respond <3 help/advice?
There is this guy name vince that im like in love with=/, and he said he likes me. well the reason why were not going out is because i got held back so we go to diff schools, and he always has baskeball. But me and vince never really hung out but we talk on myspace like everyday. But now im kinda sad because he dint reply to my message and he stopped talking to me because I told him how my friend Juan is telling me that he said stuff and i dnt know wat to believe and vince had told me that he dosent know anymore about anything. But anyways the problem is..
That I'm trying to figure out if Vince is just having fun right now flirting/hooking up with other girls while he can and that next year he is gonna ask me out or if hes just messing with me and is a player. because it seemed like vince likes me because he compliments, flirts, and had even told me before that he was jealous of me telling this one guy awhile ago that i love him... and he even reads my comments and everything on myspace. But vince had even told me a few times that he would of already asked me out if we were at the same school, but in the beginning of the school year i heard he made out with some girl, and now he is talking to some other girl and he was telling her how she should come to one of his games in trabuco hills.. because i guess he dosen't really see her but he told her how he would want to kiss her on the lips and he was totally flirting with her and she even asked him if he is doing this to impress his basketball friends or cause he wants to? and he said because i like you%26lt;3
And i did thought it was a little messed up because vince got kinda upset because i told a guy that i love him a while ago but look wat he is doing to me? and he dosen't even know i saw the comments because he has them hidden %26amp; and he had even deleted the ones now where she mentioned about him kissing her.
Oh and i forgot to mention that I even asked vince 2 times if he honestly likes me and he said ';i already told you, yes%26lt;3 and when i asked him if he is just saying that he said he wouldn't say it if he dint mean it'; And my friend juan aked vince if he likes me %26amp; he said he dosen't know if he likes me and that vince had said that he would have to wait til i go there first and when he sees me. And Juan had even asked me if i was gonna stay single and wait for vince for next year. But what do u think? is he messing with me or just having fun while he can because of next year? and is there maybe something i can say to him? but it would prbably be better though if i back off dont u think? :/HELP PLZ!. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME AND IM REALLY CONFUSED. A bunch of people plz respond %26lt;3 help/advice?
well, i think you should just back off for a while. If you keep questioning him and pressuring him, its kind of like you're a jealous girlfriend. Jealous, maybe.. girlfriend, not yet right?
He sounds like the kind of guy who likes to go after anything he can get and is probably happy to make out or hook up any chance he gets. And if he's telling this other girl he likes her, and he tells you the same thing... is there anyone else he might be saying these things too other than on myspace? msn? email? therese more than one way to communicate.
I say cool off him for a bit. try not being the first one to say something next time, and wait for him to talk to you.. maybe, sadly to say, you may have been just one of his fun flings... or maybe not.
if he keeps telling you he likes you, then telling others he doesnt know, he may just be telling you what he thinks you want to hear. Cool off. Dont question him. And have fun on your own too. Dont make your life revolve around him, its not healthy and he'll just get annoyd and leave for good.
I know it may suck, but consider it. Its your choice in the end.
Good Luck :)HELP PLZ!. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME AND IM REALLY CONFUSED. A bunch of people plz respond %26lt;3 help/advice?
he sounds young and immature; just live your life and dont let anything pass you by because of this guy, your not married so dont act like it!
well maybe he does like you but hes those type of guys that like to have fun with more than one...[[jerks...no offense]]
or maybe hes finding someone else...[[that might b why hes not responding]]
but i really think [[cuz he sounds like it]] that he likes to have fun with lots of girls....i mean with what you have said...sounds like too much of a flirter...
My advice is to stop taking things so seriously. Is he a player or not? Everyone is a player at this age. I know young people hate being told how immature they are, and that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that between the ages of 14-24 is the time of life when everyone is still figuring out who they are, what they like and what they want. It's a time when feelings are strong, and yet fickle. Jealousy, confusion, love, hate, anger, sadness, all change more often than the weather. It's not a good time to look for serious relationships, or to expect a serious relationship. Take life as it comes and spend time with the people you enjoy, spend time doing what you enjoy, don't waste time agonizing over all the unknowns.
go to one of his basket ball games and surprise him by being there
find out who that other girl is and ask her personally if she knows if hes joking around or if he seriously is doing what he says
next year you'll be able to know for sure but for now surprise him and hang out with him
try and talk to him more get to know him better
ask him why would he say those things to the other girl if he says its because he likes you then ask him how is that showing he likes you
sooner or later he'll have to tell you the trutheye makeup
That I'm trying to figure out if Vince is just having fun right now flirting/hooking up with other girls while he can and that next year he is gonna ask me out or if hes just messing with me and is a player. because it seemed like vince likes me because he compliments, flirts, and had even told me before that he was jealous of me telling this one guy awhile ago that i love him... and he even reads my comments and everything on myspace. But vince had even told me a few times that he would of already asked me out if we were at the same school, but in the beginning of the school year i heard he made out with some girl, and now he is talking to some other girl and he was telling her how she should come to one of his games in trabuco hills.. because i guess he dosen't really see her but he told her how he would want to kiss her on the lips and he was totally flirting with her and she even asked him if he is doing this to impress his basketball friends or cause he wants to? and he said because i like you%26lt;3
And i did thought it was a little messed up because vince got kinda upset because i told a guy that i love him a while ago but look wat he is doing to me? and he dosen't even know i saw the comments because he has them hidden %26amp; and he had even deleted the ones now where she mentioned about him kissing her.
Oh and i forgot to mention that I even asked vince 2 times if he honestly likes me and he said ';i already told you, yes%26lt;3 and when i asked him if he is just saying that he said he wouldn't say it if he dint mean it'; And my friend juan aked vince if he likes me %26amp; he said he dosen't know if he likes me and that vince had said that he would have to wait til i go there first and when he sees me. And Juan had even asked me if i was gonna stay single and wait for vince for next year. But what do u think? is he messing with me or just having fun while he can because of next year? and is there maybe something i can say to him? but it would prbably be better though if i back off dont u think? :/HELP PLZ!. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME AND IM REALLY CONFUSED. A bunch of people plz respond %26lt;3 help/advice?
well, i think you should just back off for a while. If you keep questioning him and pressuring him, its kind of like you're a jealous girlfriend. Jealous, maybe.. girlfriend, not yet right?
He sounds like the kind of guy who likes to go after anything he can get and is probably happy to make out or hook up any chance he gets. And if he's telling this other girl he likes her, and he tells you the same thing... is there anyone else he might be saying these things too other than on myspace? msn? email? therese more than one way to communicate.
I say cool off him for a bit. try not being the first one to say something next time, and wait for him to talk to you.. maybe, sadly to say, you may have been just one of his fun flings... or maybe not.
if he keeps telling you he likes you, then telling others he doesnt know, he may just be telling you what he thinks you want to hear. Cool off. Dont question him. And have fun on your own too. Dont make your life revolve around him, its not healthy and he'll just get annoyd and leave for good.
I know it may suck, but consider it. Its your choice in the end.
Good Luck :)HELP PLZ!. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME AND IM REALLY CONFUSED. A bunch of people plz respond %26lt;3 help/advice?
he sounds young and immature; just live your life and dont let anything pass you by because of this guy, your not married so dont act like it!
well maybe he does like you but hes those type of guys that like to have fun with more than one...[[jerks...no offense]]
or maybe hes finding someone else...[[that might b why hes not responding]]
but i really think [[cuz he sounds like it]] that he likes to have fun with lots of girls....i mean with what you have said...sounds like too much of a flirter...
My advice is to stop taking things so seriously. Is he a player or not? Everyone is a player at this age. I know young people hate being told how immature they are, and that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that between the ages of 14-24 is the time of life when everyone is still figuring out who they are, what they like and what they want. It's a time when feelings are strong, and yet fickle. Jealousy, confusion, love, hate, anger, sadness, all change more often than the weather. It's not a good time to look for serious relationships, or to expect a serious relationship. Take life as it comes and spend time with the people you enjoy, spend time doing what you enjoy, don't waste time agonizing over all the unknowns.
go to one of his basket ball games and surprise him by being there
find out who that other girl is and ask her personally if she knows if hes joking around or if he seriously is doing what he says
next year you'll be able to know for sure but for now surprise him and hang out with him
try and talk to him more get to know him better
ask him why would he say those things to the other girl if he says its because he likes you then ask him how is that showing he likes you
sooner or later he'll have to tell you the truth
I just moved into a mid terrace. advice needed from other mid terrace people.?
I have just moved into rented accomodation in a mid terrace house built in the 80's. I am having a few teething issues. Does anyone here hear nextdoor going up and down stairs? the odd door closing now and then, TV on now and then? kids running about til 8pm?
Is it just me listening out for these noises or is this just the norm. My missus can not hear it but i can. Am i just focusing on the noise too much?
She has always lived in terrace houses but my last home was my family home and a semi with 1 old lady living nextdoor with her cat. I never heard a noise. We do live quietly with no massive TV or loud speaker systems so do i just need to get use to it?I just moved into a mid terrace. advice needed from other mid terrace people.?
I lived in a detached for most of my life- in Australia so my nearest neighbour was a good 5 metres away on all sides- so when I moved to england it was a bit hard to get used to. I lived in a semi detached for awhile with an older lady next door which wasn't so bad- I'd sometimes hear her tv or radio but not all that often. I now live the middle of a row of fairly new houses and can hear the neighbours a fair bit. Mostly when they're on the stairs or if they're moving something big. You do tend to get used to it though and like someone else said- they have to put up with your little noises so it is a bit of give and take.I just moved into a mid terrace. advice needed from other mid terrace people.?
Yes it is normal to hear some degree of noise. I have an old lady one side who's TV is behind the wall my TV is in front of. Occasionally I can hear her TV muffled in the background. The other side I used to hear the owner running upstairs occasionally, but he moved out and the new people are having a whole lot of work done. None of it is loud enough to cause an issue. You will get used to it eventually.
you are normal if you are not use to all the noise then your bound to pick up on it
i can hear my neighbour slamming cupboard doors dragging the dinning table across the room to be honest it drives me mad but then im sure at times they can hear me so its about give and take but at the same time being considerate them of you and you of them good luck
I have a friend who lives upstairs in a midterrace flat and whenever i go to his house i can always hear the people downstairs and next door but he says it's just normal and part of living like that. I personally wouldnt like it though..
I also have an 80s terrace. Everything since the 40s seems to have been Jerry-built so the walls are thin. I can hear the neighbours using the stairs too, but I think you get used to it.
we live in a house built in 1910 and we can hear the neighbours but the worse part is there bedroom must be next to ours as when he is on mornings you can hear his alarm clock going off at 5am.
It is mormal to hear sounds from next door,It is called people living,
Yeah I here my neighbours too but so does my mum and she lives in a semi (her neighbours I mean not mine!!). You get used to it.
chill out and you will get used to the noises?
You'll get used to it, count yourself lucky, I live in a back to back so have neighbours on three sides!! I think it's something you'll get used to. I've always lived in terraced houses and I don't really notice it now, when I do it doesn't really bother me. When I was growing up I lived in a terraced house built in the 80s and everytime anyone else in the terrace shut their front door everyone else's backdoor flew open if it wasn't locked and from my bedroom I could hear next door going for a pee in the night as my head was next to their toilet!!
get used to it?
count yourself lucky more like!
my neighbours have the worst relationships with each other and i get to hear all about it.
The parents go away leaving them to party all night long. Then come home and believe nothing has gone on. How dumb can you get.
They brother and sister beat ten barrels of sh!t out of each other all the time and thats just one family.
New years night there were riots for three hours with cars being smashed up and burned blood everywhere and no cops until the following night.
Even the cops are scared of this area!!!!
Is it just me listening out for these noises or is this just the norm. My missus can not hear it but i can. Am i just focusing on the noise too much?
She has always lived in terrace houses but my last home was my family home and a semi with 1 old lady living nextdoor with her cat. I never heard a noise. We do live quietly with no massive TV or loud speaker systems so do i just need to get use to it?I just moved into a mid terrace. advice needed from other mid terrace people.?
I lived in a detached for most of my life- in Australia so my nearest neighbour was a good 5 metres away on all sides- so when I moved to england it was a bit hard to get used to. I lived in a semi detached for awhile with an older lady next door which wasn't so bad- I'd sometimes hear her tv or radio but not all that often. I now live the middle of a row of fairly new houses and can hear the neighbours a fair bit. Mostly when they're on the stairs or if they're moving something big. You do tend to get used to it though and like someone else said- they have to put up with your little noises so it is a bit of give and take.I just moved into a mid terrace. advice needed from other mid terrace people.?
Yes it is normal to hear some degree of noise. I have an old lady one side who's TV is behind the wall my TV is in front of. Occasionally I can hear her TV muffled in the background. The other side I used to hear the owner running upstairs occasionally, but he moved out and the new people are having a whole lot of work done. None of it is loud enough to cause an issue. You will get used to it eventually.
you are normal if you are not use to all the noise then your bound to pick up on it
i can hear my neighbour slamming cupboard doors dragging the dinning table across the room to be honest it drives me mad but then im sure at times they can hear me so its about give and take but at the same time being considerate them of you and you of them good luck
I have a friend who lives upstairs in a midterrace flat and whenever i go to his house i can always hear the people downstairs and next door but he says it's just normal and part of living like that. I personally wouldnt like it though..
I also have an 80s terrace. Everything since the 40s seems to have been Jerry-built so the walls are thin. I can hear the neighbours using the stairs too, but I think you get used to it.
we live in a house built in 1910 and we can hear the neighbours but the worse part is there bedroom must be next to ours as when he is on mornings you can hear his alarm clock going off at 5am.
It is mormal to hear sounds from next door,It is called people living,
Yeah I here my neighbours too but so does my mum and she lives in a semi (her neighbours I mean not mine!!). You get used to it.
chill out and you will get used to the noises?
You'll get used to it, count yourself lucky, I live in a back to back so have neighbours on three sides!! I think it's something you'll get used to. I've always lived in terraced houses and I don't really notice it now, when I do it doesn't really bother me. When I was growing up I lived in a terraced house built in the 80s and everytime anyone else in the terrace shut their front door everyone else's backdoor flew open if it wasn't locked and from my bedroom I could hear next door going for a pee in the night as my head was next to their toilet!!
get used to it?
count yourself lucky more like!
my neighbours have the worst relationships with each other and i get to hear all about it.
The parents go away leaving them to party all night long. Then come home and believe nothing has gone on. How dumb can you get.
They brother and sister beat ten barrels of sh!t out of each other all the time and thats just one family.
New years night there were riots for three hours with cars being smashed up and burned blood everywhere and no cops until the following night.
Even the cops are scared of this area!!!!
Why do people use this site to ask for advice then only take the advice they want to hear?
If you read the best answer to most questions you will note that the person picked an answer that was what the asker hoped to hear and not what the majority answered. Example: My husband has been beating me for 10 years should I leave him? I really love him! Of course everyone answered this question yes, you should leave him...yesterday! But the asker chose as best answer the lone person who said, ';no, he just can't control his anger. I see this happen ALL THE TIME! I just want to strangle a person this stupid.Why do people use this site to ask for advice then only take the advice they want to hear?
Human nature. You hold on to hope when the situation is hopeless. No matter how much people try to make then see they wont because they don;t want to.
You can bring horse to the water but you cannot make it drink.
Good luckWhy do people use this site to ask for advice then only take the advice they want to hear?
You're right. But sometimes it's good to hear everyone's opinions. There are alot of people going through a lot of the same things, sometimes it feels good to know that someone else's life might be worse than your own. I agree with you.
Well it's like you said they pick the answer they wanna hear...they are hoping someone out there agrees with them, I guess it's comforting to know people out there think like you in some way. But I agree, they should really pick the majority, i mean if 20 people say yes you should leave him and one says no, 20 people can't all be wrong can they? It's really how the person asking the question thinks, if they are opened minded enough to accept the better answer or not....
Hey, people are idiots! Hm, maybe you should make a suggestion to Yahoo! about it.
Because they already know what they want to hear and they just want someone to validate that answer for them and when they get it, it makes them feel better about what they wanted to know.
They may pick that as their best answer ... but in reality ... they still get to read everyone else's answers ... and getting to see things from a different point of view ...wither they like it or not ... so even if my answer doesn't get picked as the best one ... I always know they have to read it at some point ... !
