We broke up awhile ago and took some time to 'focus on ourselves' meaning we didnt talk to each other for a 3 weeks. After that I contacted her again and we started talking casually.
A week after I first contacted her again, we met up and both got a bit drunk and we ended up sleeping (no sex) with each other on a couch, cuddling and stuff. We woke up that morning and we kissed a lot and were happy. I took her out to lunch with me and a friend and then later me and her went to a movie. She grabbed my hand at the beginning of the movie, and we held hands throughout the entire movie. After that we went to a friends house BUT when we left we didn't kiss or anything, it was an awkward goodbye.
Later, I texted her and said I had a really good time this weekend and she said the same. Then I said I wanted to kiss her goodbye but didn't know if that was ok. She said she felt the same way and didn't know if it was okay or not either. I dont know what she meant-- if she wasnt sure it was okay with herself or okay with me.
I didn't know if it was okay because I didnt know what she wanted with me or if that was just a drunk/we were comfortable with each other type of kiss or what. She knows I really like her still (when we broke up the second time I pretty much told her that I love her and things, but she didn't want to take me back then which was understandable.) I'm pretty sure she knows I want to be back with her because we have a date sorta set up for next week, and I took her out to the movie and everything like that.
Anyway, a day later I called her to see what she was up to and we talked for about 2 hours about nothing really. It was an OK conversation nothing spectacular -- we were both eating at different restaurants. She told me she was going to a bar to meet these two guys (one was one of her friends ex, and some other kid) and with her bestfriend. I don't think she has interest in them or anything but I dont really know much beyond what we are doing with each other.
Does my ex want to get back together with me?
What is something I should do to get back together?
WHAT SHOULD I ABSOLUTELY NOT DO?
How long should I wait before we even start talking about 'us' again?
The difference between now and before is that I'm moving to the same town that she lives in, so we can see each other more. Also, I'm done with a lot of things that were taking up all my time such as school, looking for jobs, and taking the LSAT.
i do really want to tell her how I feel, but i dont want to rush her because i want things to work. im not trying to play with her feelings, i just dont want to scare her away from me or put too much pressure on the whole thing.
i'm asking married women this because I feel like they are the wisest about this and can give me some good advice. someday, i think i want to propose to this girl, she might be my soulmate.LONG. MATURE PEOPLE ONLY 22+, Ex Girlfriend ADvICE NEEDED%26gt;.?
Tell her exactly how you feel where you see your relationship going in the future and find out if she's in for that
Meeting up with the other guys could be just to make you jealous
I think both need to set back and really think is this relationship what you want there some reason you're not making that commitment to work through whatever happens when something happens instead of working it out you split up that's not a workable relationshipLONG. MATURE PEOPLE ONLY 22+, Ex Girlfriend ADvICE NEEDED%26gt;.?
i didn't read all that stupidity, regardless, you're a chump.
i say take it easy with her. don't bring up the subject. do fun things with her that will remind her of the great things about the relationship you had with her before. i think it won't take much for her to realize she'd like to try again :)
Sounds like there is something there from what you stated. It sounds like something you might want to work at, she sounds like a nice gal and you sound like a stand up guy. Keep working at your relationship, just don't try to force it and it will grow.
Good Luck!
From what you say, she doesn't seem like your soulmate. If you get into law school, where does she fit in? She was a potential distraction from completing school, finding a job and taking the LSAT. If she could not accept how important it was for you do these vital things and you two broke up twice, its not going to work right now. You want to go to law school. Do you know how little time you will have for her? Less than before. You two are not on the same page. Tell her how you feel see what she says. Do not change your priorities.
WHAT SHOULD I ABSOLUTELY NOT DO?
** the only line I read, because it was in all caps and caught my attention.
I think you should absolutely not murder your family and harvest their organs for drug money.
That would be naughty.
You pretty much called the shots both times you ended it, possibly making her feel like she didn't have much say in what was going on. The best thing to do is let her make the choices this time. Tell her exactly what you want, and then for the love of soup--stick to it, or you will lose her on strike three.
Ask what she wants, and tell her you respect her to have a say in where the relationship goes now. She gave you a second chance already and probably feels like she might get burned again. She's already agreeing to see you, and she's talking to you, so that's a great sign.
Don't rush her, or make her feel like you're calling the shots once again. Make her feel special enough that she has a say also. Women like explanations, so if you tell her why it didn't work the first couple of times and you're reasons seem pretty valid, she will like to know that it's not her--it was just bad timing.
My advice is to just take it slow and let her know how you feel. Try to be as honest as you can and ask her to do the same. The answers you get from her may not be what you want to hear, but at least you will know where you stand. On the other hand she may be feeling the same way as you! Good luck with whatever happens!
the whole thing about her saying she wasn't sure if it was ok was prob her kissing you because she didn't know where you guys stood and for most of us girls we leave that up to the guys to make the move b/c we would feel completely stupid say if she was to kiss you and you turned away...also I think if you still have feelings for her and you think you guys have a better shot at your relationship this time around just tell her. Just say listen I don't want to pressure you or anything but I still have feelings for you and I would like to give us another shot when your ready if you need to think about it i understand and so on. Im sure she will feel the same shes prob just waiting for you to come around and tell her since you were the one to brake it off both times. Oh and lastly, good luck hope everything works out between the two of you!
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