Okay I am like talking to my friend and we are reading a magazien and im like who is that and she can say the name to EVERYONE! it is crazy! I wanna get to know how I can KNOW who people are for 6th grade so im not like uhhh who is that? if you know hwta I mean.
plz help! add links if you want!
WARNING: DON'T BE A JERK FOR YOU ANSWER!Any advice on how to get to know who people are better? (read for example and explanation)?
Well, it could help if you visited gossip sites and researched all the current celebrities. :D
Friday, January 8, 2010
Advice from experienced birth control (pills) people please!?
i started seasonique about 5.5 months ago. almost time for 2nd period.
everything is fine, except for mood swings. so, im thinking of changing pills.
i used to be happy always, barely ever upset or angry. now i go from that self to being upset at least once a day. i can get over it quickly and still have an overall good day, but my boyfriend thinks its anxiety. which is also a symptom of this medicine according to other peoples reviews.
im sure this switch is from the birth control, but don't most have this side effect? like i said everything else is great, so is it worth it to have small mood swings than to switch to a med that may be worse for my body?
opinions please! :]
oh, and should i give my body more time to adjust?Advice from experienced birth control (pills) people please!?
I would suggest talking to your OBGYN about this. Most birth controls have side effects, that is true, but what you need to decide is if this change of attitude is effecting your life to a point where you are no longer happy. If this is the case, you may want to switch. Like I said, talk to your OBGYN, they are there to help and have the most information.Advice from experienced birth control (pills) people please!?
You may need to try a different pill. I was on marvelon (the first time i ever took pills) and lasted only a month because i turned into a monster snapping at everyone over everything. i then tried tri-cyclen lo, and had no mood swings at all. it took my body about 3 months to get used to it though (i had a lot of nausea).
I would say that if after almost 6 months you are still feeling side effects you may need to try a different pill that will mesh better wtih your body.
good luck!
You need to give any pill at least a whole year! After a year, if your mood is still bad, and you still want to switch, then you can. But its bad for your bady to keep changing up all those hormones.
Talk to your doctor about the mood swings. I was on the pill years ago and had to go off it because I was crying all the time for no reason.
Try the NuevoRing. It's awesome!
ALL GIRLS WHO ARE THINKING ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL READ THIS!
Get off that seasonique right away! Ladies listen, your body has a period every month for a reason, taking something that gives you less periods a year then you should have is bad for you and is messing with the natural order of things inside your body.
I know we all hate to have our periods every month BUT taking a pill everyday is not as bad as they make it sound.
In fact, having a normal birth control regiment, is safer and has more benefits. they are
1. You get a normal dose of hormones everyday, NOT a does thats so high it prevents pregnancy for 3 months. Think about it! if you take something that prevents pregnancy for three months with ONE DOSE, thats a HIGH dose of hormones and that can cause really bad mood swings.
2. The everyday pill has been on the market for YEARS. So you know youre not going to read in a year from now that its being recalled bc its causing some crazy disease.
3.If you get pregnant and your using birth control that causes you to only have 4 periods, You wont even know your pregnant till your months and months in! PMS SYMPTOMS CAN BE VERY SIMILAR TO PREGNANCY SYMPTOMS.
SO LADIES MY ADVICE: I use ortho tri cyclen LO. The high one made me gain weight so dont use that one. But the low is great, not only does it protect you from pregnancy the first day you start start taking it,it gives you lighter periods AND MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR ME, I NEVER GET P.M.S. which for me is a big deal bc when i wasnt on it, I WOULD GET THE WORST MOOD SWINGS AND THE WORST CRAMPS. Eve since Ive been using this pill, not a thing. Im telling you, ask your doctor about it because having fewer periods is not worth risking your health.
If all you worry about is being in a bad mood once a day, you're whining too much. It could be a lot worse, there are pills that make you puke and really nauseated. some makey ou gain weight, some make you feel much worse than just having mood swings. Accept it, no pill is going to be perfect. I've been on many types of birth controls, and one thing ive come to notice is that the best one is alesse for me, even though I have mood swings, I havent' gained weight, haven't been nauseated which was a huge thing for me, so just accept it, you found a birth control pill that reacts the least with your body, get over it and try to be happy. You said yourself you ca deal with it. I think the only case you sould ever switch is if the symptoms become unmanageable and effect your health and make it hard for you to live day to day normally.