I think people already know what the answer is before they ask the question but is looking for that one person who contradicts their feelings so they have hope.
There are people that ask questions to find the few that agree with them to make it right in there head that what there doing is OK. It's human nature in a way. I know my friend get mad when I tell them what I think. I rather have someone that is honest and tell me like it is then agree with me. They already know the answer they want when they post. We are all different and there are those who need to hear the wrong thing from people as to justify it in there mind.
I TOTALLY Agree with you and I have thought the EXACT same thing......the asker SHOULD NOT get to pick the best answer........
You are SO right...they ALWAYS pick the answer they wanted to hear to begin with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Human nature. You hold on to hope when the situation is hopeless. No matter how much people try to make then see they wont because they don;t want to.
You can bring horse to the water but you cannot make it drink.
Good luckWhy do people use this site to ask for advice then only take the advice they want to hear?
You're right. But sometimes it's good to hear everyone's opinions. There are alot of people going through a lot of the same things, sometimes it feels good to know that someone else's life might be worse than your own. I agree with you.
Well it's like you said they pick the answer they wanna hear...they are hoping someone out there agrees with them, I guess it's comforting to know people out there think like you in some way. But I agree, they should really pick the majority, i mean if 20 people say yes you should leave him and one says no, 20 people can't all be wrong can they? It's really how the person asking the question thinks, if they are opened minded enough to accept the better answer or not....
Hey, people are idiots! Hm, maybe you should make a suggestion to Yahoo! about it.
Because they already know what they want to hear and they just want someone to validate that answer for them and when they get it, it makes them feel better about what they wanted to know.
They may pick that as their best answer ... but in reality ... they still get to read everyone else's answers ... and getting to see things from a different point of view ...wither they like it or not ... so even if my answer doesn't get picked as the best one ... I always know they have to read it at some point ... !
I think people already know what the answer is before they ask the question but is looking for that one person who contradicts their feelings so they have hope.
There are people that ask questions to find the few that agree with them to make it right in there head that what there doing is OK. It's human nature in a way. I know my friend get mad when I tell them what I think. I rather have someone that is honest and tell me like it is then agree with me. They already know the answer they want when they post. We are all different and there are those who need to hear the wrong thing from people as to justify it in there mind.
I TOTALLY Agree with you and I have thought the EXACT same thing......the asker SHOULD NOT get to pick the best answer........
You are SO right...they ALWAYS pick the answer they wanted to hear to begin with!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Some advice to what i should do people? 10points?
basically a guy that i have liked for 7 years and i belive that i do actully love him is dating my best friend. he only met her through me and they have not known each other long but it seems there relationship is going strong.
we had kissed on alot of different oocasions (before he was with her) and had a bit of 'fun' if you get my drift.
i see them together all the time and have to sit in the same room as them all over eachover and to be honest it breaks my heart. i no that sounds gay but it does.
should i just leave them to it and forget about him?
i see him near enough everyday anyway as hes always round my
house, hes very close to my family.
oo and dont say that i am bein unfaithul to my friend or what ever, but i have liked him for 7years! surely she is the one thats distreating me!Some advice to what i should do people? 10points?
Man that is a tough one my friend.....
It would break me down to see my best friend with them like that....
If i was you I'd let them be....just let them ride it out and see where they go. Who knows they might fail and they will need someone to talk to. Hope all is well with you,
ChrisSome advice to what i should do people? 10points?
i think you need to talk to your friend clearly.. you need to ask him how does he feel for u and for the other girl.. if he completely takes the side of the new girl and says that he is not interested in you at all.. you should leave him.. there are better guys in the world and u just need to find.. had u not wasted 7 long years i would have asked you to move on but now you should wait for a month or a short period and see what kind of signals you get and if you don't get the required signals you can be her friend.. first tell him about your feelings though..
we had kissed on alot of different oocasions (before he was with her) and had a bit of 'fun' if you get my drift.
i see them together all the time and have to sit in the same room as them all over eachover and to be honest it breaks my heart. i no that sounds gay but it does.
should i just leave them to it and forget about him?
i see him near enough everyday anyway as hes always round my
house, hes very close to my family.
oo and dont say that i am bein unfaithul to my friend or what ever, but i have liked him for 7years! surely she is the one thats distreating me!Some advice to what i should do people? 10points?
Man that is a tough one my friend.....
It would break me down to see my best friend with them like that....
If i was you I'd let them be....just let them ride it out and see where they go. Who knows they might fail and they will need someone to talk to. Hope all is well with you,
ChrisSome advice to what i should do people? 10points?
i think you need to talk to your friend clearly.. you need to ask him how does he feel for u and for the other girl.. if he completely takes the side of the new girl and says that he is not interested in you at all.. you should leave him.. there are better guys in the world and u just need to find.. had u not wasted 7 long years i would have asked you to move on but now you should wait for a month or a short period and see what kind of signals you get and if you don't get the required signals you can be her friend.. first tell him about your feelings though..
I have a bi racial child and it seems to turn a lot of people off from dating me any good advice ?
Theres never a problem untill they meet my daughter or I tell them. I love my daughter and want someone who is going to love both of us back.I have a bi racial child and it seems to turn a lot of people off from dating me any good advice ?
Just forget about those people who forget about you after seeing ur daughter. They just can't accept the idea of interracial dating.
If they aren't your race, however, they may be feeling that they don't want a girl with ';experience';.
Either way, you just keep struttin your stuff and enjoyin life. The right guy will see you walkin down the street eventually. Don't give up hope!I have a bi racial child and it seems to turn a lot of people off from dating me any good advice ?
I never even saw the part about your husband leaving you. I'm so sorry to hear about that. Good luck though in finding a good guy. Someone like you deserves a great guy.
Yipes!!! Single mom alert!!! THAT'S probably what's turning them off, rather than the racial thing. I'd just as soon not support your previous ';mistake';, anymore than the guy after me is gonna want to support mine. I know it's kinda ';old-fashioned';, but try not having kids before you're married...
Keep looking.....you are lucky you have the child to get rid of the undesirables.
thats a sign these guys are not for you when the right man comes around he will love you both
Keep looking for the right one. You will know when is accecpts you and your child as a whole. You are honest with them upfront which is wonderful. This way it weeds out the duds and leaves room for the real men. Good luck to you and your beautiful girl!
u really wouldnt want to be with a guy who finds ur daughter's race a turn off. thats weird and offensive. u should search for a guy who never even thinks twice about the fact that ur daughter is biracial.
Just forget about those people who forget about you after seeing ur daughter. They just can't accept the idea of interracial dating.
If they aren't your race, however, they may be feeling that they don't want a girl with ';experience';.
Either way, you just keep struttin your stuff and enjoyin life. The right guy will see you walkin down the street eventually. Don't give up hope!I have a bi racial child and it seems to turn a lot of people off from dating me any good advice ?
I never even saw the part about your husband leaving you. I'm so sorry to hear about that. Good luck though in finding a good guy. Someone like you deserves a great guy.
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Yipes!!! Single mom alert!!! THAT'S probably what's turning them off, rather than the racial thing. I'd just as soon not support your previous ';mistake';, anymore than the guy after me is gonna want to support mine. I know it's kinda ';old-fashioned';, but try not having kids before you're married...
Keep looking.....you are lucky you have the child to get rid of the undesirables.
thats a sign these guys are not for you when the right man comes around he will love you both
Keep looking for the right one. You will know when is accecpts you and your child as a whole. You are honest with them upfront which is wonderful. This way it weeds out the duds and leaves room for the real men. Good luck to you and your beautiful girl!
u really wouldnt want to be with a guy who finds ur daughter's race a turn off. thats weird and offensive. u should search for a guy who never even thinks twice about the fact that ur daughter is biracial.
Need advice from all fellow teachers or people who work in a school?
There is a female teacher at my school who wears thongs every day. How do I know? because every time she bends over, even a little bit they stick out....A LOT. I have seen 7th grade boys ( not surprised) notice it and start laughing more than once. After all, what middle school boy wouldn't laugh? Do I confront her? If so, how?Need advice from all fellow teachers or people who work in a school?
she needs to be told, and i hate the idea of going to her supervisor about it.
i would tell another female teacher and see if she will talk to her discreetly.Need advice from all fellow teachers or people who work in a school?
No, you most definitely do not confront her. You open yourself to all sorts of allegations if you do so.
Speak to your Head, if you feel this is something which should be addressed. It is then up to him/her to make any comments required (or delegate some other poor soul in SMT to do so).
I sympathise, but it is not within your remit to make such comments unless you are a good personal friend of your colleague. Leave it to the management.
she needs to be told, and i hate the idea of going to her supervisor about it.
i would tell another female teacher and see if she will talk to her discreetly.Need advice from all fellow teachers or people who work in a school?
No, you most definitely do not confront her. You open yourself to all sorts of allegations if you do so.
Speak to your Head, if you feel this is something which should be addressed. It is then up to him/her to make any comments required (or delegate some other poor soul in SMT to do so).
I sympathise, but it is not within your remit to make such comments unless you are a good personal friend of your colleague. Leave it to the management.
Wedding Advice Please? I now know why people hire wedding planners.?
So my main color is going to be red. Vibrant red.
I'm looking for complimentary colors to do other things with. I know white, red, black will all be in there... but I need ONE more color and I have no idea what would compliment it best! Please no shade of blue..
Where should I use the complimentary color?
Also:
If you have links or wedding planning websites that offer advice and gallery picrures so I can get ideas of what to include in my wedding PLEASE link them or tell me where I can find them.Wedding Advice Please? I now know why people hire wedding planners.?
maybe try a soft pink or orange or gold or silverWedding Advice Please? I now know why people hire wedding planners.?
It depends on what season your wedding is in. Don't stress out, stay cool and relax. Some sites include:
www.ourwedding.com
www.tietheknot.com
Good Luck and congrats!
metallic silver can be your extra color... you will have a beautiful wedding with the colors you have chosen... metallics give additional decoration...
Why do you need another color? I think red, black, and white would look good on their own. If you want to add another one, I like the suggestion of gold.
I was having trouble too,BUT I absolutely love this blog check it out!
Good luck girl!
http://theperfectpalette.blogspot.com/search/label/Red
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3061/3015鈥?/a>
I would leave the colours as they are:)
Why do you want yet another color? Red, white and black are just fine.
But if you want another color...I would go with silver.
I would think something along the lines of silver or gray.
I think you'd be fine with ';just'; the 3 colors you've got. But if you're going to add one more, I'd say beige or gold.eye makeup
I'm looking for complimentary colors to do other things with. I know white, red, black will all be in there... but I need ONE more color and I have no idea what would compliment it best! Please no shade of blue..
Where should I use the complimentary color?
Also:
If you have links or wedding planning websites that offer advice and gallery picrures so I can get ideas of what to include in my wedding PLEASE link them or tell me where I can find them.Wedding Advice Please? I now know why people hire wedding planners.?
maybe try a soft pink or orange or gold or silverWedding Advice Please? I now know why people hire wedding planners.?
It depends on what season your wedding is in. Don't stress out, stay cool and relax. Some sites include:
www.ourwedding.com
www.tietheknot.com
Good Luck and congrats!
metallic silver can be your extra color... you will have a beautiful wedding with the colors you have chosen... metallics give additional decoration...
Why do you need another color? I think red, black, and white would look good on their own. If you want to add another one, I like the suggestion of gold.
I was having trouble too,BUT I absolutely love this blog check it out!
Good luck girl!
http://theperfectpalette.blogspot.com/search/label/Red
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3061/3015鈥?/a>
I would leave the colours as they are:)
Why do you want yet another color? Red, white and black are just fine.
But if you want another color...I would go with silver.
I would think something along the lines of silver or gray.
I think you'd be fine with ';just'; the 3 colors you've got. But if you're going to add one more, I'd say beige or gold.
NEED ADVICE FROM VERY EXPERIENCE BI/GAY PEOPLE? (VERY LONG)?
well basically my question is would a guy whom i barely even know, who i just seen once, and on that same day we met wanted to make out and have sex, be a guy who just wants sex, and pleasure? or could it be a guy who just had in impulse and could be a guy who i can be with?
well heres the story if you dont bother reading the whole thing...
well i just recently found myself being bi-curious, bout few months ago, between those months, this guy who added me on myspace(he was cute! lol) sent me a friend request, so yeah i added him blah blah, we talked and you know, i thought he was straight and was just trying to be my friend, but a couple weeks later we chatted, then finally he came out sayin he was bi-curious, and i said so was i, so he gave me his phone number and stuff so we could text(he barely texted me by the way, lol). we talked abour relationships and stuff and about like if we were ever going to be a THING, he said i dont know yet i have to get to know you first and stuff, i asked him if he was a virgin he said no, he dont it with boys and girls, i said dont matter to me,blah blah yeah we would text every now and then, i said i wanted to see him, he said sure, we was picking places and stuff then i said wait man i cant leave the house im grounded, wont you come to my house then?he said ok, he lived 40 minutes away from me, which was surprsing cause i thought he wouldnt, so when he got to my house, i ddidnt know what the hell to do so i brought him to the living room, watched tv for 1 minute(seriously) then i said well what do you want to do, he said i dont know, so i was like well do you want to go to my room? he said ok, then we went to my room then we just sat there, then he said ';have you ever kissed a guy before?'; i said no, so he came at me and just kissed me, then suddenly we just started making out and stuff, couple minutes of making out then he was trying to get in my pants, i was like doode wait im not ready yet, he said its ok its ok, im like no doode, i was like pulling him up and stuff, he said its ok, but then i pulled him up and i jusst started kissing him again, then he forced his way back down my pants again and pulled it down and started giving me a *******, im like doode man, so blah blah blah, my parents came then i had to kick him out, he gave me a good bye kiss... the end
HELP?
p.s. good things about him: (the things he said and done)
- i dont need sex in a relationship but i know ill have to do it with him along the way.
- dont worry i will take care of you(we was talking about if we were going to be a thing in the future)
- he was going to drive 40 minutes just to see me....
- he has a future infront of him, he knows hhis goals and his really good in school and very outgoing and does alot of activities(maybe to busy for me)
BAD THINGS ABOUT HIM:
- never replies to my text
- doesnt like to talk on phone
- ignored me through text and myspace after that day....
blah lbha this is too long alaready,.. lmaoNEED ADVICE FROM VERY EXPERIENCE BI/GAY PEOPLE? (VERY LONG)?
He has a conflict between his desire for sexual experience with a guy (he craves this very badly), and his self-image or reputation. He is in denial, but really he does want sex with you.
I doubt if it would go into a long-term relationship. But he does think you are hot and if you suggested being naked together he'd be back.
I think he's not ready to be out, and not ready for a boyfriend, but he does want the sexy stuff.NEED ADVICE FROM VERY EXPERIENCE BI/GAY PEOPLE? (VERY LONG)?
You should be free to do what other consider not to be normal. Do it. You sound confused. Dont be.
It's pretty clear that he wanted quick and easy non-committal sex with you, and lost interest with you when he didn't get it. He's told you that he is completely unavailable, and analyzing the situation is a waste of your time. Start looking elsewhere.
What did you expect, though? The vast majority of guys seeking to meet other guys on the internet are interested specifically in quick and easy casual sex.
If you're interested in more, you're basically wasting your time looking on the internet.
See my answer to this question for meeting tons of cool eligible guys that are better candidates for a steady relationship:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Hope this helps.
Good luck!
i was kind of in a similiar spot before.. my guess would just be to listen to him. if he says nothing can go on then i'm sure nothing will. but at least try to maintain a friendship with him and see where things can go later on.. just relax, and don't worry about it so much. try experimenting with other boys and see how it goes. good luck!
