Why is it when someone is looking for advice about their marriage here on answers, most people say?

GET A DIVORCE. i dont think it's right for people to steer others in the wrong direction. I've noticed that 90% of your answers are ';leave his sorry a ss'; or ';DIVORCE HIM'; Why not say ';seek marriage counseling';. It's because of you people here on yahoo answers that the divorce rate is so hi. You people are giving bad advice. SHAME ON YOU PEOPLE!!Why is it when someone is looking for advice about their marriage here on answers, most people say?
I try to avoid telling anyone to divorce. I don't believe in the marriage counseling crap either unless you are actually able to find a therapist who will help you to see your own faults instead of wasting your money on somene who spends their time listening to you blame each other or takes sides.





I try to get people to see what they are doing wrong because they are the only one they can change. Most don't want to see their faults... they are too busy blaming and trying to change their spouse.





It's a sad, sad world.Why is it when someone is looking for advice about their marriage here on answers, most people say?
Wow! Yahoo Answers is responsible for the US's high divorce rate? Isn't the power of the internet impressive?
Advice is giving your opinion of what you would do in that same situation. A lot of us would leave or kick them out if it came down to cheating and abuse. Sounds like you want the women to stay and be doormats. The divorce rate is so high because of the lousy partners that we are married to.
If people are stupid enough to take the advice of unqualified losers on Yahoo, then they deserve to get whats coming to them.





Obviously I have hurt some of the wanna be ';counselors'; feelings..Hence the thumbs down.
No offense, but if anyone comes on here looking for life altering advice, then they get what they pay for. I would never take the advice of some person on here regarding a problem in my marriage. If I ever ask a personal question like l that I will be looking for someone that has been through something similar that can relate. I would ignore all the people telling me to get a divorce if that wasn't what I wanting to do. I think most people on here are just looking around trying to make sure they aren't the only ones going through what is happening to them. If you look at most best answers, it's not always the best answer given to them, but it is usually the one that reflects their own opinions.


I'm sure if this site didn't exist, the divorce rate would remain unchanged, because the people in the world are the ones on here. It reflects a lot of society's view on marriage. Yahoo has nothing to do with that. Society would still remain the same.
The thing is to- that the one asking was thinking that anyways (divorce)- and for a shrink they BOTH have to be willing to make it work! And often they both dont want that to happen. I dont think divorce is always the answer either, and maybe reading a help book could help to!
I say ';seek marriage counseling'; if there are children involved. if there are no kids, then they're probably better off divorcing before someone decides a baby might ';help';.
I am more concerned that there are people actually taking the advice given here. I mean come on, would you walk to someone on the street and ask them some of the questions posted here.
oh get hold of yourself ! Listen people want to hear the real truth not some crap from a counsler . Your hearing real feelings most of the time . I think the person asking question is smart enough to figure it out !
Just remember that most the ';answerers'; are not certified marriage counselors. Rather, they are everyday weirdos who are probably bored and wanting to come up with a funny or crass answer like you said ';Leave his sorry *** or divorce him';.


It's called yahoo for a reason....there's a buncha yahoos on here.
seek professional help
Leave his sorry *ss. Divorce him
We put ourselves in their shoes and thats what we would all do, so that is the advice we give.
No unfortantly this is a place where people give their advice or opinions but whatever the case maybe it's truly up to the individual what they decied to do. Also it is not because of people on Yahoo answers who have the divorce rate so high, plus you sound like a scorned Lover. What happened did you get dropped? LOL!!!! Grow the hell up you can't blame other people for failed marriages only the two individuals who took their vows together can be held responsible. Shame on You for being so simple minded.
we give people personal advice, are you new? do you know anything about what kinds of questions people ask? if not you need to mind your own business and deal with your issues and give strictly your opions when asked. sorry nobody asked for this opinion from you.
What a dumb question, but thanks for the points!





Oh yeah, many of us do suggest marital counseling. Are you new?
the divorce rate isn't high because of people on Yahoo. Yahoo Answers is a bad place to look for advice, if your looking for advice on here, maybe you really do need counseling.
You're partially correct. Divorce depends on the circumstances: abuse, infidelity etc. etc. Yes counseling should be the first step.
In situations of abuse, domestic violence divorce is the answer.... God bless****
I was thinking the same thing and was actually considering asking the question (worded a bit differently of course).





One of the worst problems in bad relationships is that the one who is being abused or mistreated somehow never decides to leave and stay gone. They doubt then get over it, or they leave and come back within days.
I think that is how you can separate the real adults from anyone under the age of 23.....those kids are clueless anyway........
When giving advice I always try to tell people to try to work it out...because I do not believe in divorce but I honestly believe that alot of people, by the time they get here to post their questions, have already decided it is time to get out and they are just looking for people to agree with them. Unfortunately we live in a society that says ';if it doesn't feel good or it isn't working for you anymore move on';
We make he divorce rate high!


You make the stupidity rate soar.
SEEK COUNSELING.
I say seek marriage counseling constantly. Sometimes I feel it is a cop out of an answer, as it is neither easy nor affordable to get a difficult spouse into counseling.





But in an abusive situation, counseling isn't going to help. I rarely say leave his sorry a ss. But in the case of abuse, I would.