I'm very sensitive to birth control. I've tried just about everything out there. The best thing I tried was ortho tri cyclen low, but you have to take a pill everday so if you can't remember that try the nuva-ring. It didn't works as well as the Ortho low dose but it was easier to remember. Some of the worst things I tried were the Depo Provera shot. It was the worst. I gained 15 pounds in 3 years while on it and was an angry emotional train wreck. The Patch, it fell off sometimes and left red spots. I was also very emotional and angry all the time. I disagree about giving your body a whole year to adjust. I think six months is long enough. I don't like the ones that cause you to have fewer periods. I think those really screw with your hormones and cause you to become a beast. After I took depo for six months I stopped getting a period at all, and I am honestly suprised I didn't kill myself or someone else when I was on it. I was that hormonally emotional.
everything is fine, except for mood swings. so, im thinking of changing pills.
i used to be happy always, barely ever upset or angry. now i go from that self to being upset at least once a day. i can get over it quickly and still have an overall good day, but my boyfriend thinks its anxiety. which is also a symptom of this medicine according to other peoples reviews.
im sure this switch is from the birth control, but don't most have this side effect? like i said everything else is great, so is it worth it to have small mood swings than to switch to a med that may be worse for my body?
opinions please! :]
oh, and should i give my body more time to adjust?Advice from experienced birth control (pills) people please!?
I would suggest talking to your OBGYN about this. Most birth controls have side effects, that is true, but what you need to decide is if this change of attitude is effecting your life to a point where you are no longer happy. If this is the case, you may want to switch. Like I said, talk to your OBGYN, they are there to help and have the most information.Advice from experienced birth control (pills) people please!?
You may need to try a different pill. I was on marvelon (the first time i ever took pills) and lasted only a month because i turned into a monster snapping at everyone over everything. i then tried tri-cyclen lo, and had no mood swings at all. it took my body about 3 months to get used to it though (i had a lot of nausea).
I would say that if after almost 6 months you are still feeling side effects you may need to try a different pill that will mesh better wtih your body.
good luck!
You need to give any pill at least a whole year! After a year, if your mood is still bad, and you still want to switch, then you can. But its bad for your bady to keep changing up all those hormones.
Talk to your doctor about the mood swings. I was on the pill years ago and had to go off it because I was crying all the time for no reason.
Try the NuevoRing. It's awesome!
ALL GIRLS WHO ARE THINKING ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL READ THIS!
Get off that seasonique right away! Ladies listen, your body has a period every month for a reason, taking something that gives you less periods a year then you should have is bad for you and is messing with the natural order of things inside your body.
I know we all hate to have our periods every month BUT taking a pill everyday is not as bad as they make it sound.
In fact, having a normal birth control regiment, is safer and has more benefits. they are
1. You get a normal dose of hormones everyday, NOT a does thats so high it prevents pregnancy for 3 months. Think about it! if you take something that prevents pregnancy for three months with ONE DOSE, thats a HIGH dose of hormones and that can cause really bad mood swings.
2. The everyday pill has been on the market for YEARS. So you know youre not going to read in a year from now that its being recalled bc its causing some crazy disease.
3.If you get pregnant and your using birth control that causes you to only have 4 periods, You wont even know your pregnant till your months and months in! PMS SYMPTOMS CAN BE VERY SIMILAR TO PREGNANCY SYMPTOMS.
SO LADIES MY ADVICE: I use ortho tri cyclen LO. The high one made me gain weight so dont use that one. But the low is great, not only does it protect you from pregnancy the first day you start start taking it,it gives you lighter periods AND MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR ME, I NEVER GET P.M.S. which for me is a big deal bc when i wasnt on it, I WOULD GET THE WORST MOOD SWINGS AND THE WORST CRAMPS. Eve since Ive been using this pill, not a thing. Im telling you, ask your doctor about it because having fewer periods is not worth risking your health.
If all you worry about is being in a bad mood once a day, you're whining too much. It could be a lot worse, there are pills that make you puke and really nauseated. some makey ou gain weight, some make you feel much worse than just having mood swings. Accept it, no pill is going to be perfect. I've been on many types of birth controls, and one thing ive come to notice is that the best one is alesse for me, even though I have mood swings, I havent' gained weight, haven't been nauseated which was a huge thing for me, so just accept it, you found a birth control pill that reacts the least with your body, get over it and try to be happy. You said yourself you ca deal with it. I think the only case you sould ever switch is if the symptoms become unmanageable and effect your health and make it hard for you to live day to day normally.