Well don't worry about it, maybe he just likes you for sex, you never know, or maybe he himself is new to being gay, just give him a chance or maybe dump him
He is just as confused as you are. He sought you out so that he could hide from his friends and try to have sex with a stranger to cover his tracks. He was happy to drive that 40 minutes to see you . In the long run you will be better off if you find you a more long term guy. This guy will be fine for sex but that is likely to be the extent of your relationship.
well heres the story if you dont bother reading the whole thing...
well i just recently found myself being bi-curious, bout few months ago, between those months, this guy who added me on myspace(he was cute! lol) sent me a friend request, so yeah i added him blah blah, we talked and you know, i thought he was straight and was just trying to be my friend, but a couple weeks later we chatted, then finally he came out sayin he was bi-curious, and i said so was i, so he gave me his phone number and stuff so we could text(he barely texted me by the way, lol). we talked abour relationships and stuff and about like if we were ever going to be a THING, he said i dont know yet i have to get to know you first and stuff, i asked him if he was a virgin he said no, he dont it with boys and girls, i said dont matter to me,blah blah yeah we would text every now and then, i said i wanted to see him, he said sure, we was picking places and stuff then i said wait man i cant leave the house im grounded, wont you come to my house then?he said ok, he lived 40 minutes away from me, which was surprsing cause i thought he wouldnt, so when he got to my house, i ddidnt know what the hell to do so i brought him to the living room, watched tv for 1 minute(seriously) then i said well what do you want to do, he said i dont know, so i was like well do you want to go to my room? he said ok, then we went to my room then we just sat there, then he said ';have you ever kissed a guy before?'; i said no, so he came at me and just kissed me, then suddenly we just started making out and stuff, couple minutes of making out then he was trying to get in my pants, i was like doode wait im not ready yet, he said its ok its ok, im like no doode, i was like pulling him up and stuff, he said its ok, but then i pulled him up and i jusst started kissing him again, then he forced his way back down my pants again and pulled it down and started giving me a *******, im like doode man, so blah blah blah, my parents came then i had to kick him out, he gave me a good bye kiss... the end
HELP?
p.s. good things about him: (the things he said and done)
- i dont need sex in a relationship but i know ill have to do it with him along the way.
- dont worry i will take care of you(we was talking about if we were going to be a thing in the future)
- he was going to drive 40 minutes just to see me....
- he has a future infront of him, he knows hhis goals and his really good in school and very outgoing and does alot of activities(maybe to busy for me)
BAD THINGS ABOUT HIM:
- never replies to my text
- doesnt like to talk on phone
- ignored me through text and myspace after that day....
blah lbha this is too long alaready,.. lmaoNEED ADVICE FROM VERY EXPERIENCE BI/GAY PEOPLE? (VERY LONG)?
He has a conflict between his desire for sexual experience with a guy (he craves this very badly), and his self-image or reputation. He is in denial, but really he does want sex with you.
I doubt if it would go into a long-term relationship. But he does think you are hot and if you suggested being naked together he'd be back.
I think he's not ready to be out, and not ready for a boyfriend, but he does want the sexy stuff.NEED ADVICE FROM VERY EXPERIENCE BI/GAY PEOPLE? (VERY LONG)?
You should be free to do what other consider not to be normal. Do it. You sound confused. Dont be.
It's pretty clear that he wanted quick and easy non-committal sex with you, and lost interest with you when he didn't get it. He's told you that he is completely unavailable, and analyzing the situation is a waste of your time. Start looking elsewhere.
What did you expect, though? The vast majority of guys seeking to meet other guys on the internet are interested specifically in quick and easy casual sex.
If you're interested in more, you're basically wasting your time looking on the internet.
See my answer to this question for meeting tons of cool eligible guys that are better candidates for a steady relationship:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Hope this helps.
Good luck!
i was kind of in a similiar spot before.. my guess would just be to listen to him. if he says nothing can go on then i'm sure nothing will. but at least try to maintain a friendship with him and see where things can go later on.. just relax, and don't worry about it so much. try experimenting with other boys and see how it goes. good luck!
Well don't worry about it, maybe he just likes you for sex, you never know, or maybe he himself is new to being gay, just give him a chance or maybe dump him
He is just as confused as you are. He sought you out so that he could hide from his friends and try to have sex with a stranger to cover his tracks. He was happy to drive that 40 minutes to see you . In the long run you will be better off if you find you a more long term guy. This guy will be fine for sex but that is likely to be the extent of your relationship.
What is the best way to deal with people who offer unsolicited parenting advice?
I'm a first time mother with a nine-month-old son. As every mother knows, it's a very rewarding job, but also a very difficult job at times. I've been finding, however, that the most difficult part, at least for me, is being constantly harangued by complete strangers who think they know what's better for my son than I do. I truly don't care what these nosy know-it-alls think -- they can think whatever they like -- I just don't like hearing about it. I don't walk up to strangers and start telling them how to take care of their kids; I'd like the same courtesy!
Do strangers pick on every woman with a baby? Is it some sort of weird ';rite of passage?'; Or do I just have the rotten luck of being around a community of people who like sticking their noses in other people's business? If this happens to any other mothers out there, can you tell me how you deal with it? Thanks!What is the best way to deal with people who offer unsolicited parenting advice?
You cut them off and say, ';I teach my child not to talk to strangers, didn't your mother teach you that?'; If they say ';yes'; than say, ';well do you know me or my child?'; When they ramble on you just shush them. Shhhh!
Ok that is the movie version of what I think you should say. lol....
In reality I think that most people who offer advice are well intentioned. They don't mean it as an insult to you, they are just trying to share their experience and trying to give you some short cuts in parenting that they wish they knew when they had a 9 month old.
You might already know it all, or you might WANT to learn in your own way/time.... but just accept the intentions as good, or you can kindly say, ';Thank you for the advice however I know my babys needs best';. And smile sweetly.What is the best way to deal with people who offer unsolicited parenting advice?
If it's a nice older lady, I just smile and walk away. If it's a crabby middle-aged lady who is rude and judgmental when giving the advice, it is very satifying to say something rude and witty back before walking away. Seriously, people need to mind their own business and not be so judgmental. Don't take it personally. It does happen to all of us.
I think this has happened to everyone who is a mother. You say that the people are complete strangers, then of course, they have not earned the privilege of giving you advise. What I would do, is say thank you, turn away and completely ignore them. If you know the person very well, then maybe they are truly trying to be helpful. We have to always remember that someone will try and make something their business, that truly isn't. Hang in there!
Not all the time, but yes, sometimes older women come up and suggest I do something differently. Most of the time its something like 'he should be drinking milk, not pop!' (when my son is lactose intolerant) and it something they have no way of knowing, but its still annoying. I usually just say it really bluntly 'he's lactose intolerant' and then look away and hope that that deters them from approaching anyone else with annoying advice. Hope this helps you!
To be honest it hasnt happen to me. Im a 24 year old mother of 2. The advice I have to hear is my mothers lol... If I was you I would just do like the other ladys said and just smile, maybe not even say thank you unless it's advice you think you could use. cause then they just feel like they can tell you what ever they want.
The way i see it, you can do 2 things. Pretend you are listening to the advice and smile and said thank or you can tell them straight up, i appreciate you taking your time to tell me this but i dint ask for your advice so please don't give it.
Everyone has pretty much has the same path as I do...Say Thanks and go about your business. If you let it get to you, it will destroy you!! it will continue long after your baby is walking, talking and asking to borrow the car keys...
It happens to everyone. Just say thank you and walk away.
I am used to it, I just nod and say thanks. People have the strangest things to say.
Its happens everywhere. You just learn to ignore it, and just nod your head say thanks and walk away.
you can choose to ignore them or say thank you.
it shouldnt matter. smile and nod, everyone has an opinion, just ignore it.
Let them know that you neither asked their opinion or desire it.
Just smile, say thank you and walk away. It happens to all of us.
Generally this situation is presented when experienced mother witnesses a new mom struggling or seemingly in need of a hand. It's a show of help but you apparently don't need it because you have it all under control. Then realize that the help being offered is also for that child you hold that someone is ';trying'; to help you out so people don't have to watch you hurt it by making mistakes. Most people would be thankful for an open hand of help but the there's those who would prefer to learn the hard way because of pride. Just be polite and let them know you are greatful and you have it well in hand. New moms are like just that easy to spot. Ever wonder why? Think about it.
What does it cost you to listen to advice? Sounds like you are insecure and easily intimidated ... get over it! Welcome to living in society! So it is still YOU who gets to decide whether to follow the advice or not! Okay... so you've been a mom for 9 months. You know your son better than anyone, but as a new mom, you are also encountering things that you have never encountered before... why on earth wouldn't you WANT to hear advice from moms who have navigated those waters before? No... they don't necessarily know what is best for YOUR son, but their experiences are worthy of consideration! This definately sounds like YOUR issue not the well meaning strangers!
Do strangers pick on every woman with a baby? Is it some sort of weird ';rite of passage?'; Or do I just have the rotten luck of being around a community of people who like sticking their noses in other people's business? If this happens to any other mothers out there, can you tell me how you deal with it? Thanks!What is the best way to deal with people who offer unsolicited parenting advice?
You cut them off and say, ';I teach my child not to talk to strangers, didn't your mother teach you that?'; If they say ';yes'; than say, ';well do you know me or my child?'; When they ramble on you just shush them. Shhhh!
Ok that is the movie version of what I think you should say. lol....
In reality I think that most people who offer advice are well intentioned. They don't mean it as an insult to you, they are just trying to share their experience and trying to give you some short cuts in parenting that they wish they knew when they had a 9 month old.
You might already know it all, or you might WANT to learn in your own way/time.... but just accept the intentions as good, or you can kindly say, ';Thank you for the advice however I know my babys needs best';. And smile sweetly.What is the best way to deal with people who offer unsolicited parenting advice?
If it's a nice older lady, I just smile and walk away. If it's a crabby middle-aged lady who is rude and judgmental when giving the advice, it is very satifying to say something rude and witty back before walking away. Seriously, people need to mind their own business and not be so judgmental. Don't take it personally. It does happen to all of us.
I think this has happened to everyone who is a mother. You say that the people are complete strangers, then of course, they have not earned the privilege of giving you advise. What I would do, is say thank you, turn away and completely ignore them. If you know the person very well, then maybe they are truly trying to be helpful. We have to always remember that someone will try and make something their business, that truly isn't. Hang in there!
Not all the time, but yes, sometimes older women come up and suggest I do something differently. Most of the time its something like 'he should be drinking milk, not pop!' (when my son is lactose intolerant) and it something they have no way of knowing, but its still annoying. I usually just say it really bluntly 'he's lactose intolerant' and then look away and hope that that deters them from approaching anyone else with annoying advice. Hope this helps you!
To be honest it hasnt happen to me. Im a 24 year old mother of 2. The advice I have to hear is my mothers lol... If I was you I would just do like the other ladys said and just smile, maybe not even say thank you unless it's advice you think you could use. cause then they just feel like they can tell you what ever they want.
The way i see it, you can do 2 things. Pretend you are listening to the advice and smile and said thank or you can tell them straight up, i appreciate you taking your time to tell me this but i dint ask for your advice so please don't give it.
Everyone has pretty much has the same path as I do...Say Thanks and go about your business. If you let it get to you, it will destroy you!! it will continue long after your baby is walking, talking and asking to borrow the car keys...
It happens to everyone. Just say thank you and walk away.
I am used to it, I just nod and say thanks. People have the strangest things to say.
Its happens everywhere. You just learn to ignore it, and just nod your head say thanks and walk away.
you can choose to ignore them or say thank you.
it shouldnt matter. smile and nod, everyone has an opinion, just ignore it.
Let them know that you neither asked their opinion or desire it.
Just smile, say thank you and walk away. It happens to all of us.
Generally this situation is presented when experienced mother witnesses a new mom struggling or seemingly in need of a hand. It's a show of help but you apparently don't need it because you have it all under control. Then realize that the help being offered is also for that child you hold that someone is ';trying'; to help you out so people don't have to watch you hurt it by making mistakes. Most people would be thankful for an open hand of help but the there's those who would prefer to learn the hard way because of pride. Just be polite and let them know you are greatful and you have it well in hand. New moms are like just that easy to spot. Ever wonder why? Think about it.
What does it cost you to listen to advice? Sounds like you are insecure and easily intimidated ... get over it! Welcome to living in society! So it is still YOU who gets to decide whether to follow the advice or not! Okay... so you've been a mom for 9 months. You know your son better than anyone, but as a new mom, you are also encountering things that you have never encountered before... why on earth wouldn't you WANT to hear advice from moms who have navigated those waters before? No... they don't necessarily know what is best for YOUR son, but their experiences are worthy of consideration! This definately sounds like YOUR issue not the well meaning strangers!
Serious advice needed baby daddy help!! are people capable of change? what to do?
okay so i have been a single parent for two in the half years now... two weeks ago i just bought a house and this monday i graduate from college....
my daughters dad stepped back into the picture as of the last couple of weeks .. he was keeping her on weekends for the last four weeks and he actually helped me move on Monday of last week and just left today after being at my house for three days…. He sort of has a girl, he doesn’t claim her, and she knows he doesnt really want her, but it is the same girl who he cheated on me with when I was pregnant, she knew me and she has stuck around for him; but he of course he is trying to be with me and my child still… I slipped up yesterday and gave in for the first time since myt daughter was born…I could not
Believe myself; do not know what I was thinking…he really doesnt have anything to offer but i want my daughter to have that fatherly figure around ..when he does come around i can say he tries to be a great dad. I don’t know if he sees my progress and just wants to be there because of it or if he is genuine this time….)… he has been cooking me breakfast before I wake up, took her on her field trip , unpacked and scrubbed the house down before I came from work…cooked me dinner two nights in a row.. I see the game but I can’t believe I fell for it…. And thing is I really don’t want to be with him… some part of me does then … its like all the hurt and the pain and single parenting dude has put me through wont erase … I will never forget it ….i have no clue what to do… but I want my house to myself and don’t want no ***** staying with me …..
is it capable for him to change his ways?
his laziness, lies and free loading?Serious advice needed baby daddy help!! are people capable of change? what to do?
You are a total success, congratulations!!!!!!!!!!
You are graduating college, you bought a house, and you are raising a child by yourself. That is more than most people can do.
I am concerned he may be trying to use your success for himself, as in trying to get a free ride off of your success. I would NOT take him back unless he proves that he has changed. For example, no girls, a good job, responsible parenting, and everything else. Don't take him back and think you can change him. He has to change himself first. If he doesn't, then he better hit the road.
If he wants to be a part of your child's life, make a LEGAL arrangement for that in family court.Serious advice needed baby daddy help!! are people capable of change? what to do?
You already know the answer. A real dad is there every day and every night. He is there when things are rough and when things are great. He is at least a 50% contributor to the household income. He is there when the child is sick. He is there when you are sick. He is committed to his family. Period.
Just because you might get lonely from time to time (we all do) don't let him mess up what you have accomplished for yourself.
Set an example for you child. Let your child see you as a fully capable, level headed source of inspiration and common sense.
You will find a man who will treat you respectfully ALL OF THE TIME and want the best for your child. This guy is not in it for the long haul. He just wants to play for a little while. Who cares who he consorts with? That's her problem to work out.
I hope the best for you. Good luck.
I think he is attempting to ride your good fortune and dedication and milk you for a free ride. Be smart. I know being a single mom is rough but you did school without him and when your beautiful baby was in the most need of care. Keep your head high and kick him to the curb.
If you think he is capable of change, make him work for it and prove it to you. Congratulations on graduation and all your success!
He is mooching off of you. Don't allow him to move in with you. You will regret it in the long run. Stay strong.
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Get rid of him!
He's no good and you deserve better. Don't settle. Get the best. It's out there. You are at a good spot in your life and he can see the advantages of it for him. Don't fall for it.
