I would like some advice from the older wiser people of yahoo please. :)?

I have a friend or someone i considered a friend i have been there for him through thick and thin even lent him money when no one else would. Given him advice over his relationships with women. given him lifts when he didnt have the use of a car you get my drift.





Today i heard from one of my best friends that he said this so called friend once mentioned that he could manipulate me with a click of the finger however he said keep it in confidence and just judge him by anything he might do in the future.





I cant wait till something else happens i want him out of my life how can i go about this without giving up what my friend said.





What would you do in this situation. :(I would like some advice from the older wiser people of yahoo please. :)?
From what you say you appear to have been a good friend to this person about whom you are talking.





When we make friends we do so for a variety of reasons, mainly to meet our many secondary and diverse needs. All friendships are based on honesty, truthfulness, respect and loyalty on a mutual and reciprocal basis.





You made friends with this person for reasons known to yourself and you really need to evaluate and consider whether he has lived by the principles which underpin his friendship with you in his dealings with you. Rather than judging him by what someone else has said you really need anecdotal evidence before you make a hasty, premature and perhaps an ill conceived judgement, In fairness to your best friend who mentioned this to you, he has advised you to ';judge him by anything he might do in the future';, whatever and in what context that might mean. You need to evaluate your friendship with this person in terms of his relationship with and behaviour to you and not to others.





Forewarned is forearmed, and unless you can recall any incidents in the past in which he has deliberately been disrespectful, disloyal, or betrayed your trust it seems to me from your statement ';I can't wait till something else happens......'; that you may possibly be placing too much reliance on what your best friend has said rather than acting on personal and immediate experience.





Remember too that we are all human and imperfect. We all make mistakes but true friends will forgive in the certain knowledge that we learn from our mistakes.





Again we have to remember that loyalties and allegiances can change with changing cicumstances. People change and the reasons for which friendships were once made may no longer exist.





Before you make a decision to ';get him out of your life';, bear in mind the points I have mentioned. Good friends are a real asset and solid friendships are to be treasured and valued.





Please feel free to email me if you consider I can be of further assistance, if you require clarification on any issues I've raised or if you have any information about past events which you consider will enable me to give you a more focussed and definitive answer.I would like some advice from the older wiser people of yahoo please. :)?
Well if you truly believe the information the next time the person asks you to bail them out simply say I'm sorry I can't help you right now. When the guy asks why repeat it. Just tell them I'm not in a position to help you this time.





After turning him down a few times he should get the message.
thtas hurtful, been here myself, and iknow how your feelin,and you are prob the type of person to say nothin about what you heard either, because of the person you are. but i would ask him about it, even if he or she denys it, it will make him what a jerk he has been, good luck
Drop him , fast , but pity him none the less cause he's the loser in this, friends like you are hard come by and the more he behaves like this the less he has. to rely on .
Just tell him that you feel like your relationship is a bit one-sided. Let him know that you think he is taking advantage of your friendship and that you don't need ';friends'; like that. Good luck.
give him the opposite advice of what he really should do. then when it all goes belly up you can turn around and say serves you right you using bastard!!!!
Just cut him off. U aren't his ATM or his personal transportation...so those services are no longer offered.
just give him a wide berth and forget him
That guy who said that could have misinterpreted something that was said, or is twisting the words around. In other words, don't 100% believe anything that you didn't hear directly from the source.





Just keep being the guy's friend but don't let him walk on you. Like don't keep doing him favors until he does stuff for you or at least shows you that he's willing to give as much as you give.





Oh and it's NEVER a good idea to loan friends money, at least if you expect it back. You'll be disappointed.





Until this guy does something bad to you or betrays your trust, there is no reason to want him out of your life if he is a good friend to you.