I'm very sensitive to birth control. I've tried just about everything out there. The best thing I tried was ortho tri cyclen low, but you have to take a pill everday so if you can't remember that try the nuva-ring. It didn't works as well as the Ortho low dose but it was easier to remember. Some of the worst things I tried were the Depo Provera shot. It was the worst. I gained 15 pounds in 3 years while on it and was an angry emotional train wreck. The Patch, it fell off sometimes and left red spots. I was also very emotional and angry all the time. I disagree about giving your body a whole year to adjust. I think six months is long enough. I don't like the ones that cause you to have fewer periods. I think those really screw with your hormones and cause you to become a beast. After I took depo for six months I stopped getting a period at all, and I am honestly suprised I didn't kill myself or someone else when I was on it. I was that hormonally emotional.
Ok people...Do you take your own advice?
We all know what y/ans is about.We all give and take suggestions and solutions.We all talk n communicate (ehm...damning violations)Now my question is...do you practice what you preach?
Do you actually do what you suggest others or do you only say the right kind of thing?Ok people...Do you take your own advice?
Isha, you are on it. No we don't take our own advice. We give advice because we all know the difference between right and wrong. But the simple fact is, that we are all weak people and hope that someday we can live up to our own expectations. Good question.Ok people...Do you take your own advice?
I try to the best of my ability.
hell no!
A french philosopher said that everybody is a wise man for the others, i. e. when you have to give an advice and think of somebody else's problem you come up with wise, practical solutions and see things clear. One of the reasons for this is that you see things from a different angle, you are not in the ';center of the fire';.
Yes, I do my best to follow them- these are the things that have worked for me, that would make me feel better, that I have done or would do and the best ideas I've got from scientifical point of view.
Sometimes I take my own advice. And sometimes it is easier to say than to do, you know? But I suppose that can be applied to many areas of life. Easier said than done. I just try to help.
sometimes, but usually I realize that I give bad advice.
';Do as i say not as i do';.
If i took my own advice and not started taking drugs i wouldn't of had a 6 year addiction and ended up in rehab for 14 months by the time I'm 23. So my answer is no i don't take my own advice.
No i dont think i do take most of my own advise if im honest. I like to dish it out but honestly i dont always listen to my own heart. I know sometimes i am doing wrong thing but i just cant help myself!
The answer to all questions is- It depends.
Sometimes. My best piece of advice is ';Do as I say, not as I do';
I do,if I suggest it, it's because its what i would do,whats the point other wise?
it's not easy to practice what you preach other peoples problems are easier to deal with than my own.
I try to, but I realise that I am only human! On some of the more emotional problems it is so much easier to give advice when you are not involved than it is to take the best course of action if you are involved. I also find that by giving advice it can help me to answer some of the problems in my own life!
ya
What we preach is like an experiment, after we know that it succeeds then we adopt or else go on preaching for others to make out.
most often....
i try to. but im not perfect or anything, so sometimes not really. ahem, i meant OCCASIONALLAY (:
i try to take my own advice. sometimes i don't notice that i should.
Do you actually do what you suggest others or do you only say the right kind of thing?Ok people...Do you take your own advice?
Isha, you are on it. No we don't take our own advice. We give advice because we all know the difference between right and wrong. But the simple fact is, that we are all weak people and hope that someday we can live up to our own expectations. Good question.Ok people...Do you take your own advice?
I try to the best of my ability.
hell no!
A french philosopher said that everybody is a wise man for the others, i. e. when you have to give an advice and think of somebody else's problem you come up with wise, practical solutions and see things clear. One of the reasons for this is that you see things from a different angle, you are not in the ';center of the fire';.
Yes, I do my best to follow them- these are the things that have worked for me, that would make me feel better, that I have done or would do and the best ideas I've got from scientifical point of view.
Sometimes I take my own advice. And sometimes it is easier to say than to do, you know? But I suppose that can be applied to many areas of life. Easier said than done. I just try to help.
sometimes, but usually I realize that I give bad advice.
';Do as i say not as i do';.
If i took my own advice and not started taking drugs i wouldn't of had a 6 year addiction and ended up in rehab for 14 months by the time I'm 23. So my answer is no i don't take my own advice.
No i dont think i do take most of my own advise if im honest. I like to dish it out but honestly i dont always listen to my own heart. I know sometimes i am doing wrong thing but i just cant help myself!
The answer to all questions is- It depends.
Sometimes. My best piece of advice is ';Do as I say, not as I do';
I do,if I suggest it, it's because its what i would do,whats the point other wise?
it's not easy to practice what you preach other peoples problems are easier to deal with than my own.