I was in a similar situation but on his side.I helped out/romanced dtr's mom for 10 yrs before the situation overwhelmed.(not parenting dtr but the half sibs are a nightmare) I ended up going for,and getting primary custody.Maybe you could offer a joint custody agreement(make sure you get that support $ too.)to him.That way,he gets to see the child and you don't have to live with him.You do have to put up with the cheating gf but she may not be a steady thing anyway, you say. Hope that helps.Always what's best for the child though.Good luck
You obviously have your ';stuff'; together which is good...you already have lived without him so you know you can...people can change, but be very, very careful...don't plunge in headfirst...good luck.
my daughters dad stepped back into the picture as of the last couple of weeks .. he was keeping her on weekends for the last four weeks and he actually helped me move on Monday of last week and just left today after being at my house for three days…. He sort of has a girl, he doesn’t claim her, and she knows he doesnt really want her, but it is the same girl who he cheated on me with when I was pregnant, she knew me and she has stuck around for him; but he of course he is trying to be with me and my child still… I slipped up yesterday and gave in for the first time since myt daughter was born…I could not
Believe myself; do not know what I was thinking…he really doesnt have anything to offer but i want my daughter to have that fatherly figure around ..when he does come around i can say he tries to be a great dad. I don’t know if he sees my progress and just wants to be there because of it or if he is genuine this time….)… he has been cooking me breakfast before I wake up, took her on her field trip , unpacked and scrubbed the house down before I came from work…cooked me dinner two nights in a row.. I see the game but I can’t believe I fell for it…. And thing is I really don’t want to be with him… some part of me does then … its like all the hurt and the pain and single parenting dude has put me through wont erase … I will never forget it ….i have no clue what to do… but I want my house to myself and don’t want no ***** staying with me …..
is it capable for him to change his ways?
his laziness, lies and free loading?Serious advice needed baby daddy help!! are people capable of change? what to do?
You are a total success, congratulations!!!!!!!!!!
You are graduating college, you bought a house, and you are raising a child by yourself. That is more than most people can do.
I am concerned he may be trying to use your success for himself, as in trying to get a free ride off of your success. I would NOT take him back unless he proves that he has changed. For example, no girls, a good job, responsible parenting, and everything else. Don't take him back and think you can change him. He has to change himself first. If he doesn't, then he better hit the road.
If he wants to be a part of your child's life, make a LEGAL arrangement for that in family court.Serious advice needed baby daddy help!! are people capable of change? what to do?
You already know the answer. A real dad is there every day and every night. He is there when things are rough and when things are great. He is at least a 50% contributor to the household income. He is there when the child is sick. He is there when you are sick. He is committed to his family. Period.
Just because you might get lonely from time to time (we all do) don't let him mess up what you have accomplished for yourself.
Set an example for you child. Let your child see you as a fully capable, level headed source of inspiration and common sense.
You will find a man who will treat you respectfully ALL OF THE TIME and want the best for your child. This guy is not in it for the long haul. He just wants to play for a little while. Who cares who he consorts with? That's her problem to work out.
I hope the best for you. Good luck.
I think he is attempting to ride your good fortune and dedication and milk you for a free ride. Be smart. I know being a single mom is rough but you did school without him and when your beautiful baby was in the most need of care. Keep your head high and kick him to the curb.
If you think he is capable of change, make him work for it and prove it to you. Congratulations on graduation and all your success!
He is mooching off of you. Don't allow him to move in with you. You will regret it in the long run. Stay strong.
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Get rid of him!
He's no good and you deserve better. Don't settle. Get the best. It's out there. You are at a good spot in your life and he can see the advantages of it for him. Don't fall for it.
I was in a similar situation but on his side.I helped out/romanced dtr's mom for 10 yrs before the situation overwhelmed.(not parenting dtr but the half sibs are a nightmare) I ended up going for,and getting primary custody.Maybe you could offer a joint custody agreement(make sure you get that support $ too.)to him.That way,he gets to see the child and you don't have to live with him.You do have to put up with the cheating gf but she may not be a steady thing anyway, you say. Hope that helps.Always what's best for the child though.Good luck
You obviously have your ';stuff'; together which is good...you already have lived without him so you know you can...people can change, but be very, very careful...don't plunge in headfirst...good luck.
Plz answer i need help from you smart people. you always give good advice.?
I was really good friends with this guy and we messed around. Friction started and he asked for time after i apologized. I waited two whole months and called to see how he was doin. He acted really cool and than i seen him again cuz we hang out at the same place and he acted distant but did say hi. I called him and asked him if he was still mad and he said no, im okay. I than asked him if we can be friends again or do i have to wait longer. He laughed and said he would call me next week. Why did he laugh and if he didn't want to be my friend again than what could he have said.Plz answer i need help from you smart people. you always give good advice.?
Get LostPlz answer i need help from you smart people. you always give good advice.?
He laughed because he figured out you still like him or possibily have feelings for him. He didn't turn you down because he's probably considerate and don't want to hurt your feelings.
If he didn't want to be your friends, he would've probably said something like.. i have a girl, and i dont know if she would mind... or maybe idk i'll have to think about it'; well yes those are the possible things he could've said to you.
maybe he laughed bc he was over the incident and meant ';of course we can be friends';. That is how I would take it. i think, i never had a guy laugh in my face though lol
im going to say either he is truelly a jerk at heart or you hurt him and now hes trying to keep from being hurt more by giving you the cold shoulder and trying to make you feel bad about yourself
Try not to over analyze. See how things go.
If he calls, he wants to stay friends. Yay!
If he doesn't, he couldn't be just freinds because you're stunningly attractive and you drive him wild with passion and pain. Yay!
Either way, it's all good. :)
Seems like whatever you did really turned him off to you. Just give it time, keep in touch with him, if he wants to continue your friendship it'l happen.
I wouldn't sweat it. If he laughed and says everyhtings ok then don't keep asking him it only pushes him away. Just call in a few days make plans for lunch or something and leave it at that. Don't keep talking about it it only makes thins really akward. If hes moved past it you should to. good luck.
Sounds like he's beating around the bush and doesn't want to tell you he doesn't want to be friends anymore.
women are so complicated
it sounds like it was one of those laughs that mean dont worry about it were cool. if he didnt want to be your friend then he wouldnt even bother with you
Honestly because he probabley doesnt think its as big a deal as your making it, We men can get over things pretty quickly....Invite him out, thats the real test.
dunno wasn't there. He probably was just laughing nervously because it is a tough subject... easier to laugh it off and say ';ill call you'; then to get all touchy feely you know. I am sure all is well my friend.
maybe he found someone else. don't know why he laughed, but if he didn't want to be friends again, he would have told you to back off and leave him alone. or maybe he laughed cuz he thought you knew that you would always be friends no matter what. (if you get what i mean...hopefully). hope this helps.
he may have laughed because, in his mind, it's your fault your not friends... so he thought it was weird that you asked ';or do i have to wait longer?';
but idk.
you can ask him why he was distant
you're trying too hard to pursue him and he's not into you, nor does he care to keep a friendship with you...sorry babe, just move on
he laughed because he probably thought the question and your anxiousness was cute.
trust me, if a guy didn't want to be your friend, he'd find a way out of it. you should read He's Just Not That Into You - it's short and funny and really helps you understand =)
therapists help pplz like you. Go to one
OK DONT WORRY
everything is fine
=) take a deep breath =)
ok so i have to remember im not teaching you cpr..=)lol
anyways just dont mind any attention to him because then guys get jerked off and they think they r all that
pretend u dont rly care ..and then hell start callin u ok?
he could have not laughed and would have asked for more time..yeah but just follow my advice and youll be fine..ok
good luck///////////////=)
just like any smart person would say ';E=MC^2';
He doesnt want to be your friend because he is thinking of being something more duh! You dont get it he likes you but he is too dum to admit it just wait and see what happens
hes only trying to get in ur pants just make him work for it and if hes hot....
i no some1 who was really good friends with this lad and they were like glue best of friends they got together and everything fell apart from there they never really talked after he though it was to weird but she said it was the worst thing she did cuz now they dont have a friendship or anything eles..... he is prob acting like this because he just doesnt wanna talk to you right now he might come around and then he might not .... i think your being a bit silly ringing him up asking can you be friends again you should no it usually works it self out...hes playing you if i had anything to say about it...
He is a joke. This guy doesn't want you he laughed bc he knew you wanted that. That's why he didn't call you or approach u the way you wanted him to.
He is playing games and probably isnt old enough to really value wht you have anyway. Move ON!
Get LostPlz answer i need help from you smart people. you always give good advice.?
He laughed because he figured out you still like him or possibily have feelings for him. He didn't turn you down because he's probably considerate and don't want to hurt your feelings.
If he didn't want to be your friends, he would've probably said something like.. i have a girl, and i dont know if she would mind... or maybe idk i'll have to think about it'; well yes those are the possible things he could've said to you.
maybe he laughed bc he was over the incident and meant ';of course we can be friends';. That is how I would take it. i think, i never had a guy laugh in my face though lol
im going to say either he is truelly a jerk at heart or you hurt him and now hes trying to keep from being hurt more by giving you the cold shoulder and trying to make you feel bad about yourself
Try not to over analyze. See how things go.
If he calls, he wants to stay friends. Yay!
If he doesn't, he couldn't be just freinds because you're stunningly attractive and you drive him wild with passion and pain. Yay!
Either way, it's all good. :)
Seems like whatever you did really turned him off to you. Just give it time, keep in touch with him, if he wants to continue your friendship it'l happen.
I wouldn't sweat it. If he laughed and says everyhtings ok then don't keep asking him it only pushes him away. Just call in a few days make plans for lunch or something and leave it at that. Don't keep talking about it it only makes thins really akward. If hes moved past it you should to. good luck.
Sounds like he's beating around the bush and doesn't want to tell you he doesn't want to be friends anymore.
women are so complicated
it sounds like it was one of those laughs that mean dont worry about it were cool. if he didnt want to be your friend then he wouldnt even bother with you
Honestly because he probabley doesnt think its as big a deal as your making it, We men can get over things pretty quickly....Invite him out, thats the real test.
dunno wasn't there. He probably was just laughing nervously because it is a tough subject... easier to laugh it off and say ';ill call you'; then to get all touchy feely you know. I am sure all is well my friend.
maybe he found someone else. don't know why he laughed, but if he didn't want to be friends again, he would have told you to back off and leave him alone. or maybe he laughed cuz he thought you knew that you would always be friends no matter what. (if you get what i mean...hopefully). hope this helps.
he may have laughed because, in his mind, it's your fault your not friends... so he thought it was weird that you asked ';or do i have to wait longer?';
but idk.
you can ask him why he was distant
you're trying too hard to pursue him and he's not into you, nor does he care to keep a friendship with you...sorry babe, just move on
he laughed because he probably thought the question and your anxiousness was cute.
trust me, if a guy didn't want to be your friend, he'd find a way out of it. you should read He's Just Not That Into You - it's short and funny and really helps you understand =)
therapists help pplz like you. Go to one
OK DONT WORRY
everything is fine
=) take a deep breath =)
ok so i have to remember im not teaching you cpr..=)lol
anyways just dont mind any attention to him because then guys get jerked off and they think they r all that
pretend u dont rly care ..and then hell start callin u ok?
he could have not laughed and would have asked for more time..yeah but just follow my advice and youll be fine..ok
good luck///////////////=)
just like any smart person would say ';E=MC^2';
He doesnt want to be your friend because he is thinking of being something more duh! You dont get it he likes you but he is too dum to admit it just wait and see what happens
hes only trying to get in ur pants just make him work for it and if hes hot....
i no some1 who was really good friends with this lad and they were like glue best of friends they got together and everything fell apart from there they never really talked after he though it was to weird but she said it was the worst thing she did cuz now they dont have a friendship or anything eles..... he is prob acting like this because he just doesnt wanna talk to you right now he might come around and then he might not .... i think your being a bit silly ringing him up asking can you be friends again you should no it usually works it self out...hes playing you if i had anything to say about it...
He is a joke. This guy doesn't want you he laughed bc he knew you wanted that. That's why he didn't call you or approach u the way you wanted him to.
He is playing games and probably isnt old enough to really value wht you have anyway. Move ON!
What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?
I am going nuts..I have been of and on with this guy for 3 in half years. We finally became official about a month ago but he lives 4 hours away. I am so in love with this guy but we argue constantly. He has alot on his hands right now, school, work, all of that and whenever he doesnt answer my text or calls i freak out..other than that, i couldnt ask for a better guy. I broke up with him 2 days ago because i kept hurting from him not answering me all the time, and me stressing out about it..now i totally regret it. I also kinda like this other guy but whenever i kissed him there was really no sparks or anything like that...what is wrong with me?? im going crazy..im depressed/confused/anger..what should i do?? and how do i know im just not used to this guy ive been with for so long. I feel like i cant live without him, but i also want something new at the same time..What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?
you love to hate him and hate to love him (or somthin like that)
hes prob not for you, but youve been together for sooo long that you can live without him.... and you still miss him, so you didnt feel sparks with the other guy... id recommend you be friends with the dude you broke up with, try not to stay away or not talk for long periods of time, and date the other guy :)
but as simple as these answers you get seem, its still very hard to find the true answer,roll with the wind and follow your heart!!!!!
=power to the people=What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?
You should not be in a relationship with anybody. You need to work through what you want before you can pull anybody into your life. Clearly you do not know how to be in a healthy relationship because of how you acted in the first one. Work on yourself and your trust issues and then think about dating.
if you love the guy so much you should get back together with him. just tell him the truth, what he does that pisses you off and why you broke up with him in the first place. as for this other guy my opinion is dump him, if there was not much fireworks or anything like that there is not much point in going out with him. hope this helps.
peace.
First I advise you to do a spell check.It's really difficult to read.Look you need to understand something, mind does make cowards of us all and needs some conscious training.If you are done and over with the 1st guy, do move on. Takes time. And time does heal. Keep yourself pre occupied with something, may be something extreme, does help. You will see the difference.
I have learned the painful truth and I think everywomen will agree the only way to get over him is to find someone else that is the only way no matter what anyone sais just watch you will see!
Ask him why he didn't answer your calls or texts and if he has. A resonable explanation go back out with him but if not then see how it goes with the other guy.
just find somebody to talk to
tell him how you feel. if he doesn't understand it or doesn't feel the same way then move on and find a guy thats worth your time.
what happen to you just tell me i am your friend honestly
i am your heart's friend
feel ur pain. try hard to move on
u deserve better move on !!
This sounds like my ex and I. We were together for 3 years and I finally ended things this spring and I have never been happier. I thought I ';couldn't live without him'; but you can and you will probably feel much better about your life once he is gone. He is just dragging you down and as much as you don't want to admit that you know it deep down. It will hurt to lose him I know that from experience but in the end it is worth it. Better than having him suck all your energy out of you making you worry why he might not be answering. My ex was cheating on me..... that is why he wouldn't answer my calls. The girl he was cheating on me with didn't know I existed until she read one of my texts and found me online and we are now friends so don't go back to him.
When you find the one that is worth it he won't make you depressed, confused or angry. Just the opposite! I missed out on a lot of things because of him and I hope that you don't allow a man to do that to you. They just aren't worth it.
Honestly.....sounds like you need to back way up and focus on yourself to become better at relationships. It is not healthy to expect, a male---of all species----to tend to the details of texting all the time, especially when he is trying to focus on getting an education and making a living by working! You should be glad he is responsible and making something of himself. Stop freaking out...if you don't, you're gonna lose him. Yet, does he even deserve you? Sounds like you are not being loyal to him if ou are kissing another guy anyway.....don't mean to be harsh, but, you need to hear the truth so you can get better at relationships so you can have healthier ones! It really does work! And....you ';can'; live without him! If you feel like you want something new, you are not ready to settle down for just one relationship...a relationship won't last until you have explored.
I dated my bf for 3 years. Then I found a new guy who I really liked so I broke up with my bf because I was too young to settle down. Then I was just angry because I wanted my bf back bc I missed him, but I wanted to date new people to see what dating was all about. I really think that what your going through is just a phase that most of encounter at some point in life. THe best advice I can give is to try going out with different guys. If you still consistently feel like you need that one guy in specific then maybe it is ment to be. there is no cure all... I would assume you are fairly young? and this is completely normal...you have to get out and meet other guys in order to find what you WANT! best of luck!
WHAT exactly are you doing with him?
if regardless of school and work why cant he make time for you? it takes 5 minutes to send a text , and if he wont even answer your phone calls why are you even bothering with him any more?
sounds like hes got you danceing to his own little tune , if hes hurting you and your stressing out this much over it and if your always argueing you shouldnt be with him , im not being nasty thats just the truth as it is from your question
why the need to be informed every minute? are you saran wrap or static cling?
and btw How old are you?
don't be upset about him not answering you or about breaking up with him... if you need to , find out how he's dealing and see if maybe it's the best for both of you
make a decision and follow through... growing up sucks sometimes but it needs to happen before you can have a Healthy relationship and not possesive or obsessive
ciao for now
First, lets breathe.
In and out, in and out.
