What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?

I am going nuts..I have been of and on with this guy for 3 in half years. We finally became official about a month ago but he lives 4 hours away. I am so in love with this guy but we argue constantly. He has alot on his hands right now, school, work, all of that and whenever he doesnt answer my text or calls i freak out..other than that, i couldnt ask for a better guy. I broke up with him 2 days ago because i kept hurting from him not answering me all the time, and me stressing out about it..now i totally regret it. I also kinda like this other guy but whenever i kissed him there was really no sparks or anything like that...what is wrong with me?? im going crazy..im depressed/confused/anger..what should i do?? and how do i know im just not used to this guy ive been with for so long. I feel like i cant live without him, but i also want something new at the same time..What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?
you love to hate him and hate to love him (or somthin like that)


hes prob not for you, but youve been together for sooo long that you can live without him.... and you still miss him, so you didnt feel sparks with the other guy... id recommend you be friends with the dude you broke up with, try not to stay away or not talk for long periods of time, and date the other guy :)


but as simple as these answers you get seem, its still very hard to find the true answer,roll with the wind and follow your heart!!!!!





=power to the people=What should i do??? please dont ignore this people!! i need lots of advice! :( im so depressed?
You should not be in a relationship with anybody. You need to work through what you want before you can pull anybody into your life. Clearly you do not know how to be in a healthy relationship because of how you acted in the first one. Work on yourself and your trust issues and then think about dating.
if you love the guy so much you should get back together with him. just tell him the truth, what he does that pisses you off and why you broke up with him in the first place. as for this other guy my opinion is dump him, if there was not much fireworks or anything like that there is not much point in going out with him. hope this helps.


peace.
First I advise you to do a spell check.It's really difficult to read.Look you need to understand something, mind does make cowards of us all and needs some conscious training.If you are done and over with the 1st guy, do move on. Takes time. And time does heal. Keep yourself pre occupied with something, may be something extreme, does help. You will see the difference.
I have learned the painful truth and I think everywomen will agree the only way to get over him is to find someone else that is the only way no matter what anyone sais just watch you will see!
Ask him why he didn't answer your calls or texts and if he has. A resonable explanation go back out with him but if not then see how it goes with the other guy.
just find somebody to talk to
tell him how you feel. if he doesn't understand it or doesn't feel the same way then move on and find a guy thats worth your time.
what happen to you just tell me i am your friend honestly


i am your heart's friend
feel ur pain. try hard to move on
u deserve better move on !!
This sounds like my ex and I. We were together for 3 years and I finally ended things this spring and I have never been happier. I thought I ';couldn't live without him'; but you can and you will probably feel much better about your life once he is gone. He is just dragging you down and as much as you don't want to admit that you know it deep down. It will hurt to lose him I know that from experience but in the end it is worth it. Better than having him suck all your energy out of you making you worry why he might not be answering. My ex was cheating on me..... that is why he wouldn't answer my calls. The girl he was cheating on me with didn't know I existed until she read one of my texts and found me online and we are now friends so don't go back to him.





When you find the one that is worth it he won't make you depressed, confused or angry. Just the opposite! I missed out on a lot of things because of him and I hope that you don't allow a man to do that to you. They just aren't worth it.
Honestly.....sounds like you need to back way up and focus on yourself to become better at relationships. It is not healthy to expect, a male---of all species----to tend to the details of texting all the time, especially when he is trying to focus on getting an education and making a living by working! You should be glad he is responsible and making something of himself. Stop freaking out...if you don't, you're gonna lose him. Yet, does he even deserve you? Sounds like you are not being loyal to him if ou are kissing another guy anyway.....don't mean to be harsh, but, you need to hear the truth so you can get better at relationships so you can have healthier ones! It really does work! And....you ';can'; live without him! If you feel like you want something new, you are not ready to settle down for just one relationship...a relationship won't last until you have explored.
I dated my bf for 3 years. Then I found a new guy who I really liked so I broke up with my bf because I was too young to settle down. Then I was just angry because I wanted my bf back bc I missed him, but I wanted to date new people to see what dating was all about. I really think that what your going through is just a phase that most of encounter at some point in life. THe best advice I can give is to try going out with different guys. If you still consistently feel like you need that one guy in specific then maybe it is ment to be. there is no cure all... I would assume you are fairly young? and this is completely normal...you have to get out and meet other guys in order to find what you WANT! best of luck!
WHAT exactly are you doing with him?





if regardless of school and work why cant he make time for you? it takes 5 minutes to send a text , and if he wont even answer your phone calls why are you even bothering with him any more?








sounds like hes got you danceing to his own little tune , if hes hurting you and your stressing out this much over it and if your always argueing you shouldnt be with him , im not being nasty thats just the truth as it is from your question
why the need to be informed every minute? are you saran wrap or static cling?


and btw How old are you?


don't be upset about him not answering you or about breaking up with him... if you need to , find out how he's dealing and see if maybe it's the best for both of you


make a decision and follow through... growing up sucks sometimes but it needs to happen before you can have a Healthy relationship and not possesive or obsessive


ciao for now
First, lets breathe.


In and out, in and out.


With him having so much on his hands he is prob really busy and won't have time for you.





How about we try this.


Tell him your sorry you did it and want to get back with him later on, you just can't until he is ready and can not worry you so much. Then in the mean time date other people and if you ALWAYS find yourself longing and wanting back with him and nothing else at ALL seems right, then go back to him.





Just relax right now and clear your mind... It will help you a lot








Good luck
being with someone for so long can be hard to let go. But remember you can live without him you would just prefer not to. if your heart is telling you, you want something new it means you need someone new. go for it. maybe a break is a good idea for now. date a little. But in the end if you still feel like the first guy is the one then it must be. go with your heart and don't worry if guys don't pick up right then and there its when they stop ignoring you all together you should be worried.Best of luck!
Wow, I just went through a very similar situation. The only difference was that I saw him every day and he has a daughter. I woul call him or text him to see if he could hang out and he would either ignore them or say he was busy. It's not that he didn't want to hang out with me, it was just that most of his life is spent at work or taking care of the baby. I'm the type of girl that needs attention. I would love to talk to my boyfriend once a day at least to see how it is going. I may be clingy, but oh well. Eventually, my need for attention grew into major paranoia. I thought he was cheating on me several times, when he never would do such a thing. My story doesn't end so happy, so I don't know how it will help... We eventually decided to end the relationship because of how paraniod I became when he was too busy to be with me. I felt that I was miserable all the time and I needed out. Just don't make the mistake I did, but live by the words of Cosmo ';, If a guy is really into you, he will never be too busy.';