I try to, but I realise that I am only human! On some of the more emotional problems it is so much easier to give advice when you are not involved than it is to take the best course of action if you are involved. I also find that by giving advice it can help me to answer some of the problems in my own life!
ya
What we preach is like an experiment, after we know that it succeeds then we adopt or else go on preaching for others to make out.
most often....
i try to. but im not perfect or anything, so sometimes not really. ahem, i meant OCCASIONALLAY (:
i try to take my own advice. sometimes i don't notice that i should.
Weird question, how can i get people to stop giving me advice? [about new baby]?
I am 17 years old [almost 18] and pregnant. My boyfriend and i are still together, and doing fine.
But i am getting annoyed with everyone telling me ';its gonna be so hard for you bla bla';
I really do understand that its gonna be REALLY FREAKING HARD.
No one seems to get that.
I am pretty optimistic, and I dont complain about the baby coming as much as other people, so they think that i am just naive and i dont get what is happening.
so what is a polite way to ask them to shut the heck up and i get it?Weird question, how can i get people to stop giving me advice? [about new baby]?
It happens to all of us first time moms. I am 28, married, blah blah and we still got the ';A baby is a big responsibility, you know. A baby is hard work. You two must think about that.';. Oh and I hate the advice on how and where he should sleep, how often we should pick him up, what we should do when he cries, what he should eat, what I should diaper him with, whether or not I should work, whether we should vaccinate, circumcize, etc. Everyone feels like its their right to comment on those things just because they've done it before. I just nod and say ';oh, really? Interesting';, and then ignore it and forget about it.
You could also just say ';We know. We will be fine.'; and anytime anyone says anything say ';we know, we will be fine';. If you keep repeating that same line and cut off the line of conversation, change the topic, people will get the hint that you dont want to hear it. Just cut them off completely.
EDIT: Death to the Diaper Genie!!!!
EDIT #2: Baby Girl due 10-16-08... my MIL told me to get rid of my dogs too! What's wrong with these people lol!Weird question, how can i get people to stop giving me advice? [about new baby]?
I get that too, i get, ';you will bring the baby in bed with you despite what you say'; etc. And it really winds me up when people offer advice that is not asked for. You dont realise how opinionated people are until you get pregnant do you? I just say, everyone is different, my pregnancy, my baby is not going to be the same as everyone elses cos every baby and pregnancy is different so let me just see for myself how hard it is and how i cope. Say unless you are going to offer me some helpful advice on bringing up a child im really not interested. Dont worry about hurting their feelings as they are hurting yours by telling you this whilst your potentially emotional.
I have said many a times when people ask if im breast feeding or bottle feeding ';What would you suggest i do cos im sure you know best'; as i got so sick of the constant opinionated 'advice'
Unsolicted advice about pregnancy is a pain in the butt. Your age just seems to make people think that you need it that much more. On days you really don't want to put up with it try wearing a 'Statement Tee' like ';Stop staring at my belly'; or ';Did I ask for your advice?'; People tend to get the message and you appear humorous not rude.
Stick to your guns girl cause until your child out grows the diapers people are likely to tell you, i mean advise you on how best to raise your child
I had my first baby at 37 and I still got all the ';You have *no* idea how much it is going to change your life'; comments as though people wanted to reinforce how much we didn't know. Maybe they thought we were stuck in our selfish ways at our age. I remember my husband muttering ';Well, I would hope having a baby does change our life completely, otherwise what's the point?';. A good reply for the ';You don't know how much hard work it is'; might be ';Isn't everything worthwhile hard work?';. You sound like me, more happy to go with the flow rather than get all worked up and anxious in advance.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that we all get it, whatever our age, and I would try and hang out mostly with people that support you and believe in you.
Roxy
dont feel bad. you arent the only person in that situation.. just do you ya know!! cause guess what the only person thats gonna be happy at the end of the day is you! so dont worry about it.if you get it... then just do what you need to for your family and let it happen... so dont worry so much everything will be fine! i was pregnant at 21, and i am 23 and i am pregnant with my second child going to school and working is pretty hard.but dont let people get to you. My mom tries to tell me crap too, but you just got let it go sometimes ya know?? hang in there mama!
I can totally relate, it doesn't matter how old you are, people always think they are the only ones to ever have given birth! These people are so rude. My mom always told me that unsolicited advice is unwanted advice.
