How to deal with pompous people who offer unsolicited advice, condemn others, & act like they are superior?

I am in the unfortunate situation of dealing with a ';know it all'; gay ex husband who takes everything I say as an opportunity to correct me and give me his philosophy of life, parenting, and a 'better' way of life. He does this in a condescending and preachy way and it's becoming maddening. At first I was good natured, trying to deflect his assinine comments, but lately I am angry and insulted and furious that he feels he's entitled to behave this way. Any tips on ignoring this idiot, or a nice comeback that will put him in his place once and for all. It's a recurring theme, and telling him outright that he is out of line never gets through.How to deal with pompous people who offer unsolicited advice, condemn others, %26amp; act like they are superior?
The worse thing you can do is react as you've described the way you do. DO NOT SUBMIT!!!!! Don't make yourself the object of his perceived entitlement. Believe me, others see his base behaviour for what it is. You will be judged on your reaction to it.


You say you both were once an item, so it's no surprise you might still value what he thinks, but it's obvious he doesn't value what you think. The most impressive thing that will come from you is how you are secure in who you are. So don't subvert yourself. Give him all the rope he needs, and his love for his own opinion will be recognized for it is - ego masturbation.How to deal with pompous people who offer unsolicited advice, condemn others, %26amp; act like they are superior?
just agree with everything he says 'yes, yes i agree you are so right'


then he will try another method but at least he isn't telling you what to do
God, I feel your pain. My ex is so utterly preachy, and will take any opportunity to remind me that he is so much more emotionally and mentally evolved than I am (I'm 21 and he is 6 years older than me).





It's always ';Well, when you are older, you will come to understand that blah blah'; and ';Yeah, I used to feel that way when I was your age, but nowadays, blah blah';.





He also loves to remind me ad-nauseum of all the totally grown-up and adult things he is doing with his life (even though he dropped out of college and has no actual job skills beyond food service), and then confronts me with things like ';Haven't you found a job yet? Geez. I've been working since I was 16. I guess I just have a strong work ethic.';





I swear sometimes I just want to kill him.
throw cold water on his face and tell him to wake up and smell the daisies.
Yeah he knows it pushes your buttons.


You can annoy heck out of him or make


a laughingstock out of him by continuously


asking him: ';You're the expert on ______,


how do you do that?';


Be sure and ask him that about ridiculously


stupid, simple things that everyone would


know, and I bet it will be an ';instant soft-on';


for him, (as he is obviously getting off on


embarrassing you).


For instance: ';I hear the gov't is doing a serious


study of why flies land on sh*t.';


';Since you are the expert on that subject, _____,


why don't you explain why that is?';
If you can't ignore him by avoiding him (best option), then try this- ask him (in not these precise words, but your own) ';What do you mean?'; and ';How do you know that?';





Trust me, half-baked, biased morons can't answer these questions well.





I learned this rhetorical defense a lotta years ago, and it works. But it's still better to avoid the idiocy.