Do people enjoy giving negative advice?

I've been reading some of the answers and I see a few giving negative advice.





I think that is youre not gonna say something nice, you shouldn't open your mouths.


Also, some people are really looking for a good sound advice in a time of crises and given them negative comments or advice can really hurt someone.


...I understand people insulting each other, like in the R %26amp; S section but here or in other sections where people need sound advice....thats just plain carelessness.


...Have you no heart? If you are unhappy, why spread more of your unhappiness to others.





Okay.....done with my runt of the day. ~sigh~





Anyone else agrees with me on this one?Do people enjoy giving negative advice?
Some times things sound rough on here, but at times that's the boot in the butt that some people need to help them. Not all things are viewed the same by everyone. I have been emailed with nastiness for some of the answers I have posted. But I explained that was my view of that question at that moment in my life. Not always helpful, but always intended to help. Good luckDo people enjoy giving negative advice?
many people here give advice that basically excuses all kinds of terrible behavior. not me. i call it as i see it. and anyone who gets an answer from me is getting something valuable, and i dont care what anyone thinks of me. i give the truth and the truth is that there are a lot of incredibly idiotic people who nevertheless know how to type on a computer. some of them, far from being sympathised with, need to be woken up. if you call that negative, uh, too bad.
If you get a negative answer from me, its because, in my lifetime, ive had some experience in that subject, and Im trying to help that person from making a mistake.





But if there are questions where people are just being stupid...ie '; I cheated, what should I do, or Im in love with someone who isnt my spouse.' Your gonna get a smarta@@ response from me....sometimes people need to hear the truth, if you think its negative or not, sorry.
well if one of the spouses cheated why would you want him/her to feel better? I want to see how the spouses react...so some of them need lesson....
*sigh*





unfortunately in this world some people naturally love to be negative. some of them have taken such a habit since a very early age thus causing them to do so unconsciously. from my experience i have found that it is much more easier to simply ignore them. by ignoring them you are at least reducing the likeliness of negative advice from those who do so to get attention. i wouldn't blame them because some of them are simply sick. it is a sickness which could be cured but i don't think it would be that easy through the internet or worse by talking about it on this thread.





cheers,


T
Yeah sometimes I guess. But I do have to say that sometimes a bit of tough love is nessicary, all nice goody goody is ineffective. But it has its limits too. Be nice AND mean, but be restrained in both.
I agree with you but this is life, misery loves company...
I enjoy giving out good advice for those seeking a real answer. My advice comes from my heart or my past life experiences or just my opinion. I do not seek to hurt others, but if they ask stupid questions and I do think all the readers here know what kind of stupid questions we sometimes get, then yes we can be rather cold. Most of the time, I simply just pass on the really stupid ones but sometimes I just have to answer the stupid questions with a smart a@@ answer. Now for instance if a married man was asking if it was ok to screw around with his wifes best friend and is asking for our opinions..... sorry, but he left that door wide open for those to write their opinions, hurtful or not. It is a sensitive subject for some.
I agree. But, I do say what I feel on my answers if the question is nasty or silly or distasteful. Or if it is not a question in the correct forum I say something. For instance, if someone asks about food recipes on ';Marriage and Divorce'; I will write something like ';Oh crap, I thought this was ';Marriage and Divorce. Sorry';... And most of the time the person asking the questions report me. So I stopped doing that. I enjoy messing around once in awhile but never to hurt someones feelings. But for the most part, I try to anwer to help people with their questions.....
If they feel crappy about themselves, then *yes*.











rant* ;)
Thank you. Yes I really agree. I have written some questions and by the time about 50 people yell at you...well, it is a lot to wade through before actually finding anything useful. Or helpful people have probably given up and you don't get any answers to a question. It is disheartening.





And I think the same: make jokes or insult people on other sections but why why why give all that bitter negative advice. Even if you disagree with what someone is doing, how will hurling hurtful comments at them really help or change anything. People make even worse choices when their self esteem is dealt blows. And a whole bunch of these people describe themselves as christians, too, which is frightening.





Thanks for what you wrote.
Depends on the situation.


If a person ask a really stupid question, people will usually come back with a smartasss answer.





For Instance,


I hate the question- Am I pregnant?


If I see this question, I will answer- Go get an EPT test and pee on it and you will find your answer.


Yes its a smartasss answer, but questions like these deserve an answer like that.





However giving really mean answers just because you fell like it or because your having a bad day, is really really mean.
Agree, people do have different perspectives on things. What is negative to some is just life to to others.
Nope I don't agree with you. Different questions call for different answers from different people. Some of the questions are a hoax, some are for real, some are just having a good time etc etc.
Maybe YOU take this site a bit to 'seriously'! There are a lot of fake or extremely 'stupid' questions on here so some of us like to have a bit of fun at there expense!





When you learn how to spot the 'weird' questions you'll understand what we mean.





PS- I know some people can be quite cruel, but as they say ';if you don't think you're going to like the answer, don't ask the question';!
Sometimes it's necessary to wake someone up. People create their own problem and then come on here expecting some ';miracle'; cure for their own carelessness. Here are some examples I know you've seen 100 times:





1. My husband/wife has been cheating on me for 20 years. We had a baby last month. What should I do?





2. My gf/bf is a completely insane meth addict. What can I say to make her/him marry me?





3. I found this girl in bed with my husband. He says they were just taking a nap and I know he would never cheat on me, but still I am hurt. Should I forgive him?





4. I dated someone for 2 weeks then got married and got pregnant. Now I'm having second thoughts. What do you think?





5. My ex is in town. Is it okay to meet him/her for a drink even though my spouse doesn't know? (only answer if you you're going to say it's okay. Otherwise you're being mean.)





People who ask these questions NEED someone to tell them they are being stupid. They can't see it for themselves. You can't help them by pretending what they're doing is normal.
Sure i can agree to day, but maybe not tomorrow. :-)





If you take a step back for just a sec, you voiced your own opinion here right? and others do too. If people ask a dumb question, do you feel they should really get sound advice?


I give negative answers when I'm in a negative mood. Any of you who have ever attended any kind of counceling will and can say their own therapist's do the same. And I'm sure you can too cuz hey your human.





How many ';repeat'; questions do you read on here? Many!! For the ones who really want advice,they'll read the responses to the same questions asked, but their not reading the advice others were given for the same questions.





It ok glad you got do your runt today
actually, sometimes when you are blunt or rude (perception, negative) it shakes a person up......and perhaps makes them reconsider that they've been in denial all this time.





Only thing that really makes me be negative....when I think it might shake a person up....





OK, once in a while I admit, I'm mean just because and it's not nice....





You go girl!
I'm not insulting anyone, I'm not giving my opinion, I'm just stating facts in respect to my life experience. If you want to call my answers negative that is your right. Maybe you should take a step back and think that maybe you take those answers as negative because they are not the answers you want to hear to support your dream world you are living in :O)
There are times when firm and yes negative advice is the best. Some people asking questions here need to basically wake up and look around them and the only way to do that is a slap in the face.


Agree that if your advice is negative that it should be tempered with compassion and a decent thought process. Many responders here only react emotionally without seriously thinking about what they write and therefore come across as Negative.


Good constructive criticism is sometimes necessary to get your point across though.
It helps people with self esteem problems ease there sense of low self worth.
I agree, but unfortunately that is human nature. An aspect that is hard to controll but is possible. I mean it's like when you get up and are groggy and your mom says something wrong and you fly off the handle. I have also seen some inappropriate answers and questions. people think before you type. star to show how much I agree.
No.