I started to distance myself from people like this, since nicely hinting didn't seem to work. Also, you can just add ';thank you for your opinion'; and immediately change the subject. Don't give any more worth to their comments.....most normal people would back off after this.
lol your asking for advice on how to stop advice lol. anyway they did the same thing to me when was pregnant at 19, and they will not stop. and if you tell them you dont need any advice you come off as a total bit**. they are just tryin to be helpful. usually it's older women who have been there before. and you should not entirely ignore all of them. it's not going to be a bowl of cream all the time no matter how optimistic you are. they are just being realistic based on life experience. if you dont want to hear it just nod and smile and dont worry about them.
There is no polite way to do it.
It'll suck, but you just need to smile, say ';thank you'; and change the subject. Yes, it would FEEL better if you weren't so nice but you'll very likely need help from MANY different people as you %26amp; your boyfriend get through this so now is not the time to give people a piece of your mind.
Good Luck.
Just politely say that, ';I know it is going to be hard but you know, it is going to be hard on me and not on you, so thank you for your advice.'; That should be enough to shut most people up but not so rude as to offend.
Hope this helps.
Congratulations!
It does not matter what age you are EVERYBODY gets this! When they ask you if its your first and you say yes and then the flood of advice comes in. You just have to learn to smile and nod your head! You will only get more and more unwanted advice once the baby is born. Good Luck.
This comes with being a parent and you just have to deal with it.
Doesn't matte how old you are, people will ALWAYS have opinions and stuff to say about you and how you plan to raise your kid.
Better get used to it now,
just politely say 'thank you for your advice but i already know and understand'
and they should back off lol
People have been giving us the same kind of unwanted ';advice'; too, and my husband and I are both in our 30's!
I think it makes some people feel righteous to be able to say ';you have no idea about the lack of sleep'; and ';you won't know what hit you'; constantly. Not to mention how many women tend to tell you how horrific birth is, and their stories of 72 hour labour, and delivering massive 20lb babies, which get more exaggerated each time they repeat them. Urgh.
Irritating as it is, I tend to smile politely, nod a few times, says something not specific like ';yes, it must be very difficult at first'; and then try to change the subject. After all, I'm sure they are only trying to help in their own way.
And I am making a mental note never to offer the same kind of ';advice'; to people after I've had the baby! ;-)
I hate to break it to you, but they won't stop, even if you do find a way to tell them.
I'm 19, almost 20, been on my own for 2 years, been with my fiance (who is 24 almost 25) for 3 years, and they will not stop doing the same thing to us.
I think it's just basically because they care, or because they want to see you fail. Either way, they don't stop.
My fiance's mother is basically the worst, constantly telling me what I need to do (breastfeeding, getting rid of my dog, etc.) and I get really really irritated by it. I know she means well, but it can be very frustrating.
All you can do is smile and politely find a way to let them know you'll be doing it the way you want to do it. And what I've come to realize is, it doesn't even matter because in the end, it's YOUR baby, and you'll raise him/her the way YOU want to =]
Good luck and congratulations =]eye shadow
But i am getting annoyed with everyone telling me ';its gonna be so hard for you bla bla';
I really do understand that its gonna be REALLY FREAKING HARD.
No one seems to get that.
I am pretty optimistic, and I dont complain about the baby coming as much as other people, so they think that i am just naive and i dont get what is happening.
so what is a polite way to ask them to shut the heck up and i get it?Weird question, how can i get people to stop giving me advice? [about new baby]?
It happens to all of us first time moms. I am 28, married, blah blah and we still got the ';A baby is a big responsibility, you know. A baby is hard work. You two must think about that.';. Oh and I hate the advice on how and where he should sleep, how often we should pick him up, what we should do when he cries, what he should eat, what I should diaper him with, whether or not I should work, whether we should vaccinate, circumcize, etc. Everyone feels like its their right to comment on those things just because they've done it before. I just nod and say ';oh, really? Interesting';, and then ignore it and forget about it.
You could also just say ';We know. We will be fine.'; and anytime anyone says anything say ';we know, we will be fine';. If you keep repeating that same line and cut off the line of conversation, change the topic, people will get the hint that you dont want to hear it. Just cut them off completely.
EDIT: Death to the Diaper Genie!!!!
EDIT #2: Baby Girl due 10-16-08... my MIL told me to get rid of my dogs too! What's wrong with these people lol!Weird question, how can i get people to stop giving me advice? [about new baby]?
I get that too, i get, ';you will bring the baby in bed with you despite what you say'; etc. And it really winds me up when people offer advice that is not asked for. You dont realise how opinionated people are until you get pregnant do you? I just say, everyone is different, my pregnancy, my baby is not going to be the same as everyone elses cos every baby and pregnancy is different so let me just see for myself how hard it is and how i cope. Say unless you are going to offer me some helpful advice on bringing up a child im really not interested. Dont worry about hurting their feelings as they are hurting yours by telling you this whilst your potentially emotional.
