She comes crawling back to you now because in the ten months that she was with the other guy, she thought she was going to have it better with him. She left you for him, now she realized that it wasn't what she expected with him.
Good for you, you are over her. Move on. She is bad news. She will not change. If you take her back, she will do it again to you. She is a flake. She does not know what she wants out of life or a man. You dated her for 4 years, not 4 days or four months. That is a long time to know what you want and to know your partner. She dumped the other guy, now she does not want to be alone.
Love and respect yourself. There is a woman out there that is right for you. Until she comes into your life, live life to the fullest, be happy.Mature people, can i get ur advice on my situation? Thanks?
Breakups can be really confusing and frustrating, especially when one person starts to miss the other person. You said that you have mostly moved on and that you weren't thinking about dating her again until she suggested it. Go ahead and work through the ';what-ifs'; in your mind of getting back together with her. Do you think it would work? Do you still like her or are you ok with keeping things as they are (not dating her)?
Once you figure out what you want, talk more with her and let her know clearly how you feel. If you and she decide to date again, talk about whatever it was that split you up (even though it was a combination of things) and try to work those issues out. Best of luck!
well it sound like she saw what life was like with out you and she wants you back unfortinitly i cant tell you what to do cuz i dont know you personaly but just picture your life with some one else and then your life with her whitch one seems right go with your heart
I think you're right. You have dealt with the worst part of this breakup. The last thing you want to do is expose yourself so she can dump you again. But this is really up to you. Do what you think is best. GOOD LUCK!
I was in a similar situation at one point and I have to say,
in my opinion MOVE ON.
I hate it when girls say (I did him, because I love you so much and needed help getting over you.)
Its total BS if she loved you she would never have got another boyfriend.
2 weeks isn't long enough to find a new love for the next 10 months if your already in love!
THEIR RELATIONSHIP ISNT WORKING OUT!
Your just a backup for her she doesn't wanna end up alone she has problems!
No way, it should take 10 months to figure out you want someone back.....
I'm 26 and married that's pretty mature.
id say go with what your heart tells you. she should understand that a lot of guy like to hang out with other guys. my father is like that too. but women like me are sensitive and moody.... she most likely still loves you and if you give her a few months you wont regret it..... you two were meant for eachother epecially if you have been dating her 4 years. but im on your side and still saying everyone deserves a second chance. i think when she went out w/ that guy 2 weeks later she was trying to make u jealous. i hope it works out
Find somebody else. Finish school you don't need improvised drama.
i say, give her a chance
my boyfriend and i took a break til i realized that we needed each other more than anything , since the break, weve been way better and stronger. That was 8 months ago
i honestly dont see myself dating another guy, and he too feels the same way.
i say, if your relationship was a strong 4 years and if you still love her, give it a chance, it will get stronger
good luck, you guys are meant to be
Hey man,
It is really hard to just dish out advice from just words. Because it ALL depends on how genuine you think she is. This could be the begining of a lot of dumping/getting back together type things, and you don't want that.
It COULD also be, that she is genuine and just made a mistake dumping you and she really wants you back; you gotta feel out the situation.
Truth is, you know best. It doesn't really sound like she wronged you (i.e cheating), so if you still love her and see a future with her, I don't see why you shouldn't give it a shot.
right well, you have spent most of your teens with eachother, of course you bth want to go out and have a life for a while. is she the sort of person who chops and changes alot and says what she can to get what she wants or do you think she realy means it. if i was you i would go out with her on a date but not at eachothers houses and see how things go and look further into why she dumped you. if you feel she is just sying this yuuu should refuse a date and get on with you life but im guessing if you spent four years together you love eachother quite alot.
things will never go back to how they were as she betrayed you. you need toi think do you two belong togther and do you love eachother and is this realtionship worth figthing for??
good luck = ]
Well you guys had been together so long, and it doesn't sound like she ever hurt you by cheating on you or anything. Sometimes people make rash desisions instead of stopping and taking time to think. I think it's definitely worth trying again if you're into it. But you guys have to go over what went wrong before and how you're going to remedy the situation. You give it a go, and if it doesn't work again, then call it quits. And you guys were 19, so that's pretty young. As you get older, you'll both realize that the next time you come to a roadblock in your relationship, you can talk through it and work through it instead of dumping one another.
I think her story is changing too much. I know how hard it is to get over someone you really care about. I think you should think real hard about it before you put your heart in her hands again. Also if you absolutely have to give it another try start by dating and for god's sake don't move in! And spending too much time with her brother is a bogus excuse. If she loves you she should want you to have a good relationship with her family.
tricky... follow your heart, and listen to your head. i would say take it easy, try to be friends, and if the spark is still there, then go for it, but i would say spend a few months just hanging out as friends, and see where that goes. dont jump back into a relationship again, it may take a few more years, but if you dont work out why you split the first time, it could happen again.