With him having so much on his hands he is prob really busy and won't have time for you.
How about we try this.
Tell him your sorry you did it and want to get back with him later on, you just can't until he is ready and can not worry you so much. Then in the mean time date other people and if you ALWAYS find yourself longing and wanting back with him and nothing else at ALL seems right, then go back to him.
Just relax right now and clear your mind... It will help you a lot
Good luck
being with someone for so long can be hard to let go. But remember you can live without him you would just prefer not to. if your heart is telling you, you want something new it means you need someone new. go for it. maybe a break is a good idea for now. date a little. But in the end if you still feel like the first guy is the one then it must be. go with your heart and don't worry if guys don't pick up right then and there its when they stop ignoring you all together you should be worried.Best of luck!
Wow, I just went through a very similar situation. The only difference was that I saw him every day and he has a daughter. I woul call him or text him to see if he could hang out and he would either ignore them or say he was busy. It's not that he didn't want to hang out with me, it was just that most of his life is spent at work or taking care of the baby. I'm the type of girl that needs attention. I would love to talk to my boyfriend once a day at least to see how it is going. I may be clingy, but oh well. Eventually, my need for attention grew into major paranoia. I thought he was cheating on me several times, when he never would do such a thing. My story doesn't end so happy, so I don't know how it will help... We eventually decided to end the relationship because of how paraniod I became when he was too busy to be with me. I felt that I was miserable all the time and I needed out. Just don't make the mistake I did, but live by the words of Cosmo ';, If a guy is really into you, he will never be too busy.';
you love to hate him and hate to love him (or somthin like that)
hes prob not for you, but youve been together for sooo long that you can live without him.... and you still miss him, so you didnt feel sparks with the other guy... id recommend you be friends with the dude you broke up with, try not to stay away or not talk for long periods of time, and date the other guy :)
but as simple as these answers you get seem, its still very hard to find the true answer,roll with the wind and follow your heart!!!!!
=power to the people=What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?
You should not be in a relationship with anybody. You need to work through what you want before you can pull anybody into your life. Clearly you do not know how to be in a healthy relationship because of how you acted in the first one. Work on yourself and your trust issues and then think about dating.
if you love the guy so much you should get back together with him. just tell him the truth, what he does that pisses you off and why you broke up with him in the first place. as for this other guy my opinion is dump him, if there was not much fireworks or anything like that there is not much point in going out with him. hope this helps.
peace.
First I advise you to do a spell check.It's really difficult to read.Look you need to understand something, mind does make cowards of us all and needs some conscious training.If you are done and over with the 1st guy, do move on. Takes time. And time does heal. Keep yourself pre occupied with something, may be something extreme, does help. You will see the difference.
I have learned the painful truth and I think everywomen will agree the only way to get over him is to find someone else that is the only way no matter what anyone sais just watch you will see!
Ask him why he didn't answer your calls or texts and if he has. A resonable explanation go back out with him but if not then see how it goes with the other guy.
just find somebody to talk to
tell him how you feel. if he doesn't understand it or doesn't feel the same way then move on and find a guy thats worth your time.
what happen to you just tell me i am your friend honestly
i am your heart's friend
feel ur pain. try hard to move on
u deserve better move on !!
This sounds like my ex and I. We were together for 3 years and I finally ended things this spring and I have never been happier. I thought I ';couldn't live without him'; but you can and you will probably feel much better about your life once he is gone. He is just dragging you down and as much as you don't want to admit that you know it deep down. It will hurt to lose him I know that from experience but in the end it is worth it. Better than having him suck all your energy out of you making you worry why he might not be answering. My ex was cheating on me..... that is why he wouldn't answer my calls. The girl he was cheating on me with didn't know I existed until she read one of my texts and found me online and we are now friends so don't go back to him.
When you find the one that is worth it he won't make you depressed, confused or angry. Just the opposite! I missed out on a lot of things because of him and I hope that you don't allow a man to do that to you. They just aren't worth it.
Honestly.....sounds like you need to back way up and focus on yourself to become better at relationships. It is not healthy to expect, a male---of all species----to tend to the details of texting all the time, especially when he is trying to focus on getting an education and making a living by working! You should be glad he is responsible and making something of himself. Stop freaking out...if you don't, you're gonna lose him. Yet, does he even deserve you? Sounds like you are not being loyal to him if ou are kissing another guy anyway.....don't mean to be harsh, but, you need to hear the truth so you can get better at relationships so you can have healthier ones! It really does work! And....you ';can'; live without him! If you feel like you want something new, you are not ready to settle down for just one relationship...a relationship won't last until you have explored.
I dated my bf for 3 years. Then I found a new guy who I really liked so I broke up with my bf because I was too young to settle down. Then I was just angry because I wanted my bf back bc I missed him, but I wanted to date new people to see what dating was all about. I really think that what your going through is just a phase that most of encounter at some point in life. THe best advice I can give is to try going out with different guys. If you still consistently feel like you need that one guy in specific then maybe it is ment to be. there is no cure all... I would assume you are fairly young? and this is completely normal...you have to get out and meet other guys in order to find what you WANT! best of luck!
WHAT exactly are you doing with him?
if regardless of school and work why cant he make time for you? it takes 5 minutes to send a text , and if he wont even answer your phone calls why are you even bothering with him any more?
sounds like hes got you danceing to his own little tune , if hes hurting you and your stressing out this much over it and if your always argueing you shouldnt be with him , im not being nasty thats just the truth as it is from your question
why the need to be informed every minute? are you saran wrap or static cling?
and btw How old are you?
don't be upset about him not answering you or about breaking up with him... if you need to , find out how he's dealing and see if maybe it's the best for both of you
make a decision and follow through... growing up sucks sometimes but it needs to happen before you can have a Healthy relationship and not possesive or obsessive
ciao for now
First, lets breathe.
In and out, in and out.
With him having so much on his hands he is prob really busy and won't have time for you.
How about we try this.
Tell him your sorry you did it and want to get back with him later on, you just can't until he is ready and can not worry you so much. Then in the mean time date other people and if you ALWAYS find yourself longing and wanting back with him and nothing else at ALL seems right, then go back to him.
Just relax right now and clear your mind... It will help you a lot
Good luck
being with someone for so long can be hard to let go. But remember you can live without him you would just prefer not to. if your heart is telling you, you want something new it means you need someone new. go for it. maybe a break is a good idea for now. date a little. But in the end if you still feel like the first guy is the one then it must be. go with your heart and don't worry if guys don't pick up right then and there its when they stop ignoring you all together you should be worried.Best of luck!
Wow, I just went through a very similar situation. The only difference was that I saw him every day and he has a daughter. I woul call him or text him to see if he could hang out and he would either ignore them or say he was busy. It's not that he didn't want to hang out with me, it was just that most of his life is spent at work or taking care of the baby. I'm the type of girl that needs attention. I would love to talk to my boyfriend once a day at least to see how it is going. I may be clingy, but oh well. Eventually, my need for attention grew into major paranoia. I thought he was cheating on me several times, when he never would do such a thing. My story doesn't end so happy, so I don't know how it will help... We eventually decided to end the relationship because of how paraniod I became when he was too busy to be with me. I felt that I was miserable all the time and I needed out. Just don't make the mistake I did, but live by the words of Cosmo ';, If a guy is really into you, he will never be too busy.';
Why is it that people that don't have kids have the most parenting advice?
Because it is easier to think you know something when you don't have the experience to prove otherwise.
Having 4 kids makes me know that a lot of other people think are simply not true...Why is it that people that don't have kids have the most parenting advice?
Sometimes when you don't have something, it is easier to cope with it than when you have it. Non-parents sometimes deal with children better. This is the same as a person not going through death in the family have better advises for dealing with the issue than someone who is going to death in the family. It guess it is because non-parents are not burden with the responsibility so they are more free and relax to visualize the situation and thing more freely.Why is it that people that don't have kids have the most parenting advice?
It is totally annoying when they give advice to people when they don't have a true - hands on - experience. It happened to me when I already have two children and I was pregnant at that time with my third and this girl who was dating my friend kept giving me advice of what I needed to do, oh boY! Didn't she sound so professional. But the truth to the matter is - I almost laugh at her - when she was doing that because I have more experience than her.
Don't get me wrong but I think they (those who do not have children) needs to lighten up a little to those who has a kid or more.
Because they don't have kids. They think children actually listen to and do everything we say. Wrong! Even many parents get it wrong sometimes. Most people without kids just don't understand that every child is different and no one can guess what they're thinking.
Because we all grow up with certain ideals that we think would be very easy to achieve if we simply put our minds to it. Plus, it is very easy to see whats wrong with a picture when you are on the outside looking in. When you are in the midst of something - like in my house where I have an energetic two year old and an infant who likes to be held all the time - it is sometimes harder to see the most logical way to solve a problem. Plus, other people's kids are sometimes very difficult to handle and I think we must tell ourselves that we would be better parents because if we didn't, the human race would probably cease to exist. Even now, I can't stand being around screaming crazy kids.
Kids have more tech. They base things on their opinion, kids may be getting more wiser these ages...
Just because people may not have kids of their own does not meant they don't have experience in raising or guiding them. I have no children of my own but have raised children of various ages through 3 marriages and also there are many people in careers or vocations that deal with children as well. To think that just having a birth child gives one experience over someone who does not or cannot have children of their own is very narrowminded in my opinion.eye makeup
Having 4 kids makes me know that a lot of other people think are simply not true...Why is it that people that don't have kids have the most parenting advice?
Sometimes when you don't have something, it is easier to cope with it than when you have it. Non-parents sometimes deal with children better. This is the same as a person not going through death in the family have better advises for dealing with the issue than someone who is going to death in the family. It guess it is because non-parents are not burden with the responsibility so they are more free and relax to visualize the situation and thing more freely.Why is it that people that don't have kids have the most parenting advice?
It is totally annoying when they give advice to people when they don't have a true - hands on - experience. It happened to me when I already have two children and I was pregnant at that time with my third and this girl who was dating my friend kept giving me advice of what I needed to do, oh boY! Didn't she sound so professional. But the truth to the matter is - I almost laugh at her - when she was doing that because I have more experience than her.
Don't get me wrong but I think they (those who do not have children) needs to lighten up a little to those who has a kid or more.
Because they don't have kids. They think children actually listen to and do everything we say. Wrong! Even many parents get it wrong sometimes. Most people without kids just don't understand that every child is different and no one can guess what they're thinking.
Because we all grow up with certain ideals that we think would be very easy to achieve if we simply put our minds to it. Plus, it is very easy to see whats wrong with a picture when you are on the outside looking in. When you are in the midst of something - like in my house where I have an energetic two year old and an infant who likes to be held all the time - it is sometimes harder to see the most logical way to solve a problem. Plus, other people's kids are sometimes very difficult to handle and I think we must tell ourselves that we would be better parents because if we didn't, the human race would probably cease to exist. Even now, I can't stand being around screaming crazy kids.
Kids have more tech. They base things on their opinion, kids may be getting more wiser these ages...
Just because people may not have kids of their own does not meant they don't have experience in raising or guiding them. I have no children of my own but have raised children of various ages through 3 marriages and also there are many people in careers or vocations that deal with children as well. To think that just having a birth child gives one experience over someone who does not or cannot have children of their own is very narrowminded in my opinion.
What's a good quote/advice to keep in mind when dealing with people who hate on others?
i know there are girls at every school who hate people and look down upon them for stupid reasons. well there is definitely someone i have in mind who is totally fake nice to me and everyone else but always tries to outdo me in superficial stuff (purses, clothes, ...)
also, there's a group that people that i am friends with individually and my best friends love to hang out with. but as a group, they do not invite me places/ eat lunch because of my ';ditziness'; , being ';spoiled'; , and,they hate how i talk to ';non-popular'; people.
however, they accept my best friends so its hard. any advice on how to deal with this the next 2 years of high school? plus, its hard to find a completely new group of best friends :/What's a good quote/advice to keep in mind when dealing with people who hate on others?
uh..
that wasn't bad enough ya..
well..i think that just normal problem that everybody face in..high school..
just pretend there is nothing..
Life is too short to care about people like them..
what the point is..enjoy your life in the next 2 years..
well..be careful when you choose a friend..because is truly hard to find a completely new group of best friend..
but..i sure you will find it someday..
What's a good quote/advice to keep in mind when dealing with people who hate on others?
your situation is the perfect example of ';you can't please everybody.'; don't worry about it.
besides, do you honestly want to be friends with people who are so shallow? laugh it off. in the end, you'll earn the respect of the entire school and not just a group of haters.
';The Golden Rule'; Treat others as you want to b treated. I suggest u dont keep that rule to urself and actually share it with those that u hang out with that actually hate on others maybe they will realize how immature they are and will c that they woudlnt want to b treated just as their treatin others.
There is a quote that goes ';You never have to worry about what you said if you always tell the truth';. I think part of this means being true to yourself. So, be true to yourself and don't worry about what others think.
Love me or hate me it's still an obsession.
';喂f p褦opl褦 w伪nt to h伪t褦 褔ou for no r褦伪son, l褦t th褦m, b褦c伪us褦 th褦喂r obv喂ousl褔 褦喂ther 喂ns褦cur褦,j褦伪lous or just s喂mpl褔 伪 b喂tch';
Think of ';Love me or hate me, either way you know my name';
also, there's a group that people that i am friends with individually and my best friends love to hang out with. but as a group, they do not invite me places/ eat lunch because of my ';ditziness'; , being ';spoiled'; , and,they hate how i talk to ';non-popular'; people.
however, they accept my best friends so its hard. any advice on how to deal with this the next 2 years of high school? plus, its hard to find a completely new group of best friends :/What's a good quote/advice to keep in mind when dealing with people who hate on others?
uh..
that wasn't bad enough ya..
well..i think that just normal problem that everybody face in..high school..
just pretend there is nothing..
Life is too short to care about people like them..
what the point is..enjoy your life in the next 2 years..
well..be careful when you choose a friend..because is truly hard to find a completely new group of best friend..
but..i sure you will find it someday..
What's a good quote/advice to keep in mind when dealing with people who hate on others?
your situation is the perfect example of ';you can't please everybody.'; don't worry about it.
besides, do you honestly want to be friends with people who are so shallow? laugh it off. in the end, you'll earn the respect of the entire school and not just a group of haters.
';The Golden Rule'; Treat others as you want to b treated. I suggest u dont keep that rule to urself and actually share it with those that u hang out with that actually hate on others maybe they will realize how immature they are and will c that they woudlnt want to b treated just as their treatin others.
There is a quote that goes ';You never have to worry about what you said if you always tell the truth';. I think part of this means being true to yourself. So, be true to yourself and don't worry about what others think.
Love me or hate me it's still an obsession.
';喂f p褦opl褦 w伪nt to h伪t褦 褔ou for no r褦伪son, l褦t th褦m, b褦c伪us褦 th褦喂r obv喂ousl褔 褦喂ther 喂ns褦cur褦,j褦伪lous or just s喂mpl褔 伪 b喂tch';
Think of ';Love me or hate me, either way you know my name';
Is the lack of affordable health insurance so bad people have to come on yahoo for advice?
i'm very concerned about the people who come on here for medical advice. some of it is very general, but some of the stuff here should be checked out by a doctor.
should yahoo remove this section? i think it's a bit dangerous for people to rely on laymans for medical advice. last time i checked you had 7 years of school to deal with. not to mention the people that have been to the doctors and still come here and ask questions. it's like, why did you even go to the doctors. to me, this seems a bit nuts. or is it just me?Is the lack of affordable health insurance so bad people have to come on yahoo for advice?
Generally speaking, I don't think it's a lack of medical insurance that makes people seek advice here. I think that people seek out a sense of community. They want reassurance that they're not the only ones who are experiencing whatever it is that they might have. In addition, a lot of times people feel more comfortable asking certain embarrassing health questions with the anonymity of the internet. They don't realize that as health professionals (I'm an RN in an ED), we've pretty much heard it all.
I don't think that this section should be censored, but I do think that there should be a big warning as a reminder that information gleaned from Answers Yahoo should not be a substitute for true medical advice from an actual MD.