I have said many a times when people ask if im breast feeding or bottle feeding ';What would you suggest i do cos im sure you know best'; as i got so sick of the constant opinionated 'advice'
Unsolicted advice about pregnancy is a pain in the butt. Your age just seems to make people think that you need it that much more. On days you really don't want to put up with it try wearing a 'Statement Tee' like ';Stop staring at my belly'; or ';Did I ask for your advice?'; People tend to get the message and you appear humorous not rude.
Stick to your guns girl cause until your child out grows the diapers people are likely to tell you, i mean advise you on how best to raise your child
I had my first baby at 37 and I still got all the ';You have *no* idea how much it is going to change your life'; comments as though people wanted to reinforce how much we didn't know. Maybe they thought we were stuck in our selfish ways at our age. I remember my husband muttering ';Well, I would hope having a baby does change our life completely, otherwise what's the point?';. A good reply for the ';You don't know how much hard work it is'; might be ';Isn't everything worthwhile hard work?';. You sound like me, more happy to go with the flow rather than get all worked up and anxious in advance.
Anyway, I just wanted to say that we all get it, whatever our age, and I would try and hang out mostly with people that support you and believe in you.
Roxy
dont feel bad. you arent the only person in that situation.. just do you ya know!! cause guess what the only person thats gonna be happy at the end of the day is you! so dont worry about it.if you get it... then just do what you need to for your family and let it happen... so dont worry so much everything will be fine! i was pregnant at 21, and i am 23 and i am pregnant with my second child going to school and working is pretty hard.but dont let people get to you. My mom tries to tell me crap too, but you just got let it go sometimes ya know?? hang in there mama!
I can totally relate, it doesn't matter how old you are, people always think they are the only ones to ever have given birth! These people are so rude. My mom always told me that unsolicited advice is unwanted advice.
I started to distance myself from people like this, since nicely hinting didn't seem to work. Also, you can just add ';thank you for your opinion'; and immediately change the subject. Don't give any more worth to their comments.....most normal people would back off after this.
lol your asking for advice on how to stop advice lol. anyway they did the same thing to me when was pregnant at 19, and they will not stop. and if you tell them you dont need any advice you come off as a total bit**. they are just tryin to be helpful. usually it's older women who have been there before. and you should not entirely ignore all of them. it's not going to be a bowl of cream all the time no matter how optimistic you are. they are just being realistic based on life experience. if you dont want to hear it just nod and smile and dont worry about them.
There is no polite way to do it.
It'll suck, but you just need to smile, say ';thank you'; and change the subject. Yes, it would FEEL better if you weren't so nice but you'll very likely need help from MANY different people as you %26amp; your boyfriend get through this so now is not the time to give people a piece of your mind.
Good Luck.
Just politely say that, ';I know it is going to be hard but you know, it is going to be hard on me and not on you, so thank you for your advice.'; That should be enough to shut most people up but not so rude as to offend.
Hope this helps.
Congratulations!
It does not matter what age you are EVERYBODY gets this! When they ask you if its your first and you say yes and then the flood of advice comes in. You just have to learn to smile and nod your head! You will only get more and more unwanted advice once the baby is born. Good Luck.
This comes with being a parent and you just have to deal with it.
Doesn't matte how old you are, people will ALWAYS have opinions and stuff to say about you and how you plan to raise your kid.
Better get used to it now,
just politely say 'thank you for your advice but i already know and understand'
and they should back off lol
People have been giving us the same kind of unwanted ';advice'; too, and my husband and I are both in our 30's!
I think it makes some people feel righteous to be able to say ';you have no idea about the lack of sleep'; and ';you won't know what hit you'; constantly. Not to mention how many women tend to tell you how horrific birth is, and their stories of 72 hour labour, and delivering massive 20lb babies, which get more exaggerated each time they repeat them. Urgh.
Irritating as it is, I tend to smile politely, nod a few times, says something not specific like ';yes, it must be very difficult at first'; and then try to change the subject. After all, I'm sure they are only trying to help in their own way.
And I am making a mental note never to offer the same kind of ';advice'; to people after I've had the baby! ;-)
I hate to break it to you, but they won't stop, even if you do find a way to tell them.
I'm 19, almost 20, been on my own for 2 years, been with my fiance (who is 24 almost 25) for 3 years, and they will not stop doing the same thing to us.
I think it's just basically because they care, or because they want to see you fail. Either way, they don't stop.
