Need Help with Ex-Girlfriend! Please People I need all the advice I can get!!!?

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Ok so basically my problem is between my ex-friend and my ex-girlfriend (who I was in a serious relationship with for about 2 years and been friends with for 4 years)... About 3 months ago my ex-girlfriend and I broke up and I met my new friend about 5 months ago at work. Not only that but he was my boss at the time and all 3 of us are college students. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me because she was a sophomore in college and she said that she needed time for herself. So about 2 months ago I introduced my ex-friend and my ex-girlfriend to each other and that's when the trouble began. My ex-friend was having problems with his girlfriend at the time and so he and my ex-girlfriend started hanging out. About this time my ex-girlfriend said that she still loved me and that nothing would happen but she did have a crush on my ex-friend which really broke my heart. Not only that, but she also spent a night at my ex-friend's apartment because she told me that she was feeling lonely that night because we had just gotten into a fight. Not only that but the next day after they hung out my ex-friend kissed her on the lips. My ex-girlfriend admitted this to me and she told me she felt guilty about it and that her crush with him was over. I stayed with her that night and told her it was ok even though I was still falling apart at this point. I confronted my ex-friend the next night and he promised me he would not ask her to spend the night again or doing anything flirtatious for that matter...Even though he promised me this he would still send my ex-girlfriend text messages with words like ';love you'; and he even asked her to spend the night again and asked her out to a movie even though he had worked things out with his girlfriend. My girlfriend would send text messages back like ';laterz love'; or ';muah'; at the end of their texts. I confronted my ex-girlfriend about this again and we got into a terrible fight about my ex-friend because I told her that he pissed me off for what he did to us because he knew I still had feelings for my ex and he had a girlfriend. After my ex-friend asked my ex-girlfriend to spend the night again I told his girlfriend what was going on and she told me he never told her of the kiss or of my ex-girlfriend spending the night. At first she told me that I was being ridiculous that I was getting mad that my ex-friend and my ex-girlfriend were just ';hanging out'; Was I overreacting too much? Anyways my ex-girlfriend decided to delete my ex-friend from her Facebook and promised me that there was nothing going on and that she was into me and not him. My ex-friend didn't contact her through the phone anymore but the problem was that they both work at the mall and they would talk to each other whenever they run into each other. I told my ex-girlfriend that I was pissed about this and she said that she didn't want to mean to him even though she knew he used her. Am I just being insecure? Just this last week though, my ex-girlfriend added my ex-friend as a friend on Facebook again when he requested her because she told me again that she didn't want to be mean to him and that I was being immature about it despite the fact that things were starting to go great between us and I hinted that this could open the door to more problems if she added him back on. She said that this time she would be more careful and that she wouldn't purposefully hang out with him when he asks and would only grab lunch with him or something if they both coincidentally were both on lunch break at the same time. It still really bugs me when she talks to him and every time I see my ex-friend, I just want to get violent. Why does my ex-girlfriend continue to talk to him even though it makes me really sad? Does she still have a crush on him? What should I do? It's not fair how my ex-friend can get away with all this stuff and leave me hurting like this. He hasn't even tried to apologize to me or anything and flat out lied to me and so did my ex-girlfriend in the past. I'm just a quiet guy and my ex-friend is very flirtatious around other girls. Can somebody please analyze the situation and help me out because I'm so tired mentally and my schoolwork is getting behind because I'm constantly worried about the situation. PLEASE ladies and guys any answers would be much appreciated...





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-Broken DownNeed Help with Ex-Girlfriend! Please People I need all the advice I can get!!!?
You can't change people. You can only change the way you respond and react to what they do. It sounds like they are hanging out, and choosing to try and keep you in the dark. If they decide to pursue any sort of relationship, they are going to do so with or without your consent. You have to either decide whether or not you can deal with your friend dating your ex, get rid of your friend, get rid of your ex, or both. Remember, she is your ex, and you don't really get to say who she dates. If you still want to be with her, talk to her. If the feeling is mutual, act on it. If not, walk away. Life is too short to stress out over things you can't control.Need Help with Ex-Girlfriend! Please People I need all the advice I can get!!!?
well probably your ex-girlfriend is just trying to get you jealous because she probably thinks you like her.
Its hard u know? because at this time u still have feelings for her. SO is like u were blind dude! She doesnt loves you, because she is cheating and lying all the time to u. So u should focus urself in other stuff, such as ur homework and ur personal life. Give urself some time to hang out w ur friends and go out! She is not worth it! U will see! Soon u will laugh about this situation and u will find someone who really cares.


Meanwhile, my advice to u is give her some time. Dont look for her, ignore her and she will realize if she really want to be with u or with the other guy. Good luck!