I answer a lot of questions in the health section. You are right in that I have seen potentially dangerous misinformation. I try to point out any fallacies in other people's answers. However, I'm not a doctor and I would never dare diagnose anyone. When I answer questions, I look up my answers from reliable sources, and I always, always add ';you need to be seen by a doctor';, or some variation of that. I also tell them that without knowing their medical history and seeing them, it is impossible to know what is going unless they're seen by an MD. I do give suggestions, but I never diagnose. Finally, one of the things I love most about being a nurse is the opportunity to do patient teaching in a manner that the layperson can understand, and this website is a forum for that. I have found that few doctors and RNs spend the time to really teach their patients about their illnesses, medications etc.Is the lack of affordable health insurance so bad people have to come on yahoo for advice?
i'm glad yahoo has this section. at least some people are trying to get help weithor misguided or not. i am not a doctor, but if it sounds just bad or plain wrong i always tell people to go to the hospital or their docs. and so do the majority of docs and non doctors alike.
Medical care in America is prohibitive expensive, so much so that it is the main reason that we, as a nation, are now hopelessly in debt. Our medical profiteers are solely to blame, for if spending for medical care in America were relatively the same as other advanced countries, we would be in good financial condition. Therefore, it is very important that we can get medical advise via this forum; otherwise, tens of millions of us would get no medical advise at all. Even If we had enough money to see a doctor, we'd not have enough left to buy medicines. No wonder that, despite monstrous spending on medical care, we as a whole, receive less than most people in other advanced countries.
Whether this section is present or not people will come onto a forum and ask questions that they should be asking of professions - in many areas.
It is shocking to see how many people request medical information - and get it - from people who are guessing, or passing along home remedies or superstitions practices that can kill as fast as not.
Wherein two people answering your questions are medically trained, the majority of people are not and it is purely a waste of precious time to expect the uninformed to assist when they cannot physically see you are understand the condition of your body with visual and instrumental investigation and testing.
It is not necessarily a result of insurance or lack of it. It is the myth that all problems can be solved by information floating around on the web.
Im a doctor, Im on call so sitting here I answer some questions just for the sociology of it all.
If the questions seemingly pose a threat to one's health, I always state to see your doctor.
Yes insurance is bad, really bad, extremely bad. Go to the ER and ask about your skin rash, thats at least 100 dollar copay for the visit. If they run a test, your in for at least 1000.
Im glad yahoo has this,im not a dr but had many health problems ,and can give advice and like helping others.And yes helth insurace is that bad its sad.I just went bancrupt last year and now afraid to go to dr because my insurace aint paying for nothing whats a person to do.Your screwed either way/Lay and hurt or get a big bill that ya cant pay.No ONE SHOULD HAVE TO SUFFER.IvE HAD SOME GOOD ADVICE ON HERE THAT HELPED ME and im greatful.Thanks.
so you think that yahoo should pull the section, because there might be idiots out there that won't go to the doctor for real medical problems. how is that yahoo's fault? next thing you know it will be a law that i have to wear a seat belt... oh wait that already happened. you know i see so many question on here about evolution. why are we so bent on stopping natural selection? also people probably would like to check and see if other people experienced the same advice or procedure from a doctor. i am so tired of people thinking that doctors are infallible. where are all the doctors working who didn't graduate top of their class? you think that because somebody went to school for 7 years makes them flawless? come back to reality and stop putting faith in the system.
No, very simply some people ask questions on yahoo because lots of people hate going to the doctors. Plus there's a category on here called STD's and people like to get a general idea of what may be wrong with them or if they have an STD they want somebody to relate to and to remain anonymous. I figure if I ask a question people on here won't be sick enough to make things up, there are people that maybe have a family member or friend with the problem or condition or have experienced it themselves. And yes, MD visits can be very pricey and sometimes people just wanna figure out if its something they can get away with without having to see a doc. I highly doubt someone would go on here asking how to perform heart surgery. And of course some ppl are hypochondriacs.
I suspected the very same thing and as a former Paramedic I have serious concerns for uninsured folk who have posted what is obviously a serious medical condition warranting professional help.
I hope we are wrong in this because a nation is only as good as its people and sick people cannot a healthy nation make.
God I hope I'm wrong.
should yahoo remove this section? i think it's a bit dangerous for people to rely on laymans for medical advice. last time i checked you had 7 years of school to deal with. not to mention the people that have been to the doctors and still come here and ask questions. it's like, why did you even go to the doctors. to me, this seems a bit nuts. or is it just me?Is the lack of affordable health insurance so bad people have to come on yahoo for advice?
Generally speaking, I don't think it's a lack of medical insurance that makes people seek advice here. I think that people seek out a sense of community. They want reassurance that they're not the only ones who are experiencing whatever it is that they might have. In addition, a lot of times people feel more comfortable asking certain embarrassing health questions with the anonymity of the internet. They don't realize that as health professionals (I'm an RN in an ED), we've pretty much heard it all.
I don't think that this section should be censored, but I do think that there should be a big warning as a reminder that information gleaned from Answers Yahoo should not be a substitute for true medical advice from an actual MD.
I answer a lot of questions in the health section. You are right in that I have seen potentially dangerous misinformation. I try to point out any fallacies in other people's answers. However, I'm not a doctor and I would never dare diagnose anyone. When I answer questions, I look up my answers from reliable sources, and I always, always add ';you need to be seen by a doctor';, or some variation of that. I also tell them that without knowing their medical history and seeing them, it is impossible to know what is going unless they're seen by an MD. I do give suggestions, but I never diagnose. Finally, one of the things I love most about being a nurse is the opportunity to do patient teaching in a manner that the layperson can understand, and this website is a forum for that. I have found that few doctors and RNs spend the time to really teach their patients about their illnesses, medications etc.Is the lack of affordable health insurance so bad people have to come on yahoo for advice?
i'm glad yahoo has this section. at least some people are trying to get help weithor misguided or not. i am not a doctor, but if it sounds just bad or plain wrong i always tell people to go to the hospital or their docs. and so do the majority of docs and non doctors alike.
Medical care in America is prohibitive expensive, so much so that it is the main reason that we, as a nation, are now hopelessly in debt. Our medical profiteers are solely to blame, for if spending for medical care in America were relatively the same as other advanced countries, we would be in good financial condition. Therefore, it is very important that we can get medical advise via this forum; otherwise, tens of millions of us would get no medical advise at all. Even If we had enough money to see a doctor, we'd not have enough left to buy medicines. No wonder that, despite monstrous spending on medical care, we as a whole, receive less than most people in other advanced countries.
Whether this section is present or not people will come onto a forum and ask questions that they should be asking of professions - in many areas.
It is shocking to see how many people request medical information - and get it - from people who are guessing, or passing along home remedies or superstitions practices that can kill as fast as not.
Wherein two people answering your questions are medically trained, the majority of people are not and it is purely a waste of precious time to expect the uninformed to assist when they cannot physically see you are understand the condition of your body with visual and instrumental investigation and testing.
It is not necessarily a result of insurance or lack of it. It is the myth that all problems can be solved by information floating around on the web.
Im a doctor, Im on call so sitting here I answer some questions just for the sociology of it all.
If the questions seemingly pose a threat to one's health, I always state to see your doctor.
Yes insurance is bad, really bad, extremely bad. Go to the ER and ask about your skin rash, thats at least 100 dollar copay for the visit. If they run a test, your in for at least 1000.
Im glad yahoo has this,im not a dr but had many health problems ,and can give advice and like helping others.And yes helth insurace is that bad its sad.I just went bancrupt last year and now afraid to go to dr because my insurace aint paying for nothing whats a person to do.Your screwed either way/Lay and hurt or get a big bill that ya cant pay.No ONE SHOULD HAVE TO SUFFER.IvE HAD SOME GOOD ADVICE ON HERE THAT HELPED ME and im greatful.Thanks.
so you think that yahoo should pull the section, because there might be idiots out there that won't go to the doctor for real medical problems. how is that yahoo's fault? next thing you know it will be a law that i have to wear a seat belt... oh wait that already happened. you know i see so many question on here about evolution. why are we so bent on stopping natural selection? also people probably would like to check and see if other people experienced the same advice or procedure from a doctor. i am so tired of people thinking that doctors are infallible. where are all the doctors working who didn't graduate top of their class? you think that because somebody went to school for 7 years makes them flawless? come back to reality and stop putting faith in the system.
No, very simply some people ask questions on yahoo because lots of people hate going to the doctors. Plus there's a category on here called STD's and people like to get a general idea of what may be wrong with them or if they have an STD they want somebody to relate to and to remain anonymous. I figure if I ask a question people on here won't be sick enough to make things up, there are people that maybe have a family member or friend with the problem or condition or have experienced it themselves. And yes, MD visits can be very pricey and sometimes people just wanna figure out if its something they can get away with without having to see a doc. I highly doubt someone would go on here asking how to perform heart surgery. And of course some ppl are hypochondriacs.
I suspected the very same thing and as a former Paramedic I have serious concerns for uninsured folk who have posted what is obviously a serious medical condition warranting professional help.
I hope we are wrong in this because a nation is only as good as its people and sick people cannot a healthy nation make.
God I hope I'm wrong.
I'm writting a novel i was wondering if people could read and give me some advice maybe and a mark out of ten?
Okay here it is, its only adraft so please no 'you have mis typos' lol. :) thank youu!
The leaves rustled as they blew around my feet. I was nine years old. Peoples screams filled the church. ';Why! Why did this happen?';. I looked down, my school socks were muddy, my legs had Goosebumps and I was shivering from the cold. My hair was wet, my school uniform torn. Within an instance, my whole world seemed to stand still. The noise's around me blurred and for a moment. The only thing I could hear was a cry, a long and fearful cry. My mothers body lay there, as i lent down and put my hand upon hers i felt she was holding something. I took it out of her clenched fist. It was some sort of ancient pendant, silver with an inscription on the back in gold.
The smell around me was something that I was unable to determine. It was a musty smell, almost like blood or rotting flesh. I could however, smell my mothers perfume, only slightly, but it felt stronger then ever because of my complete fixation on it. It made me feel uncomfortable, it made me want hide away from everything forever.
The wind roared as i put it around my neck and fastened the clasp. A tear rolled down my cheek. But only one. No more. I wrapped my arms around myself and shut my eyes. I imagined the heavens and angels and whispered ';Please, give me her back.'; I could hear sirens now, they became louder and louder, the tune thudding against my ear drum. I ran. I tripped. I blacked out.
Seven years on, I鈥檓 still getting counselling treatment for that night. The warm sun beat down on my skin through the window, the rays of warmth filled my body with heat. Today was the last day of counselling. The last day of questions of 鈥榟ow I felt鈥?or how I was 鈥榗oping鈥? Finally after today I could be normal鈥ell at least try.
I watched my counsellor Jeanette walk into the room, she was tall, scrawny with jet black hair. She wore big glasses and had a strong smell of peppermint. She sat down and put her glasses on the end of her nose, whilst flicking through some past reports of my sessions. There was the occasional sigh but apart from that the wait wasn鈥檛 too bad.
';Now Mia鈥 know what happened to you was traumatic...I can understand that. But your 15 now, you need to get along with life.';
';I didn't ask to come here did i? And I am getting on with life I鈥榣l have you know.'; She always tried to act like my mother. I was her pity victim, her gossip, her charity.
';Mia... You haven鈥檛 been to school since you were 13...maybe you should go back.';
Oh here we go. Go back? Have everyone whispering 'Oh look! there's that girl Mia, she was the daughter of that famous woman who threw herself off a church'. Or the constant harassment of teachers saying 鈥檌f I need to talk I can鈥? All I wanted to do was forget about it, not open up old wounds. Please. Save me the aggregation.
';I don鈥檛 want to go back, my income and life is fine now.'; I play with my fingers and try to not make eye contact.
';Mia, its a Saturday job, and you live with your father. A saturday job is not nearly enough income to support yourse-';
';Myself?'; I roll my eyes and sigh.
She slides me over an envelope. it鈥檚 a brownish colour with some sort tea stain on the back. I open it slowly, inside it there鈥檚 a school, a date and a time for me to attend. I felt her touch the back of my shoulder. ';Its in England, no鈥?one will have heard of you over there, you should give it a try...for your fathers sake at least.';
In my head i began to wonder why i ever had to go through what i did. After it happened, minutes after the police arrived to hide my mother from news reporters, my father arrived. I remember waking up to him calling my name. I began to think it was all a dream. I cried. He took me in his arms and whispered ';Don't be scared princess, daddy鈥檚 here.'; I looked up and said ';Is she really gone?'; My dad turns whilst the rain beats down harder upon us. ';No sweetie, mummy just had to go help the angels.';
As i get up and walk out the door, i turn around. She says softly ';Mia, its a chance. A chance for a new start. A new life.
I smile back but i don鈥檛 say thank you and i don鈥檛 say goodbye. I stand up, turn around and walk out.I'm writting a novel i was wondering if people could read and give me some advice maybe and a mark out of ten?
Really very well done.
It has some technical problems of course, but you expected that, right?
Besides, it's only an early draft.
One piece of advice though, and I'd heed it if I were you. Take out, ';I looked up and said ';Is she really gone?'; ';No sweetie, mummy just had to go help the angels.';
It's awful and so out of place in an otherwise promising piece.
I think you're probably too close at the moment to notice it's dreadful tone of over sentimentality. You must delete it.
Other than that, you appear to possess aptitude, so keep on writing, and good luck with it.
ps: Never worry about pedants wanting to correct your grammar and spelling. They are the kind of people who look at a field of poppies and only see the broken perimeter fence. You will need to learn such rules in time, of course, but they come a very distant second to skill and technique.
Steinbeck, Hemingway and many other greats couldn't ever spell to save their skins. So if such rules don't come naturally to you, don't let them slow you down.
When you're writing creatively, always, always,always, obey only the rules of your heart.I'm writting a novel i was wondering if people could read and give me some advice maybe and a mark out of ten?
If you're not ready to take criticism for spelling errors, you're not ready to write.
Wow....that's really good. I can relate, I can still remember my mothers accident from when I was 4. I had to go to psycologists and psychiatrists too. I'll give you 8/10. It's a great piece of work but I don't know what the finished product would be like. i can't relate to having a father afterwards but when a child see that kind of thing, well I stopped talking for almost 3 months. You go into shock and have trouble relating to anyone afterwards. Therefore, even if the students at school had not mentioned her mother, just seeing the mother pick them up, friends talking about there mothers, remembering things her and her mother used to do will affect her long afterwards. I still cry - its been 11 years.
I apologise unreservedly. It's not rubbish - in fact it's pretty good. However, my advice still stands - forget about self publishing. What good is a cardboard cover anyway? Be patient and learn your trade. Keep writing. Read every How to Write book in the library. Join a Writers Club so 's you'll meet other writers and hear visiting lecturers. Learn how to spell and punctuate because that'll ensure your work an editor's attention. Start small, with a Mill's and Boone or similar because any acceptance will encourage you and look good on your CV when you come to sell the Big One. Remember: Rome was not built in a day so you have to put in the time instead of going off half-****** like you suggest. No matter how talented you might be, you wouldn't sit down at a piano to write a sonata without first learning how to read music, so do your homework. Your talent is too good to waste.
The story line is ok, quite interesting and leaves you intrigued regarding what will happen next.
However the wording is a little strange in places and there are some grammatical errors.
In the first paragraph we learn that the character's hair is wet, but we don't find out until near the end of this peice of writing that it was raining in this scene when you say ';the rains beats down harder upon us.'; It's a little confusing and until the end I though there had been some sort of flood.
Also we have no idea that the character is a female until the counseller says ';Mia';!! Maybe you could say, ';the rain had made my long brown hair knotted and soggy,'; or something along those lines.
And why is the smell ';almost like rotting flesh?'; The Mother's body wouldn't have decomposed that quickly.
It says Mia ';ran'; and ';blacked out.'; Why did she black out from merely tripping over?
I really like the description of the counseller, and when she said ';you need to get along with life'; I thought it was a little weird and unproffessional until you said she was like a Mother figure. Then it made sense.
I like it, it interests me (but goosebumps doesn't have a capital letter).
One strange thing- the accident happened when she was 9. She leaves school 4 years later. Why does she suddenly leave after 4 years?
WOW !
i love the end !!
this is soooooo good !!!
KEEP WRITING !!
