Question for people over 18...need advice?

Mf boyfriend and I have been intimate for a while now but we'ver never had sex. However, the other day, we were making out (unclothed) and I had my legs wrapped around him, and as we were doing so, he lifted up my butt with one hand and put his finger inside my vagina..i was so startled it hurt but felt great at the same time..but then my hips started moving back and forth and I got worried and nervous and made him stop and left....I guess I was just so taken aback that I didn't know what to do...was this a normal thing for him to do, and did I react appropriately? and is this safe? thank you for any advice





In case this info is needed, I am 20 years oldQuestion for people over 18...need advice?
i'm not over 18 but i did have an experience like that one time before. me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months. except me and him weren't unclothed. we did it on the stairs in our school.it started off as us kissing with our tongues, then all of a sudden, he lifts me up by my legs and pins me up against the wall. my legs were around his body, and he began to press his body against mine while my legs were up. he unbuttoned my pants, pulled my shirt off, then pulled my underwear off. he used two fingers and stuck them up my vagina and used this great force. it hurt like hell (probably because i never had sex before) and it felt good, just like you said. i heard him moan, and i even moaned a few times. it turned him on, and it turned me on as well.





i didn't stop.he stopped himself from actually having sex. he ended it, heavily breathing, sweat pouring down his face. he gives me a smile, and gives me a kiss on the forehead. i actually wasn't scared when he did it. and we've done it more than once. the second time he did it, it didn't hurt, it was simple pleasure lol. i actually screamed loud when he did it, and that pushed him to do it even more.





but if you feel like you're not ready to go any farther, then yeah that was a normal reaction. you were scared, and you wasn't ready. it's ok. i was scared at first a little to, but once you get into it, it's like your first step to leading a sex life.





P.S. i'm 16 years old. him fingering me wasn't like the real thing, but he sure made my leg hurt. it hurt so bad, he had to help me stand.


(please don't tell my parents lol. just kidding)Question for people over 18...need advice?
Of course it's normal for a man to do this and want to go farther like actually having intercourse.As for your hips moving back and forth that happens because your body was sexually stimulated. Although your body may be ready for intercourse it sounds like your mind isn't. So I think that until you are ready for sex with your boyfriend then you should stick to making out with your clothes or at least your underwear on because it's probably killing your man to not be able to have you all the way.
Perfectly normal. You just got nervous. Looks like you guys are on the brink of having sex for the first time. Congrats! Take it slow, be sure to use birth control, and prepare for it to hurt, feel weird, and start a wave of bizarre emotions afterwards. Not sure if he's ever had sex before, but if he has, tell him you're nervous and to go easy on you. If it's his first time, don't worry, he'll be done in about 30 seconds. haha sorry. :-D
That was a pretty natural thing for him to do - you're naked and kissing, after all. Your reaction was understandable, given that you've not actually done it before, but it probably shocked him a bit. In terms of safety - you can't get STD's through mutual masturbation, unless somebody has an open cut on their hand.
What he did and how you reacted sounds normal to me. It's kind of natural to just move your hips when you are into it. But if you felt uncomfortable after a while then I can understand how you made him stop. I think it's nice that you take your time on being intimate, but if you are willing and trust him then maybe you could talk to him about getting intimate. Good luck!
Huh? Of course it's normal. What part are you wondering was appropriate--your physical reaction, or your kicking him out?--it's up to you to decide what you want to do, and what you feel comfortable doing, and what you think is appropriate or not appropriate. And yes, it's safe.
Aw, you're ok! It's also ok that he went for it. He thought it was the right thing to do. And what you're going through is totally normal. Its normal for your hips to do that. ITs also okay to take it slow. If you weren't ready, it's okay that you stopped. But just know to relax, if you know him well enough you will enjoy it.
You were doing something very instinctle. You were trusting your hips back and fourth. He wants to have sex with you.





So have sex, and yes it is safe. And it's alright how you acted but you should have continued... because he now may be afraid to do that ever again.





Your call. Just make sure you're using a condom and you should definitely consider birth control.
no you didn't react correctly. the poor guy. he probably feels like you hate him. he was just trying to please you. if you haven't done anything that really isn't intimate. why are you so afraid to get intimate? just give it a chance.. it hurts at first but it does get better.





but yes, it's perfectly safe. his fingers will NOT get you pregnant.
hey yes its normal for it to get that far.. he wants to have sex with you, which is a good thing.. u only left cuz u got scared - maybe u dont feel quite ready for it yet, just say to him sorry but i dont think i'm ready for that yet.





he should understand if he doesnt he isnt worth ur time, if he loves u/respects u he will wait until you are ready
yea it was normal for him but u got nervous and he made the right decision to stop because if u would have sex right then it would have hurt for u most likely because u probably would have been extremely nervous if he proceeded in more extreme fore play by the way im 16 =) lol
a lot of people start off this way- it's normal and anyway you reacted is the normal reaction though leaving probably made him a bit confused- talk to him. It's normal to feel like you were uncomfortable it's part of beginning sexual activities.
Yes, it's a very common practice to give a girl sexual pleasure by inserting fingers into her vagina. No, you can't get pregnant from it, and it's perfectly safe.





What are they teaching kids in school?
20 years old and not knowing how normal fingering is? Um? That strikes me as very unlikely. How sheltered are you?





It's completely normal, you shouldn't really have stopped him if you liked it, and of course it's safe.
that's something lots of boys do its called fingering i enjoy it im sure you will to once you get used to it you wont regret it he probably left cause he was embarrassed he tried a new move and he figured you didn't like it so he thought it was best he left
Wow umm you did the right thing then again you guys were naked so it might have sent him the wrong signal. if you felt uncomfortable than you should tell him. dont make out naked again unless you want something more than just kissing.
There is nothing wrong with that, you were just not ready. If he is a nice guy he will respect that. You are doing fine and if it is that big of a deal with him he is not worth your time.
He left because he thought you were leading him on not because you were uncomfortable. Next time just finish the ride. You'll be glad you did.
ok you moving back an forth means that you were enjoying it, its normal.. but make sure you explain to him why you left and you felt.
You are fine. It was your first time feeling this. Am a little surprised though. I would have though you would have at least mas******** before.
lol my guy does that all the time before sex lol he was just tryna make you feel good and have a lil fun
yes its normal for him to do it and normal for you to like it.
Ya it's normal but, I don't understand why he would leave.....But I think that you are not ready to have sex.
yes, very normal... your naked he was pleasing you. its not like he decided we are having sex now with out you talking about it.





you prolly freaked him out, he didn't do anything wrong, so i would tell him you just got scared that more was going to happen and you didn't expect that yet.... tell him what happened so he doesn't think he did something wrong.





and yes it is safe, his fingers aren't carrying anything and their is nothing open other then your vagina.





whats not safe is your mouth to his pee pee =)


his mouth to your vag.


his peee pee =) in you


*only not safe STD/HIV wise **if one of you has it
You ask a couple of questions. Let me see if I can answer each of them.





';was this a normal thing for him to do';


I'd say so. With your hips moving back and forth, he probably got encouraged and wanted to increase the pleasure you were feeling.





';and did I react appropriately?';


No matter how you reacted it was appropriate. My guess is that you were just caught offguard and panicked a bit. If you'd been prepared for what he was going to do, or if he'd done it before with good results, you probably wouldn't have reacted that way.





';and is this safe?';


Absolutely. As long as his finger is clean there is no danger to either of you. I would suggest asking him to do it again. It will feel good. And give him some guidance. Ask him to try different speeds, different motions and using his finger in or on different places. He obviously cares for you and wants to please you sexually. Teach him how. And have fun.