GIVE HER ONE MORE CHANCE IF SHE DOSE IT AGIAN KICK HER TO THE CURB..AFTER THAT MANY YEARS SHE DESERVES ANOTHER CHANCE..AND IT IS BETTER THAT SHE LEFT YOU TO DO WHAT SHE DID AND NOT DO IT TO YOU WHILE SHE WAS DATING YOU...
mayeb you should get out there and see new people, for teh most part both of you have only been with one another, so you dont know how to not be with one another, maybe you should get out there and see new people, after awhile if you still think you should get back together you'll know3 it was meant to be.. but maybe rushing back in will just get you hurt again.. follow your best instinct, its usually right.
so. either you date her again or you don't.
who cares.
stop crying.
everyone breaks up all the time.
Dude move on, she is only rebounding the other back to you, because she thinks she allready has you, I but money on that she would do it again. Also dude, there is so many other really cool girls don't limit yourself, if you limit yourself you'll never be sucessful in anything.
Okay man, here goes.
You're obviously bright and level headed- that's very good in a situation like this. I'm going to assume you'er single right now and have been since the break up a year ago. Also good- it's aiding your level-headedness. Stick to your guns and trust your gut. The girl broke up with you for a valid girl reason (I've had plenty of fights/break-ups over similar situations) but as mos tguys know, girls can be incredibly selfish when it comes to what they want out of there men. You broke up for the right reasons, and now you're in a great bargaining position. Know this, however- things will go back to the way they were, the good and the bad. A year is a fair amount of time, but barring cataclysmic events, not nearly long enough to make drastic changes in a person's life, especially young people. You might find you end up right were you left off soon than you think possible, for better or worse. The better you can lay down the law about boundaries and your freedom, the longer you'll be able to maintain a certain degree of control/direction on the relationship. I'd reccomend listening to the Rolling Stones ';Down to Me'; or the more contemporary Mike Jones ';Back Then'; for a little positive reinforcement. Seriously.
Since she broke up with you, I get the impression you're a lot like my gf (who actually did the EXACT SAME THING a year ago- we got back together and poof! We're right back in the same arguments) which means she's all about control.
Above all, remember you're young and have a lot of living to do before you settle in to a situation for good (i.e. marriage). Make sure you know the person. And above all, stick to your guns.
If you really love her, I say give it one more chance and then you'll know for sure and you won't have any regrets in the future of not knowing if it would of worked out. However, if she starts playing games or starts giving you the ole run around, then I'd break it off.
I remarried my second wife (we were married 8 years the first time) after we had been divorced for 3 years. We've been married this time almost 7 years. And to be honest with you, here lately its been a real struggle to stay together.
i wouldn't go back to her. like you said you've gotten over the hard part of the dealing with the breakup and she has to now. she was with another guy for 10 months and she was with you for 4 years. she thinks that because you two have that much history that she can pop in and out of your life. I wouldn't let her come back. she can't even keep her story straight about why she broke up with you. leave her in the past. there's no real reason to drum up those old feelings especially after you've dealt with them. i could understand if you still were thinking about her constantly and you still had that chapter left open but you've closed it.
I always give people a second chance. Go for it, bite the bullet and try it!
Wow, I can almost relate to this situation. I found myself in that same place many years ago, only I was in your girlfriend's shoes.
If you're interested in trying to make things work with her, please be careful. You need to keep in mind that she was who ended things with you. You said she changed her reasons for breaking up with you over time. How do you know if she's sincere? I mean, it could very well be that she was ';bored'; of your relationshp when she broke up with you, and she wanted a change. So, she got what she wanted and found out that ';the grass wasn't greener'; so to speak. Now she's lonely and she thinks, ';Hey, I wonder of Nano N would want to get back together with me. I'm gonna find out.'; And that's why she's back now. You are someone familiar to her, someone she can relate to as having spent most of her teen years with you. You need to be sure she's coming back to you because she LOVES you and WANTS to be with you, and not because you're convenient.
I know how difficult it can be to get over someone. You need to do what's best for you so that your feelings are protected. I would hate for you to take her back only to have the same thing happen again. That is a real possibility... I'm sure there is a part of her that does still love you, as there always will be. And chances are that if you turn her down this time around, it will be her turn to feel hurt and then she will finally realize what she's lost and it will be her turn to get over you.
Well that's kind of hard to answer. It just depends on how honest you think she's being. You never know you might end up being the rebound this time. This chick sounds kinda naggy too.
It sounds like you guys both need a longer break, though why not try actually being Friends first, without the drama and emotion that a relationship entails. If after several months you guys mutually agree that you would like to take it further, then start dating her again.
Things will never be the same..you will always have that doubt.. is she going to skate again.?
If you go back... date for a looong time......
there would not be a third chance.....
Just think if you really deserve her.
Think about your life with her.
Think about her.
Tell her the same.
Both of you need some time for yourself.
But I am sure your heart 'll say, I LOVE HER.
If you are not sure try for a better partner or compromise with her
**Note: No girl likes if her bf goes around her brother without paying any attention toward her**
CHEEP UP!!
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i dont know and im sorry to say i dont care because im in a completely stable relationship with nobody at the moment and its quite good.
haha u were replaced..get back with her and u will always know another guy had her after u..sloppy thirds lol
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