My fiance's mother is basically the worst, constantly telling me what I need to do (breastfeeding, getting rid of my dog, etc.) and I get really really irritated by it. I know she means well, but it can be very frustrating.
All you can do is smile and politely find a way to let them know you'll be doing it the way you want to do it. And what I've come to realize is, it doesn't even matter because in the end, it's YOUR baby, and you'll raise him/her the way YOU want to =]
Good luck and congratulations =]
People who do yoga, can you give me advice? Please read the details!
Ok,I do yoga everyday for 30 minutes or more .From today's date(8/06/08) until August 25.08, about how much pounds do you think i can drop by that period of time? Please and thank you! =]People who do yoga, can you give me advice? Please read the details!
That's not true!
Yoga is one of the best ways known for reducing fat, for the improvement of digestion and for curing constipation.
How?
Through the practice of Yogic Asanas. These later will let you get in shape quickly, will make your body flexible, and you'll be more energetic..
They massage and knead the hollow abdominal viscera and make them regain their normal rhythm and remove constipation and with it the auto-intoxication. They lower blood pressure and burn out the unnecessary and superfluous fat, making the body slim again.
So, you'll be able to loose weight doing yoga.
But, I can't tell you how much will you loose. Because, it's really depends on your eating habit (it's better to go vegetable), work and consistency.
To discover more, you can check this free yoga e-course:
http://www.yoga-health-beauty-energy.com鈥?/a>
All the bestPeople who do yoga, can you give me advice? Please read the details!
Vicki,
You may actually gain weight, since muscle weighs more than fat. However, you will look more fit - toned, strong, sleek! Don't go by the number on the scale, go with how your body feels when you move, and how your clothes fit. People who do yoga tend to be more relaxed, which can also make you look thinner, since you'll move more like a cat.
not that much. yoga is to relax you.. not to help loose weight. at most 5 pounds.
help me?...=]
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Yoga doesn't cause weight loss, it helps with tone and flexibility.
That's not true!
Yoga is one of the best ways known for reducing fat, for the improvement of digestion and for curing constipation.
How?
Through the practice of Yogic Asanas. These later will let you get in shape quickly, will make your body flexible, and you'll be more energetic..
They massage and knead the hollow abdominal viscera and make them regain their normal rhythm and remove constipation and with it the auto-intoxication. They lower blood pressure and burn out the unnecessary and superfluous fat, making the body slim again.
So, you'll be able to loose weight doing yoga.
But, I can't tell you how much will you loose. Because, it's really depends on your eating habit (it's better to go vegetable), work and consistency.
To discover more, you can check this free yoga e-course:
http://www.yoga-health-beauty-energy.com鈥?/a>
All the bestPeople who do yoga, can you give me advice? Please read the details!
Vicki,
You may actually gain weight, since muscle weighs more than fat. However, you will look more fit - toned, strong, sleek! Don't go by the number on the scale, go with how your body feels when you move, and how your clothes fit. People who do yoga tend to be more relaxed, which can also make you look thinner, since you'll move more like a cat.
not that much. yoga is to relax you.. not to help loose weight. at most 5 pounds.
help me?...=]
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Yoga doesn't cause weight loss, it helps with tone and flexibility.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
To any local London people!!!! please give your advice?
I am researching London for a book, and I want to know where to find cheaper middle class housing for a single young adult. I would like it to be a small 2 story probably, apartment, that is less urban but still a bit crowded and cozy. I might even be interested in suburbs outside of London. I just basicly want a nice smallish cozy apartment that might be a bit old ( nothing modern or within the last 10 yrs) that a single woman would live in (vines and flowers and such =) that would be cheap and cozy and moderatly quiet. nothing urban; sry im so specific, but it's important to me. your input would be very helpfull!
Thank you! =)To any local London people!!!! please give your advice?
lol i live near central london, upin the north of london, there are houses like that in the borough of enfield, like in southgate, edmonton, enfeild town, oakwood, winchmore, around there, in edmonton there are small 2-3 bedroom houses that where built in the victorian times, cute little gardens, and reasonably cheap most of tthe roads are small corner roads anyway, in places like southgate and winchmore the houses are usaully bigger, like 3,4+ bedrooms with double the size gardens and a bit more money, they afre also old houses
hope this helped
Thank you! =)To any local London people!!!! please give your advice?
lol i live near central london, upin the north of london, there are houses like that in the borough of enfield, like in southgate, edmonton, enfeild town, oakwood, winchmore, around there, in edmonton there are small 2-3 bedroom houses that where built in the victorian times, cute little gardens, and reasonably cheap most of tthe roads are small corner roads anyway, in places like southgate and winchmore the houses are usaully bigger, like 3,4+ bedrooms with double the size gardens and a bit more money, they afre also old houses
hope this helped
Do you ever just want to yell at people when they give you advice?