=]
hope it helped !!
xoxo kathy
I cried
It made me cry [though a lot of things make me cry]
Keep writing
When your done send it to me please
It's hard to find good things to read now a days
I would so read this.
I love the ending
I want to know if she goes to England
So don't stop.
i like it
i think you do ahev the stuff needed to be a writer:)
dont worry about spelling mistakes just correct them later when you've finished
i like the last sentence- ' i smile back but i don鈥檛 say thank you and i don鈥檛 say goodbye. I stand up, turn around and walk out.'
the only thing i didnt like was when you said ' seven years on'
it seemed to stop the flow of the story, if you get me -
you could say that was seven yeasr ago, or change it so that she was just thinkngi about it or something
im sorry i can explain better than that
interesting story - it got my attention :)
I agree with stallionscripture, you're definitely not able to call yourself a writer if you post your story up on a website and then say that you don't want people correcting mistakes. WTH!? Any self-respecting writer wants people to correct their errors, if people take the time to do so, it's a favour for most of us.
I also find it slightly worrying that you're 'writting' a novel.
Please do yourself a favour and go eat a spellchecker.
The first part was a bit shaky. But it got better as you went on, when it showed her as a 15 year old. I'd say 6 or 7 out of ten.
It's good, and you're getting there.
The only criticism i'd make is that you need to have more of a realistic grasp on your character. One tear rolling down a cheek doesn't happen, and it is a novice sign.
Also, you seem to jump between tenses a lot.
Though, this is really quite a good piece, much better than most things i've read on here. Keep at it, 8/10 =)
The leaves rustled as they blew around my feet. I was nine years old. Peoples screams filled the church. ';Why! Why did this happen?';. I looked down, my school socks were muddy, my legs had Goosebumps and I was shivering from the cold. My hair was wet, my school uniform torn. Within an instance, my whole world seemed to stand still. The noise's around me blurred and for a moment. The only thing I could hear was a cry, a long and fearful cry. My mothers body lay there, as i lent down and put my hand upon hers i felt she was holding something. I took it out of her clenched fist. It was some sort of ancient pendant, silver with an inscription on the back in gold.
The smell around me was something that I was unable to determine. It was a musty smell, almost like blood or rotting flesh. I could however, smell my mothers perfume, only slightly, but it felt stronger then ever because of my complete fixation on it. It made me feel uncomfortable, it made me want hide away from everything forever.
The wind roared as i put it around my neck and fastened the clasp. A tear rolled down my cheek. But only one. No more. I wrapped my arms around myself and shut my eyes. I imagined the heavens and angels and whispered ';Please, give me her back.'; I could hear sirens now, they became louder and louder, the tune thudding against my ear drum. I ran. I tripped. I blacked out.
Seven years on, I鈥檓 still getting counselling treatment for that night. The warm sun beat down on my skin through the window, the rays of warmth filled my body with heat. Today was the last day of counselling. The last day of questions of 鈥榟ow I felt鈥?or how I was 鈥榗oping鈥? Finally after today I could be normal鈥ell at least try.
I watched my counsellor Jeanette walk into the room, she was tall, scrawny with jet black hair. She wore big glasses and had a strong smell of peppermint. She sat down and put her glasses on the end of her nose, whilst flicking through some past reports of my sessions. There was the occasional sigh but apart from that the wait wasn鈥檛 too bad.
';Now Mia鈥 know what happened to you was traumatic...I can understand that. But your 15 now, you need to get along with life.';
';I didn't ask to come here did i? And I am getting on with life I鈥榣l have you know.'; She always tried to act like my mother. I was her pity victim, her gossip, her charity.
';Mia... You haven鈥檛 been to school since you were 13...maybe you should go back.';
Oh here we go. Go back? Have everyone whispering 'Oh look! there's that girl Mia, she was the daughter of that famous woman who threw herself off a church'. Or the constant harassment of teachers saying 鈥檌f I need to talk I can鈥? All I wanted to do was forget about it, not open up old wounds. Please. Save me the aggregation.
';I don鈥檛 want to go back, my income and life is fine now.'; I play with my fingers and try to not make eye contact.
';Mia, its a Saturday job, and you live with your father. A saturday job is not nearly enough income to support yourse-';
';Myself?'; I roll my eyes and sigh.
She slides me over an envelope. it鈥檚 a brownish colour with some sort tea stain on the back. I open it slowly, inside it there鈥檚 a school, a date and a time for me to attend. I felt her touch the back of my shoulder. ';Its in England, no鈥?one will have heard of you over there, you should give it a try...for your fathers sake at least.';
In my head i began to wonder why i ever had to go through what i did. After it happened, minutes after the police arrived to hide my mother from news reporters, my father arrived. I remember waking up to him calling my name. I began to think it was all a dream. I cried. He took me in his arms and whispered ';Don't be scared princess, daddy鈥檚 here.'; I looked up and said ';Is she really gone?'; My dad turns whilst the rain beats down harder upon us. ';No sweetie, mummy just had to go help the angels.';
As i get up and walk out the door, i turn around. She says softly ';Mia, its a chance. A chance for a new start. A new life.
I smile back but i don鈥檛 say thank you and i don鈥檛 say goodbye. I stand up, turn around and walk out.I'm writting a novel i was wondering if people could read and give me some advice maybe and a mark out of ten?
Really very well done.
It has some technical problems of course, but you expected that, right?
Besides, it's only an early draft.
One piece of advice though, and I'd heed it if I were you. Take out, ';I looked up and said ';Is she really gone?'; ';No sweetie, mummy just had to go help the angels.';
It's awful and so out of place in an otherwise promising piece.
I think you're probably too close at the moment to notice it's dreadful tone of over sentimentality. You must delete it.
Other than that, you appear to possess aptitude, so keep on writing, and good luck with it.
ps: Never worry about pedants wanting to correct your grammar and spelling. They are the kind of people who look at a field of poppies and only see the broken perimeter fence. You will need to learn such rules in time, of course, but they come a very distant second to skill and technique.
Steinbeck, Hemingway and many other greats couldn't ever spell to save their skins. So if such rules don't come naturally to you, don't let them slow you down.
When you're writing creatively, always, always,always, obey only the rules of your heart.I'm writting a novel i was wondering if people could read and give me some advice maybe and a mark out of ten?
If you're not ready to take criticism for spelling errors, you're not ready to write.
Wow....that's really good. I can relate, I can still remember my mothers accident from when I was 4. I had to go to psycologists and psychiatrists too. I'll give you 8/10. It's a great piece of work but I don't know what the finished product would be like. i can't relate to having a father afterwards but when a child see that kind of thing, well I stopped talking for almost 3 months. You go into shock and have trouble relating to anyone afterwards. Therefore, even if the students at school had not mentioned her mother, just seeing the mother pick them up, friends talking about there mothers, remembering things her and her mother used to do will affect her long afterwards. I still cry - its been 11 years.
I apologise unreservedly. It's not rubbish - in fact it's pretty good. However, my advice still stands - forget about self publishing. What good is a cardboard cover anyway? Be patient and learn your trade. Keep writing. Read every How to Write book in the library. Join a Writers Club so 's you'll meet other writers and hear visiting lecturers. Learn how to spell and punctuate because that'll ensure your work an editor's attention. Start small, with a Mill's and Boone or similar because any acceptance will encourage you and look good on your CV when you come to sell the Big One. Remember: Rome was not built in a day so you have to put in the time instead of going off half-****** like you suggest. No matter how talented you might be, you wouldn't sit down at a piano to write a sonata without first learning how to read music, so do your homework. Your talent is too good to waste.
The story line is ok, quite interesting and leaves you intrigued regarding what will happen next.
However the wording is a little strange in places and there are some grammatical errors.
In the first paragraph we learn that the character's hair is wet, but we don't find out until near the end of this peice of writing that it was raining in this scene when you say ';the rains beats down harder upon us.'; It's a little confusing and until the end I though there had been some sort of flood.
Also we have no idea that the character is a female until the counseller says ';Mia';!! Maybe you could say, ';the rain had made my long brown hair knotted and soggy,'; or something along those lines.
And why is the smell ';almost like rotting flesh?'; The Mother's body wouldn't have decomposed that quickly.
It says Mia ';ran'; and ';blacked out.'; Why did she black out from merely tripping over?
I really like the description of the counseller, and when she said ';you need to get along with life'; I thought it was a little weird and unproffessional until you said she was like a Mother figure. Then it made sense.
I like it, it interests me (but goosebumps doesn't have a capital letter).
One strange thing- the accident happened when she was 9. She leaves school 4 years later. Why does she suddenly leave after 4 years?
WOW !
i love the end !!
this is soooooo good !!!
KEEP WRITING !!
=]
hope it helped !!
xoxo kathy
I cried
It made me cry [though a lot of things make me cry]
Keep writing
When your done send it to me please
It's hard to find good things to read now a days
I would so read this.
I love the ending
I want to know if she goes to England
So don't stop.
i like it
i think you do ahev the stuff needed to be a writer:)
dont worry about spelling mistakes just correct them later when you've finished
i like the last sentence- ' i smile back but i don鈥檛 say thank you and i don鈥檛 say goodbye. I stand up, turn around and walk out.'
the only thing i didnt like was when you said ' seven years on'
it seemed to stop the flow of the story, if you get me -
you could say that was seven yeasr ago, or change it so that she was just thinkngi about it or something
im sorry i can explain better than that
interesting story - it got my attention :)
I agree with stallionscripture, you're definitely not able to call yourself a writer if you post your story up on a website and then say that you don't want people correcting mistakes. WTH!? Any self-respecting writer wants people to correct their errors, if people take the time to do so, it's a favour for most of us.
I also find it slightly worrying that you're 'writting' a novel.
Please do yourself a favour and go eat a spellchecker.
The first part was a bit shaky. But it got better as you went on, when it showed her as a 15 year old. I'd say 6 or 7 out of ten.
It's good, and you're getting there.
The only criticism i'd make is that you need to have more of a realistic grasp on your character. One tear rolling down a cheek doesn't happen, and it is a novice sign.
Also, you seem to jump between tenses a lot.
Though, this is really quite a good piece, much better than most things i've read on here. Keep at it, 8/10 =)
What would be some good advice for writing intro e-mails when meeting people on online dating sites?
I find it really hard to write introductory e-mails on an internet dating site.
I try to keep them brief and friendly, and I also try to end with an icebreaker type question... though I try to reword that so it's not so impersonal, ie. ';If you could see anyone in concert tonight, who would it be?'; rather than ';What kind of music do you like?';
Generally, I either get terse responses, with no follow up question to keep the conversation going, or no answer at all. I did have someone respond to one saying, basically, ';Wtf? Why would you ask me that?'; But I thought that was obvious... something about his profile caught my eye, and I was trying to start a conversation.
Any help would be appreciated, thanks.What would be some good advice for writing intro e-mails when meeting people on online dating sites?
Then dont go on those sitesWhat would be some good advice for writing intro e-mails when meeting people on online dating sites?
Rule number one..don't give your life story in the first e-mail, the person will think you got issues. A nice compliment to start :)
----------------------------Cool Sites ---------------------
http://www.OneRush.com - Urban Social Network, Extreme Dating
http://www.MeJab.com is a place for people to vent.
Don't say anything that some one else would say. Be original and to the point. You need to attract their attention right away. It is really up to you to think of what you think would work best. Try different things until you find intro emails that work.
I try to keep them brief and friendly, and I also try to end with an icebreaker type question... though I try to reword that so it's not so impersonal, ie. ';If you could see anyone in concert tonight, who would it be?'; rather than ';What kind of music do you like?';
Generally, I either get terse responses, with no follow up question to keep the conversation going, or no answer at all. I did have someone respond to one saying, basically, ';Wtf? Why would you ask me that?'; But I thought that was obvious... something about his profile caught my eye, and I was trying to start a conversation.
Any help would be appreciated, thanks.What would be some good advice for writing intro e-mails when meeting people on online dating sites?
Then dont go on those sitesWhat would be some good advice for writing intro e-mails when meeting people on online dating sites?
Rule number one..don't give your life story in the first e-mail, the person will think you got issues. A nice compliment to start :)
----------------------------Cool Sites ---------------------
http://www.OneRush.com - Urban Social Network, Extreme Dating
http://www.MeJab.com is a place for people to vent.
Don't say anything that some one else would say. Be original and to the point. You need to attract their attention right away. It is really up to you to think of what you think would work best. Try different things until you find intro emails that work.
People use their title;cardiology,surgean,exper鈥?to give advice are they liable for law suit.?
People give advice if some things go wrong are they liable for what they say if they use their title to let people beleive them .People use their title;cardiology,surgean,exper鈥?to give advice are they liable for law suit.?
No and NO!People use their title;cardiology,surgean,exper鈥?to give advice are they liable for law suit.?
Of course not -- first of all, they are anonymous on here, so you can't tell if they are who they say they are, and you can't find them to sue them. Also, anyone on here should know to talk to a REAL professional before taking any serious advice from this site!
No, Stop sueing people. You're ruining this country.
No and NO!People use their title;cardiology,surgean,exper鈥?to give advice are they liable for law suit.?
Of course not -- first of all, they are anonymous on here, so you can't tell if they are who they say they are, and you can't find them to sue them. Also, anyone on here should know to talk to a REAL professional before taking any serious advice from this site!
No, Stop sueing people. You're ruining this country.
Hey people i a 16 and 6'7 and i just need some advice?
wel i just got new classes today and well there is this girl in my 2nd block that i think i kinda cute i wanted to talk to her but i could not really think of anything to say i just need some help on getting her to notice me i know i can say hi but i also want to get to know her better please helpHey people i a 16 and 6'7 and i just need some advice?
become her frined then u will get to know her better and then if u see she interested tell her the way u feelHey people i a 16 and 6'7 and i just need some advice?
Try asking her for help with some school work and go on from there. A word of advice, ';JUST GO FOR IT';. I tell you this from experience. If you dont seize the moment you will loose your chance and regret it. I had that happen to me and
I later found out the girl I liked, Liked me back but I didnt take a chance and it was too late because she had a boyfriend already. So: JUST DO IT. :-D
just ask her if she's ever heard the phrase ';you are what you eat'; and if she says yes just say well i plan to be you by the end of the day.
Next time your passing her smile and say hello and ask her if shes not in to big of a hurry how shes doing and strike up something to talk about .. take it slow, and then sooner or latter before you know it you will be asking her out.
flirt with her with your eyes and keep eye contact with her and when she looks at you smile. Then after you do that for a couple of days just be yourseld and go up to her and talk to her. you never know she might feel the same way about you. good luck hun
Well what i say I know is kinda hard, But just walk up and strike up convorsation! Be a friend and move from there. The best relationships are bult on frindships! Be confident, know she will talk to you! Talk to the people around her too.
your 6'7';....? your lucky..just say hi..for some odd reason most girls like tall guys ...im short or average i guess and been turned down just because i wasn't tall enough so your be fine and probably do better than most people...your lucky..
well what i would do is just go up to her if you taking about school then say you dint know were a class is can you help me.find the room...are if you just mean in general if you notice she has an i-pod are something that will make a discussion just say something like i see you have an i pod what music you into and talk that...hope this helps
Your 6 ft. 7...she notices you. Ask her out. Ask her friends some of the things she likes and then do them for her.eye makeup
become her frined then u will get to know her better and then if u see she interested tell her the way u feelHey people i a 16 and 6'7 and i just need some advice?
Try asking her for help with some school work and go on from there. A word of advice, ';JUST GO FOR IT';. I tell you this from experience. If you dont seize the moment you will loose your chance and regret it. I had that happen to me and
I later found out the girl I liked, Liked me back but I didnt take a chance and it was too late because she had a boyfriend already. So: JUST DO IT. :-D
just ask her if she's ever heard the phrase ';you are what you eat'; and if she says yes just say well i plan to be you by the end of the day.
