Married people: I need some advice =(?

My husband and I has been married for 11 months now and so far everything is ok. We love each other and we have 2 kids. However, he made a mistake awhile back and I still can't forget what he did to me (not getting into details) We're still trying to work things out. As far as I know we are both honest with each other. I ';used to'; like girls way back in high school (I'm 23 now) and he knows that and he would tease me to make out with another girl and let him watch, basically a threesome but he aint gonna do anything to her. La la la, we got over that stage and both agree NOT to do that. One day, we're bored and got on a lezbo chatroom and pretended to be one, after that we got off %26amp; I told him not to do that again. Just yesterday, we went out on a date, went to karaoke, and he got drunk and started talking **** %26amp; we got home, he stayed up till 4am chatting at the lezbo chatroom again. Tell me what's wrong with him? For me this is sick. What does he want?Married people: I need some advice =(?
Some doors should never be open. You both opened a door you now want to close but, he likes it. You asked him not to do it again and he should respect that. Marriage is a two way street and, you might want to think about some counseling..Married people: I need some advice =(?
The problem here is clear...your husband married you with the intentions of having his cake and eating too, through what he perceives as your dormant lesbian tendencies.





Ultimately, this is where a spouse knowing our freaky past can be a downfall in marriage. Because, as you mature personally and in marriage, much of the mess from your youth you want to just let go of and move on! But, as you can see that is not always easy to do.





I hate this for you and all I can suggest is that you ADAMANTLY let him know that is NOT a sleeping dog you intend to wake up and he needs to deal with it. His antics are an indirect way to try and get you to fall back into a lifestyle you have left behind! He's selfish and needs to grow up!
A lot of men's fantasies are watching two women having sex. Explain to him how his behavior makes you feel. If he continues, better get into counseling.
Sounds like forbidden fruit syndrome, or maybe he's a closet crosser, prolly should look into counseling if he's having trouble respecting your wishes.
Firstly, I just don't understand within the 11 months, you have 2 kids.


I think, he is bored. He properly wants to get new excitment to drive him out of the boredom. Can you do that? If so, start now, if not, it will be too late.
uhm, you went into that chatroom with him before pretending you are gay and now you are asking what is wrong with him if he does it? i think you BOTH have the same problem.
He is looking for some new excitement in his marriage. Maybe you could dress up different and role play. Sorry but it sounds like he is fooling around on you.
Obviously she had at least one of the kids before she got married. Anyway, be careful, your husband sounds like he's allowing his emotions and fantasies to trump your feelings. Get counseling if he doesn't start respecting you. Never, ever, give into his fantasy, it will be a can of worms.





p.s. sounds like this guy is either still cheating or bound to cheat. Try to get your life based on something that will standardize your morals. Otherwise, things aren't looking too bright for you. He sounds like a cheater.
you opened that dirty door. hard to shut isn't it?





look, you both need to sit down and discuss what is acceptable in a marriage and what isn't. you would be so surprised on how different you veiw certain things. you two need to be on the same page, or at the very least know what page you are not on.





go see a marriage counselor. not a long term one,,,,maybe a few sessions. like a tune up. it's every guy's fantasy until he's had it and it did not work out the way he expected.

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