Please answer:( Over 20.Your advice would be soo great right now people.Sorry, kind of long.?

should i try to see him more or actually let him figure things out and continue to give him complete space


im just scared its going to be ';out of sight, out of mind kinda thing :(';


here is the story.





My bf turned 22 and i guess had a reality check. We were dating for 2 years and he was telling me how he feels old etc.


then BOOM..we broke up but it was bitter sweet.


He tells me how much he loves me and how hard it is and how amazing i am and how much he wishes he was 25 so he could marry me right now etc.


but his mind is made up aboutthe breakup and even though i tried talking about it he gets mad. so i have to leave it


should i just leave him and give himhis space and let him figure things out?


Its so tough. I saw him 2 weeks ago (we broke up on feb 1st) and he cant stop hugging me and treating me like his gf again when we see each other...open my door, kiss my hands, my nose etc.


We are also both in ourr 4th year of university as well


Honestly, the relationship was so mature and great. Even he admitted that when he was talking about it..sad ofcourse.


We hvant talked since Valentines day and its hard because we talked everyday for a 2 years.But that was his choice. I alwtas told him no pressure if he doenst have the time to text or call but for 2 years he always texted me ';goodnight love';.. I know he still loves me and still cares. The last 2 times i saw him he couldnt let go of me and couldnt stop telling me that yet didnt want to talk about why he wants this.








ok, so its been a month and he saw my a university the other day and i waved to him...he came up to me and hugged me for the longest time and kissed my forehead. I was confused!! he sent me a msg later that night saying ti was good to see me and that he enjoyed the hug he also said that if we had started dating when we were 24/25 i would have been the one. %26amp; that right now he needs to figure himself out first.





i replied and i agreed with him that he needs to figure things out


and that 24/25 thing doesnt matter as you cannot time things like that.


I wished him luck in his studies and everything





do you think i handled it well?!?!?!








ok its been about a month and half since the break up. I saw him on the bus at university on friday and said hi to him he grabbed me adn hugged me adn kissed my forehead. When we were tlaking he kept saying how excited he is his car is running and kept asking me what im doing this weekend. He was making fun of me sometimes too %26amp; hugged me. You know the usual stuff when we were dating. He seemed really happy to see me though, Then as he was getting off the bus he said that if him and his friend go out this weekend that i shoul come out with them. I dont think they ended up going out but im really confused as to waht he wants. Clearly he still misses me but isnt really doing anything :S But, its a good feeling to know he's still so nice you know. Im just kinda torn between fully focusing on moving on or giving it time. Moving on would be awkward though since the whole relationship up until that point was filled wiht fun and laughter :)Please answer:( Over 20.Your advice would be soo great right now people.Sorry, kind of long.?
Just follow what he wants.


I think it's for the best to give yourself and him a break!


It's always for the best to take some time off..


And always remember that if he comes back then he's forever yours, but if he doesn't then it was never meant to be!





And believe in it!





Good luck and hope this helps! ^__^Please answer:( Over 20.Your advice would be soo great right now people.Sorry, kind of long.?
You're right. Much too long.





Relationships are going to come and go in your life. Even the ones you stay with are different as time goes along.





Sounds like you handled things well in this case. There's rarely any point in burning bridges.





Move on.
Ok i'm 27 and read the whole story lol.





It sounds to me like he is a little immature, splitting up with you because he isn't old enough?, that is a bit silly i think, i also think he wants to be single but really likes you, so he wants the best of both worlds, this kissing and hugging thing isn't helping either of you, that needs to stop, fair enough a hug is ok but the way you were describing it, seems strange for 'friends'.


It's hard for a man to stay friends with a woman he has been in love with, men are more insecure than you might think.


You have to distance yourself from him and move on, the longer this goes on the harder it's gonna be for you both, so do the hard awkward thing and end it, tell him you don't want to hear from him and that you won't reply to any texts or emails etc, after a while it will get easier and you will feel better.





Good Luck
Your situation sounds just like my ex and I. You should most definitely move on. He is being so nice to you because he is probably a nice guy and doesn't want to see someone he loves hurting. He is also probably being friendly and sweet because he is used to your friendship and is having a hard time letting it go; however, it doesn't sound like he's having a hard time letting go of the romantic aspect of your relationship. The whole 24/25 thing is really just an excuse to make himself feel better and to make you feel better about spending two years with him. There is no such excuse if he truly loved you and if he truly wanted to marry you, he would have made it happen, no matter the circumstances. The good news is it sounds like you have a really good head on your shoulders and I'm sure you will find someone that can give you a friendship and a romantic relationship!
give him time, but dont make the effort to talk to him, see him etc. use the time to concentrate on what you want, how you feel and for your university exams.


usually the phrase absence makes the heart grow fonder is very true! if you are always there, he wont have the chance to miss you, and so won't realise if he wants you back properly.


go out with your girlfriends and have fun, but at the end of the day, make it clear to him that he needs to make up his mind and would he like it if you were with another guy, you can't be expected to hold on forever to see if he will want you in years to come.


if you are so serious about each other then whats to stop you getting engaged now? age is just a number, i got engaged at 18 and am extremely happy,