Next time your passing her smile and say hello and ask her if shes not in to big of a hurry how shes doing and strike up something to talk about .. take it slow, and then sooner or latter before you know it you will be asking her out.
flirt with her with your eyes and keep eye contact with her and when she looks at you smile. Then after you do that for a couple of days just be yourseld and go up to her and talk to her. you never know she might feel the same way about you. good luck hun
Well what i say I know is kinda hard, But just walk up and strike up convorsation! Be a friend and move from there. The best relationships are bult on frindships! Be confident, know she will talk to you! Talk to the people around her too.
your 6'7';....? your lucky..just say hi..for some odd reason most girls like tall guys ...im short or average i guess and been turned down just because i wasn't tall enough so your be fine and probably do better than most people...your lucky..
well what i would do is just go up to her if you taking about school then say you dint know were a class is can you help me.find the room...are if you just mean in general if you notice she has an i-pod are something that will make a discussion just say something like i see you have an i pod what music you into and talk that...hope this helps
Your 6 ft. 7...she notices you. Ask her out. Ask her friends some of the things she likes and then do them for her.
I would like info about LDN used for people with MS (Multiple Sclerosis). Experiences, results, advice...?
My mother has had MS for many years. The last 3-4 years she has got worst due to her marriage breaking down. Now she's stable but still in a bad state. Can anyone please tell me about LDN - it's the 1st time I've heard about it. How is it taken and would it help??? Any personal info would be appreciated. I've printed enough info about it from the internet but want to hear personal experiences if it's worth trying...I would like info about LDN used for people with MS (Multiple Sclerosis). Experiences, results, advice...?
My MS Experience
My name is William (Bill) Roberts; I am 58 years old, was diagnosed with RRMS in 1998, and upgraded to Secondary Progressive in 2002. My chief symptoms are (were) extreme mixed sleep apnea, COPD, inability to walk, total deafness in my left ear, and inability to concentrate for any period of time. I have been treated with Avonex, Copaxone, and Rebif of the ABCR drugs, chemotherapy (Cytoxan, plasma exchange, as well as many, many sessions of IV steroids (Solumedrol). As of June, 2005, I was on oxygen 24/7, wheelchair bound, having a flair of my MS on an average of once a month, and doctors had told me that my breathing difficulties, caused by the MS, would ultimately result in my demise. I had also ballooned in weight to 289 pounds. Two of the top neurologists in Birmingham consulted and agreed that, while continuing on Rebif, I should begin taking a week of IV steroids every three months, regardless of my condition. I did not feel that the steroids were offering enough positive results any longer, and I did not want to take any more. I asked if they would mind my getting an alternate opinion from another neurologist. They agreed.
My new neurologist reran all of the standard MS tests, including MRIs. After studying the results, she suggested I stay on the Rebif and see what the next two months showed with regard to flares or episodes, then to probably go back on chemotherapy. I asked her, at that time, if she would prescribe a drug LDN (Low Dose Naltrexone), for me. I had read a great deal about it and talked to a number of MS sufferers who had improved with the use of LDN, a medication that is FDA approved as a treatment for Heroin addiction and alcoholism. She said she had never prescribed it but had also read a lot about it. She agreed to prescribe it.
I began, around the first of July, 2005, with 1.5 Mg per day for the first week, then increased to 3.0 Mg from then, on. I also stopped taking the Rebif at that time. While I did not notice any improvement for the first three months, I also had NO flares either. Then, I began to notice that my breathing was improving- I could take time off from the oxygen for extended periods of time; the strength in my legs and arms was improving- I began to be able to take short walks with a walker, then longer walks, then changed to a cane, then actually walked to the bathroom without assistance! My sleep began to improve, as well. Improvement continued and actually increased, so that when I went for my six month check-up with my neurologist, I did not even take my cane, and I blew away my neurologist by acing all the tests. I am now driving again after four years, walking totally without assistance, and have dropped my weight down to 232 pounds. I hope to get back to my normal weight of 195 by year's end. In April of 2006, after my wife was diagnosed as a borderline diabetic, I walked in a “Walk For Diabetes.” I walked just over 21/2 miles, with no assistance, beginning with the starting group and finishing with them, something else I never thought I would be able to do again. I spent the next summer building a fence in our back yard and re-landscaping it.
LDN is NOT a cure for MS. I still have it, and I still have issues with it that I have to deal with everyday, but I attribute my miraculous improvement to LDN, attitude, faith, and my new neurologist's willingness to prescribe LDN for me. It is allowing me to do things I never thought I would be able to do again, and if it were to become an approved treatment for MS it could not only possibly do the same for others that it has done for me, but it could also possibly free up millions of dollars that could be used to find the cause of diseases such as MS. Finding the cause for a disease brings researchwith the first group out and finishing with the first group in! I was both pleased and proud to accomplish ers MUCH closer to finding a true cure.
Pharmaceutical companies need to be able to make a profit off of the drugs they develop through their research. The cost of such research is very high, and LDN, a very inexpensive medication, will not produce the profits those companies need in order to warrant their doing the trials to get it approved for MS, as well as ALS, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, AIDS, Crohn’s, many types of cancer, child autism, and even Rheumatoid arthritis. .
Websites- http://www.lowdosenaltrexone.org and http://www.ldners.org
Thank you. Sincerely,
BillI would like info about LDN used for people with MS (Multiple Sclerosis). Experiences, results, advice...?
I have been on LDN for 2 years and 6 months for SPMS and TM and doing great. Go to www.ldninfo.org and http://www.freewebs.com/crysta…
I also keep an LDN Dr list of Dr's that prescribe LDN in the USA and Overseas so email me if you need a Dr.
LDN (Low Dose Naltrexone) must be prescribed by a doctor or nurse practitioner and must then be prepared by a compounding pharmacy. It's inexpensive and only costs me around $25 a month. Most people start out at 3 mg. and then go up to 4.5 mg. It is taken at night. LDN followers say it must be taken after 11 p.m., I think it is. I emailed a researcher who told me it didn't matter when it was taken. It can cause sleep disturbances so I took it in the morning for months. Finally I switched to bedtime.
I really do believe LDN helped me. The researcher I emailed told me to try LDN for two months and if it didn't help to go off it and get on one of the approved MS treatments. I think two months is too short though. I think a person should give it at least 6 months to a year to see if it makes a difference. That is just my opinion though.
Is your mother on any of the disease modifying drugs commonly called the CRAB-T's? That's Copaxone, Rebif, Avonex, Beteseron and Tysabri. LDN can be taken with Copaxone but not with the others.
Does your mother have access to the internet? I would like to invite both of you to join my group MSersLife on Yahoo Groups. The link is below. There are others on my group who are currently using LDN and you could get their personal experiences.
I think it's wonderful that you are trying to help your mother!
hugs)))
Sharon
I have MS but never took LDN. But, I know someone who did and she swore never to take a CRAB. So several years later she got worse and had to relent and go to Copaxone. It works for some, not others, as do many meds. Steroids makes me feel worse, not better, for instance. MS is different for everyone... makes it worse, maybe?
Hopefully you'll get some personal experiences!
Good luck.
Kim
I started taking LDN last March, and after about a week of taking it, my energy levels went back to normal. I was able to handle a full day of activity. Essentially it gave me my life back. I have not had an exacerbation since 2002. Prior to this I took Copaxone and I had symptoms that changed every few months. While they were minor, they were very annoying. I now only have minor pins and needles in my arms and legs. LDN must be taken at night in between 10 PM and midnight at a dose of 4.5 milligrams. You must order it from a pharmacy that does compounding since it comes in high doses. I would also recommend ordering it from a pharmacy that regularly compounds
LDN.. All this info is available on the net. I strongly suggest you read what you printed from the internet. I have no idea if LDN would help your mother or not and nobody could tell you that. Everybody has a different experience with MS and as consequence we all respond differently to the various drugs on the market. LDN is not approved by the FDA for MS and as a consequence you may find her neurologist will not prescribe it. And you need to find out if it is compatible with the drugs she is on. Also, if the symptoms your Mother exhibits are due to permanent nerve damage LDN will not help.
Hi Drou
After I heard about the results from OS I went to my wonderful MS Savvy GP (John Kondopoulos, Kilby Heights Medical Centre East Kew VIC) brandishing a printout from the Internet article on LDN, requesting he prescribe me some which he did. I have taken some every day since then but I have to report disappointment, it has made no difference to me.
That's a shame because I really wanted it to work. It is a cheap med because the dose suggested is far smaller (2-3 mg) than the 50 mg tabs provided by the pharmacist so one scrip will last me forever.
It should be noted that breaking the 50 mg into c. 3 mg bits was impossible for me (my fingers are too uncoordinated for fine dexterity now so my husband Ian has to break them up for me.
Still although LDN has been reported to help some with the MonSter, its effectiveness is idiosyncratic (doesn't work for every one) so the only way to assess for yourself is try it. Using LDN is safe and cheap enough to try. If your doctor will prescribe it you only need to fill one scrip to test it for yourself (about $50.00 as I recall, maybe more if you talk your chemist into breaking it up for you).
That's my 5c worth.
I am my own crash test dummy, provided it sounds credible, is deemed safe and it won't break the bank...
My MS Experience
My name is William (Bill) Roberts; I am 58 years old, was diagnosed with RRMS in 1998, and upgraded to Secondary Progressive in 2002. My chief symptoms are (were) extreme mixed sleep apnea, COPD, inability to walk, total deafness in my left ear, and inability to concentrate for any period of time. I have been treated with Avonex, Copaxone, and Rebif of the ABCR drugs, chemotherapy (Cytoxan, plasma exchange, as well as many, many sessions of IV steroids (Solumedrol). As of June, 2005, I was on oxygen 24/7, wheelchair bound, having a flair of my MS on an average of once a month, and doctors had told me that my breathing difficulties, caused by the MS, would ultimately result in my demise. I had also ballooned in weight to 289 pounds. Two of the top neurologists in Birmingham consulted and agreed that, while continuing on Rebif, I should begin taking a week of IV steroids every three months, regardless of my condition. I did not feel that the steroids were offering enough positive results any longer, and I did not want to take any more. I asked if they would mind my getting an alternate opinion from another neurologist. They agreed.
My new neurologist reran all of the standard MS tests, including MRIs. After studying the results, she suggested I stay on the Rebif and see what the next two months showed with regard to flares or episodes, then to probably go back on chemotherapy. I asked her, at that time, if she would prescribe a drug LDN (Low Dose Naltrexone), for me. I had read a great deal about it and talked to a number of MS sufferers who had improved with the use of LDN, a medication that is FDA approved as a treatment for Heroin addiction and alcoholism. She said she had never prescribed it but had also read a lot about it. She agreed to prescribe it.
I began, around the first of July, 2005, with 1.5 Mg per day for the first week, then increased to 3.0 Mg from then, on. I also stopped taking the Rebif at that time. While I did not notice any improvement for the first three months, I also had NO flares either. Then, I began to notice that my breathing was improving- I could take time off from the oxygen for extended periods of time; the strength in my legs and arms was improving- I began to be able to take short walks with a walker, then longer walks, then changed to a cane, then actually walked to the bathroom without assistance! My sleep began to improve, as well. Improvement continued and actually increased, so that when I went for my six month check-up with my neurologist, I did not even take my cane, and I blew away my neurologist by acing all the tests. I am now driving again after four years, walking totally without assistance, and have dropped my weight down to 232 pounds. I hope to get back to my normal weight of 195 by year's end. In April of 2006, after my wife was diagnosed as a borderline diabetic, I walked in a “Walk For Diabetes.” I walked just over 21/2 miles, with no assistance, beginning with the starting group and finishing with them, something else I never thought I would be able to do again. I spent the next summer building a fence in our back yard and re-landscaping it.
LDN is NOT a cure for MS. I still have it, and I still have issues with it that I have to deal with everyday, but I attribute my miraculous improvement to LDN, attitude, faith, and my new neurologist's willingness to prescribe LDN for me. It is allowing me to do things I never thought I would be able to do again, and if it were to become an approved treatment for MS it could not only possibly do the same for others that it has done for me, but it could also possibly free up millions of dollars that could be used to find the cause of diseases such as MS. Finding the cause for a disease brings researchwith the first group out and finishing with the first group in! I was both pleased and proud to accomplish ers MUCH closer to finding a true cure.
Pharmaceutical companies need to be able to make a profit off of the drugs they develop through their research. The cost of such research is very high, and LDN, a very inexpensive medication, will not produce the profits those companies need in order to warrant their doing the trials to get it approved for MS, as well as ALS, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, AIDS, Crohn’s, many types of cancer, child autism, and even Rheumatoid arthritis. .
Websites- http://www.lowdosenaltrexone.org and http://www.ldners.org
Thank you. Sincerely,
BillI would like info about LDN used for people with MS (Multiple Sclerosis). Experiences, results, advice...?
I have been on LDN for 2 years and 6 months for SPMS and TM and doing great. Go to www.ldninfo.org and http://www.freewebs.com/crysta…
I also keep an LDN Dr list of Dr's that prescribe LDN in the USA and Overseas so email me if you need a Dr.
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LDN (Low Dose Naltrexone) must be prescribed by a doctor or nurse practitioner and must then be prepared by a compounding pharmacy. It's inexpensive and only costs me around $25 a month. Most people start out at 3 mg. and then go up to 4.5 mg. It is taken at night. LDN followers say it must be taken after 11 p.m., I think it is. I emailed a researcher who told me it didn't matter when it was taken. It can cause sleep disturbances so I took it in the morning for months. Finally I switched to bedtime.
I really do believe LDN helped me. The researcher I emailed told me to try LDN for two months and if it didn't help to go off it and get on one of the approved MS treatments. I think two months is too short though. I think a person should give it at least 6 months to a year to see if it makes a difference. That is just my opinion though.
Is your mother on any of the disease modifying drugs commonly called the CRAB-T's? That's Copaxone, Rebif, Avonex, Beteseron and Tysabri. LDN can be taken with Copaxone but not with the others.
Does your mother have access to the internet? I would like to invite both of you to join my group MSersLife on Yahoo Groups. The link is below. There are others on my group who are currently using LDN and you could get their personal experiences.
I think it's wonderful that you are trying to help your mother!
hugs)))
Sharon
I have MS but never took LDN. But, I know someone who did and she swore never to take a CRAB. So several years later she got worse and had to relent and go to Copaxone. It works for some, not others, as do many meds. Steroids makes me feel worse, not better, for instance. MS is different for everyone... makes it worse, maybe?
Hopefully you'll get some personal experiences!
Good luck.
Kim
I started taking LDN last March, and after about a week of taking it, my energy levels went back to normal. I was able to handle a full day of activity. Essentially it gave me my life back. I have not had an exacerbation since 2002. Prior to this I took Copaxone and I had symptoms that changed every few months. While they were minor, they were very annoying. I now only have minor pins and needles in my arms and legs. LDN must be taken at night in between 10 PM and midnight at a dose of 4.5 milligrams. You must order it from a pharmacy that does compounding since it comes in high doses. I would also recommend ordering it from a pharmacy that regularly compounds
LDN.. All this info is available on the net. I strongly suggest you read what you printed from the internet. I have no idea if LDN would help your mother or not and nobody could tell you that. Everybody has a different experience with MS and as consequence we all respond differently to the various drugs on the market. LDN is not approved by the FDA for MS and as a consequence you may find her neurologist will not prescribe it. And you need to find out if it is compatible with the drugs she is on. Also, if the symptoms your Mother exhibits are due to permanent nerve damage LDN will not help.
Hi Drou
After I heard about the results from OS I went to my wonderful MS Savvy GP (John Kondopoulos, Kilby Heights Medical Centre East Kew VIC) brandishing a printout from the Internet article on LDN, requesting he prescribe me some which he did. I have taken some every day since then but I have to report disappointment, it has made no difference to me.
That's a shame because I really wanted it to work. It is a cheap med because the dose suggested is far smaller (2-3 mg) than the 50 mg tabs provided by the pharmacist so one scrip will last me forever.
It should be noted that breaking the 50 mg into c. 3 mg bits was impossible for me (my fingers are too uncoordinated for fine dexterity now so my husband Ian has to break them up for me.
Still although LDN has been reported to help some with the MonSter, its effectiveness is idiosyncratic (doesn't work for every one) so the only way to assess for yourself is try it. Using LDN is safe and cheap enough to try. If your doctor will prescribe it you only need to fill one scrip to test it for yourself (about $50.00 as I recall, maybe more if you talk your chemist into breaking it up for you).
That's my 5c worth.
I am my own crash test dummy, provided it sounds credible, is deemed safe and it won't break the bank...
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