Can some older people give me some advice on this situation please and maybe their perspective of me right now?

I'm so hurt. This person I tried looking up to constantly acts like I don't exist. So I deleted all of the comments I put on their wall...they never responded anyway. And then I deactivated my facebook account. I would ask him how he was, about his family, comment on his status, wished him well on getting better, congratulated him on his retirement, etc. And he only partially responded to one comment and ignored the rest. His wife hasn't confirmed me as a friend. I've sent letters of apologies, asked how she was doing, etc. I'm not really sure what I did to either one of them but maybe being a little overly friendly. I really wanted to be friends with them...why not me? The only thing is he was online before I could delete my account because I annoy them and didn't want them to be reminded of me. Do you think he's madder than he was before? I'm not going back to facebook. It sucks! This man is a reverend and his wife. He won't be my rev anymore since he retired. But I still have to see them at church. How can I handle it? I've already cried my heart out. Why do they treat me like this? I really looked up to them=(Can some older people give me some advice on this situation please and maybe their perspective of me right now?
from what I get..... you are too needy.... and you overdo it.





As a pastor.... people can only spend so much time with each individual in their parish.... or parishes.





I have over 1,100 families that I take care of...... I can't respond to every little thing that people send my way...... so I have to pick and chose what are important... and what are not.





sometimes.... I even have to tell people... that I don't have time for them right now..... because otherwise... they would be calling me 10 times a day.... for small things that really don't matter much.Can some older people give me some advice on this situation please and maybe their perspective of me right now?
Its just facebook I wouldn't think to much of it. Sometimes people have all intent on responding just time passes and you forget. I would just ignore it and pretend nothing is wrong.
Are you having an affair with the pastor?


Anyyway hes married so stay away


The wife probably oent trust you with her husband. Cant you get the hint... Just leave him alone the man is a Reverend for crying out loud
Wow. You are that weird, creepy, stalker person. Seek professional therapy.
Find another church to attend.
I'm creeped out by you, so chances are they are too.
You sound like a stalker. You really need help.
I think you need to back away from them...you do sound creepy.
hi


it is better to ask them


dont afraid or shy to ask
They don't want to be your friend but I am not sure why, sounds like you mad them mad somehow.
weirdo u are like a stalker
That's a tough one! I know what it's like to really respect someone and want them to listen to you and give you advice. A mentor/mentee type relationship definitely must be a mutual one. Some people see mentoring someone as a burden and try to discourage anyone who tries to look up to them. The other issue is... if there is a large age difference, sometimes people feel like they can't communicate with someone who is much older or much younger than them. They're afraid that they're going to say the wrong thing or steer you in the wrong direction. I actually think you did the right thing by removing the comments that you put on their wall. It seems that they were trying to send you a message by not responding.





I believe you can definitely form a healthier relationship if you find someone who really wants to support, help and listen to you.
I understand why you are hurt. I get it, that you went out of your way to be kind and friendly to them, and felt they ignored your efforts toward friendship. If I were you, I would just forget this and move on. It could be the pastor is too busy, it could be neither one checks their account often, or it could be that they are annoyed by all the messages. I use myspace just to communicate with my family, but my husband's sister tends to send me pictures all the time of men without shirts, which I ignore and don't respond to (I don't want to see all those half naked men, but also don't want to insult her attempts to interact with me). I wouldn't stress so much over this. It really is not so important. You need to focus on interacting in person with people more than through facebook and other sources. You have social needs that are obvioulsy not being met. If you still wish to try to interact with these two, then do so at church functions until they feel more close to you, rather than through facebook.
I think you're overreacting. You actually sound like you might be somewhat chemically unbalanced since you practically stalked him and his wife and completely deleted your Facebook account since they didn't respond! If you're like this in every aspect of your life, this could be extremely irritating to other people and that might be why they didn't respond. Also, priests and reverends are very busy on a daily basis and they have a lot of commitments, and they might not have time to respond to each comment they get. He probably didn't see it as a big deal that he didn't respond to your comments, and his wife might not check her account often enough to have seen your friend request. I think you're slightly overbearing, dramatic and too emotionally attached to these people and it's good that this happened so that there is some distance between you.