Married people I need you advice?

I'm 22 yrs old i live on my own I finishes college, take care of myself etc. I'm the oldest out of 2 girls I have a 14 yrs old sister...my dad growing up always spoiled me and till this day when I need something he helps me out even with out me asking for anything...he occasionally gives me money for no reason even without me asking for it..he says ';here just take it'; the problem is my mother always makes snickering comments like why do you even help her out with her problems anymore..(like car problems etc) She says that she never had a father or man in her life to help me out why should I) the other day he dad invited me over for dinner and she told my dad to charge me for the food I ate that weekend at her house)


what's her problem she's always been like this and she acts the same way towards the 14 yr oldMarried people I need you advice?
Want the truth? Sounds as if your dad is spoiling you and your mother resents it. He most obvious treats her as second best and goes out of his way to spoil his adult daughter which would make any wife resentful. Your father created the problem and I think he does so to enjoy being the star parent. Parents should parent together and stand by one another. When it is off balance it is called dysfunctional. You may look at your dad as being the hero, just know he wants it this way and this is why he spoils you. Your poor mom is probably angry and resentful with feelings of guilt over being jealous of her own daughter. This family needs serious therapy. Married people I need you advice?
she sound like a bitter old women...basically she is lashing out at you because she is jealous of the fact that you have a father figure and she never did but I cant believe this is coming from your mother...she has hers coming for treating you like this and something tells me that your father might hold a grudge against her for treating his daughter like this
I wouldn't think so %26amp; your mom is giving you a bad example of how women should perceive marriage. It sounds like she's a bit jealous. She should be happy that you have a father that loves you, takes care of you, %26amp; apparently wants the best for you. Keep loving your father %26amp; keep having a good relationship with him.
It's called jealousy! It sounds liek your mother is upset he spends money on you even though your grown and live on your own.


I think you need to have a serious talk with both parents before things spiral way outta control.


and to answer your question, no. this is not what marriage does (typically) to women. Just women who have underlying issues that they need help with.
try to ignore ur mom for these things....she might have an indifferent nature.....donot make it too clumsy for urself....


maybe ur mom has seen some times, which really make her feel that she did a mistake to marry ur dad...


try to talk to her politely and ask her that what problem she has....if u think she has some problems, which u can solve or for which u can work upon, then try to help her out....


she is ur mom....she got u into this world....if u think she has some problem...talk to her....just give a try



You are 22 -- an adult. At this point you should be supporting yourself and to some exten it seems you have a somewhat nagging mother.





Just do better, you will have enough problems solving your own problems in life, who cares about hers.



basically she hasn't learned how to understand that HER PAST CHILDHOOD has ZERO to do with how your dad is dealing with his children.





she can't relate to what she is seeing basically since she never had it or experienced it.
Mommy has problems - let it go. Be happy you're out of the house and try to be as supportive of your younger sister as you can.
The woman is just bitter!! Do you best to ignore her. If she never had a man to help her out too bad!! Fortunately you do, that's what dad's are for, to help whenever possible.
You never know. My mother made up lies about me for 40 years and spread them across 3 generations. I think I figured it out in my case. In yours it sounds like she is jealous. It can be a powerful emotion.
She is bitter because of her own child hood. That is all. Even though your mother is rude and bitter towards you and your father's relationship. Still continue to give her respect but also do what you need to do as a young respectable woman. Don't let her bitterness bring you down. It is sad to say but your mother is jealous. Jealously can happen through any one. Even your mother. Just continue having such a wonderful relationship with your father and continue to love your mother even though she acts as if she doesn't love you. Here are some words to live by, love your mother and your days will be longer. Got it from the bible.





ps I'm thirty-two years old and my father still helps me as well if I need it. And also my mom. Just be thankful for what you have and everything will work out. Best wishes to ya.
This is what happens to women who's spouse may have put them on the back burner completely and forget that they existed after bringing their children into this world with this man. Some how, I see that your mother is on the back burner til this day. She had no one to help her and she made it without hand outs from her parents. She just wants you two girls to do the same thing and not expect life to hand you everything. It is apparent that your father uses cash in his pocket as affection that maybe he felt he did not give you or your sister. And I can almost bet you that your mother only gets financial support from him and that's it. But if she's not even getting that, then, maybe there's the reason she wanted to charge you for your meal, not to hurt you per say, but to show your father that she is human too and deserves a little respect from all involved. Listen, men after marriage and kids sometimes forget the woman that they fell into bed with and made his children with...and your mother has a lot of resentment for alot of reasons that you probably don't understand or haven't been aware of...nobody knows what goes on inside the bedroom of a husband and a wife. Anyway, maybe she needs counseling.
I think having daughters can sometimes have unexpected concequences for mothers. I obviously have no idea what your parents relationship is like but, it sounds like your mother is jealous of the relationship you have with your father. Perhaps she feels like she doesn't get enough attention from him and therefore tries to make you out to be the bad guy.





I don't agree with this thinking, but it happens. Just like there are mothers out there that try to ';compete'; with their teenage daughters. All of it strike me as an insecurity, low self-esteem issue of hers which has nothing to with ';marriage'; at all.