Why do people always ask me for advice on stuff but never ask me if am ok?

I've always wondered the same thing and I don't really know the answer. I'm usually happy and a good listener but some people just assume that I don't have any sad moments. When it happens, everyone around me seem so shocked! A male friend of mine recently made this statement that ';most women over 30 are depressed, apart from you!'; I was gobsmacked but I think it summarises how some people see us. It's almost as if we are not allowed to be sad or depressed and that we owe to be strong for others.


The sad thing is we get so used to not being asked how we are that when we do need help we don't know how to ask for it.


I do hope you are ok though! Don't let this get you down. There are some people who will be thankful for the way you are and who will be there for you when you need it.


Take care! ;-)Why do people always ask me for advice on stuff but never ask me if am ok?
Because you are the person that they come to when they need to solve their problems. Most likely you appear to be able to support and encourage them with sage advice and they would never think that you are not okay.





It's the image you present that you are in control and totally together. So these people just assume you are ok...Why do people always ask me for advice on stuff but never ask me if am ok?
Your persona portrays you confidence....


Therefore, people assume that you are A-OK, when in reality, the misconception to their belifs are,' they don't understand that you too are a feeling person'....
i'm like you i think it's because we are caring, understanding people who listen. I have quite a few inconsiderate people around me who do seem to take, take, take. Maybe we should toughen up!!


I hope you are ok xx
I know how you feel! Everyone at my job comes in my office to tell me all their problems and I listen but no one ever really ask if I'm o.k.





So how are you today? Everything else o.k?
because people are too messed up in their heads with their own problems...


everyone needs help.... so do you.... n so do i...:)


take care....
They are worried about themselves and themselves only
Coz it would be classed as chatting sweatie, but I hope you're ok!
sods law. you wont have any problems, if you do no one else wants to know
are you OK?
are you ok?
Well how are you?
hey :( I always ask whether you're ok and almost never ask for advice :(((((
because they are needy and you are loyal