I need some advice from some wise people.?

okay, story time.





my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year now. I'm still a virgin because i want to wait until marriage. But my boyfriend has, and he says he ';regrets it';. He had sex with some girl he was dating a few years back. And everytime i bring her up he gets mad and wont talk to me for days, and i mean i would think he would be over it by now. Why do you think he does that ?


Does it sound like he still has something left for her ?I need some advice from some wise people.?
It doesn't sound that way to me. I raised my children the same way and if he did make a mistake a few years ago and has worked through it all and put it in the past then it would be very uncomfortable when you bring it up, it's sort of like rubbing his nose in it. Let him leave it in the past and be glad that you have a guy that will share intimate talk times with you and not pressure you for more. He sounds pretty special.I need some advice from some wise people.?
You may need to wait until he opens up to you about it. If he says he regrets having his first time with her, then he may still be angry with himself for being so vulnerable and willing. It is possible that the relationship went down hill after he had sex. Sex can be very emotionally linked even for guys. This is a time to be patient with him. Are there other things he has the same difficulty talking about or times he reacted the same way? He may have a hard time talking about his feelings. I would talk to him about that and not even approach the sex topic.
He may still have feelings for the other girl. But on the other hand it may be because it was the first time that he had an intimate relationship.


You should tell him that you want to discuss this with him.


If you never have sex you don't miss it that may be want he means to. He probably does not want to pressure you into anything. He respects you.


Talk to him and asks him how he feels about this.


I am sure that he will be happy to have a girl like you.





Good luck


I hope that he will be open with you in the relationship and talk to you.





Warm Regards


Michele
It might just be a really bad memory. Perhaps she hurt his feelings when he was emotional and physical venerable.





Maybe ';sex'; wasn't what he thought it would be and having sex with that person changed the relationship in a bad way. He obviously has some baggage with it.





Being that you two are in a long term relationship he should start opening up to you about it. If he refuses to then he may still have feelings for her. Tell him how you feel and give him an ultimatum ';Tell me about it or break it off till you fix your issues with it.';
I have never heard of a boy/man regretting have sex, unless they catch something or get caught. I don't think he still has a thing for her, but your continually bringing it up is like you're blaming him for not still being a virgin too. It could also be a reminder that he's not getting any from you and what he's missing.
No, he's mad at you. That was something in his past that he is not proud of, that he wants to forget. His door was closed on that incident. But you keep bringing it up, and bringing it into the present. You should love him and help him live in the present and not relive the past that he wants to forget.
Stop bringing up the subject!
1. yeah u r right, why dont u kick that asshole our of ur life
No, he is ok about her. What pisses him off is to see that YOU are not over with it yet.





Look, if you want to have a relationship, focus on building up your relationship. Focus on learning what your bf likes and doesn't like to do with you, find out how he thinks, observe how he reacts, focus on your own business and stop digging in his past. His past is past and he should be free to speak about when he considers necessary or a good moment to do so. His past is not for you to mess with. All that matters is the connection YOU build with each other. It is completely irrelevant if he or you slept with one or ten girlfriends. What is relevant is to find out if you get along together, if you can develop common plans and projects, if you laugh while being together, if you enjoy yourselves, if you are able to respect and understand and listen to each other, if you develop the understanding that could make you desire to stay together for ever and form a family. These are the things you should be paying attention. Or tell me, reminding him of her will strengthen what you have???? Making him remember details forgotten for that long will make you unseparable???? Be smart girl!!





If you want a relationship, build it!!!


Start developing a self esteem. Seems you lack A LOT of it.


Stop worrying about the other girl. Make him thank God for your presence in his life, don't make him desire to get rid of you and come back to the other girl. If you continue insisting on that he will move on. Not because he couldn't talk about her, but because there won't be anything uniting him to you.





Look, I understand you are virgin and are curious about his sexual relationships, but you need to understand that being virgin doesn't make you perfect. Everytime you ask him you make him feel like an insect being studied in the lab, or a monkey in the zoo. You make him feel inspected and nobody likes feeling like that. Not only that, the fact that you talk about your virginity as something extraordinary makes him feel uncomfortable, since you are reminding him he is defectful compared to you. After losing his virginity, he knows and understands virginity is not what you think, and it becomes clear to him how insecure and immature you are and that pisses him off too.


So, if you want to have a bf for the coming months bite your tongue everytime you want to talk about her. Make him think of you, not of her! Be smart!!!