Did you know that I'm depressed. I was told that one today.
Duh!!!!!
My mother pasted away a month ago today. I didn't
sleep again last night. Wouldn't you be a little bit depressed when this is the first you have ever been on your own.
Duh!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry, need to vent a little. Having another rough day.
Weekends are the worst. Too much time to think.Do you ever just want to yell at people when they give you advice?
It's been 3 years since Mom passed away. And it still hurts. And yes, weekends are the worst, we always talked on Sunday...always.
It will ease with time, but it will never go away. If you ever want to vent...feel free.
Thank you Gem for leading me here. Nymph..we don't know each other..but I am here if you need a friendly ear.Do you ever just want to yell at people when they give you advice?
I'm blushing. That's not easy to do. And I mean every word.
:)
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I know it sounds lame, but hang in there. It will get better with time. I know from experience. And yell all you want to. Amazingly, it does help.
hi i no how u feel and feel free to vent at me any time some people just don't understand Hugs
Sweetie....You know you can vent to me any time you choose to do so.....I really know what you are going through....and you will make it to the other side....My Gramma died a year ago this month...and it hurts....like crazy....and about this time last year a ';friend'; called me and told me I needed to snap out of it...She was better off now......I screamed at her....and yelled and told her off in a big way...and guess what I felt better getting that out of my system....Mind you she and I are not as close as we once were.....but that is okay with me....
Peace.
I know how you feel. I lost my dad about 12 years ago. I was five. It is really annoying, and sadly it never ends. I still hear it. I'll meet someone new, after awhile they'll hear about it somehow, and they'll say their sorry. I can't stand that. Why are they sorry after 12 years, it's not like it's their fault. (okay that was my vent there) Even though you don't want to hear it, you've probably heard it about 100000 times, it does get better. It'll always be hard, but you'll come to peace with it after awhile.
I've felt that way at times but I know they were only trying to help me in their way and I didn't want to drive my friends away I needed them around me for support or advice.
My best friend didn't know what to say to me and stood back a bit for a while and I missed her so much I had to go around and tell her how I felt and she was a great help to me when I needed her..most
Duh!!!!!
My mother pasted away a month ago today. I didn't
sleep again last night. Wouldn't you be a little bit depressed when this is the first you have ever been on your own.
Duh!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry, need to vent a little. Having another rough day.
Weekends are the worst. Too much time to think.Do you ever just want to yell at people when they give you advice?
It's been 3 years since Mom passed away. And it still hurts. And yes, weekends are the worst, we always talked on Sunday...always.
It will ease with time, but it will never go away. If you ever want to vent...feel free.
Thank you Gem for leading me here. Nymph..we don't know each other..but I am here if you need a friendly ear.Do you ever just want to yell at people when they give you advice?
I'm blushing. That's not easy to do. And I mean every word.
:)
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I am sorry to hear of your loss. I know it sounds lame, but hang in there. It will get better with time. I know from experience. And yell all you want to. Amazingly, it does help.
hi i no how u feel and feel free to vent at me any time some people just don't understand Hugs
Sweetie....You know you can vent to me any time you choose to do so.....I really know what you are going through....and you will make it to the other side....My Gramma died a year ago this month...and it hurts....like crazy....and about this time last year a ';friend'; called me and told me I needed to snap out of it...She was better off now......I screamed at her....and yelled and told her off in a big way...and guess what I felt better getting that out of my system....Mind you she and I are not as close as we once were.....but that is okay with me....
Peace.
I know how you feel. I lost my dad about 12 years ago. I was five. It is really annoying, and sadly it never ends. I still hear it. I'll meet someone new, after awhile they'll hear about it somehow, and they'll say their sorry. I can't stand that. Why are they sorry after 12 years, it's not like it's their fault. (okay that was my vent there) Even though you don't want to hear it, you've probably heard it about 100000 times, it does get better. It'll always be hard, but you'll come to peace with it after awhile.
I've felt that way at times but I know they were only trying to help me in their way and I didn't want to drive my friends away I needed them around me for support or advice.
My best friend didn't know what to say to me and stood back a bit for a while and I missed her so much I had to go around and tell her how I felt and she was a great help to me when I needed her..most
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