im a certified nursing assistant and am pregnant with my first child. The place where i work has a very heavy load of patients who are very large. The problem is i cant be lifting 200 pound men alone, and when i call for help no one helps me. Im so upset every time i come home from work and i feel like crying at work. Im about to have my dr put me on light duty for work. No one will help me so wouldn't you ask to be put on light duty?Need some advice from you ladies about my job, people arent being so nice to me :(?
Absolutely you should be put on light duty. Your first responsibility is now to your child and if you think lugging around 200 pounds of anything will put your baby at risk then you need to transfer duties.
And anyone in the health profession should support this decision. Shame on them for not helping a pregnant woman lift something heavy!!Need some advice from you ladies about my job, people arent being so nice to me :(?
i am also a cna but i did home health when i was pregnant i had to quit because i also couldnt lift patients. im sure you know in most nursing homes the workers dont want to help patients muchless a fellow employee so if i were you i would either tell your charge nurse(haha) and if shes no help and you have to work thru pregnancy try an assisted living place where they arent totally bedridden and you dont have to lift. good luck!!
first go to your supervisor and tell him that if he needs you to stay on regular duty someone needs to be able to help you when you call (and if you don't get that help even with light duty then you will be put on bed rest because of the stress and won't even be able to work anyway and it seems like they would like having you there and not be one person down)
Oh most defo , They HAVE to help you or id be frog marching to the manager/boss to mention it.
How far pregnant are you? maybe if you are not showing they dont realise as believe it or not people act differently when your actually showing its like they suddenly believe you .
You defo need to have a word with the boss hun %26amp; yes get yourself that light work note !
good luck %26amp; congrats x
You should discuss this issue with your doctor. If this is a job you were doing before you got pregnant and your pregnancy is going along well, there may not be any reason you can't continue doing it as usual. Generally, with a healthy pregnancy, problems are more common when you do things that you aren't used to doing. If you feel uncomfortable doing the lifting than instead of calling for help, you should speak to your supervisor about your concerns. I am sure the other nursing assistants have their own patients to lift so perhaps a schedule needs to be made that allows for another assistant to help you lift than you can give some of your time to help them do something, too. You may be going about asking for help in the wrong way. I think you should speak with your doctor and your supervisor to see what can be worked out. ADDED: When you went to your supervisors was it just to complain or did you approach them with some type of plan? Perhaps they didn't say anything because it seemed like you were just venting. Be specific and say you need help lifting and you'd like their help working out a solution. Offer some suggestions. Put yourself in another person's position. If a fellow nursing assistant was pregnant and needed help lifting what would you be willing to do to help her? Could you job share with one of the other assistant's so he/she could help you lift and than you help do some of their work? Perhaps 2 of you could take care of the same number of patients and work together to do all the tasks.
Friday, April 30, 2010
ARMY PT question im sure other people have probably asked before.....need advice though...?
ok i have a ARMY PT test on saturday and i always have had trouble with the 2 mile like alot of other people....ive been getting on the eliptical at the gym and lifting for my arms etc...i kinda dont feel THAT confident on my run though...i know i have gotten better but Ive always been a big guy...so is there anything i can do at the house aside from run outside to help my runtime go down? Any other tips would be great...even the basics...ARMY PT question im sure other people have probably asked before.....need advice though...?
A couple of NCOs that I have known have had some bigger guys wrap their torsos in ceran wrap during the day or while they sleep. But that is an extreme method. Increase your miles you run and your time on the weekend.ARMY PT question im sure other people have probably asked before.....need advice though...?
With a PT test in 2 days, there is nothing you can do now that will improve your time beyond what your body is already capable of. In other words, you cannot turn water into wine, but you may be able to make the water less polluted.
The best advice that I can give you is to get a good nights rest the night prior, eat a healthy meal, stay plenty hydrated, and stretch well the day prior.
For future advice, if you want to improve your run time, you need to get out there and run. Everyone is always trying to look for the magic machine or the easy way to get better without actually working for it. If you know that running is your weak area, then concentrate on running and skip some lifting. There really is no substitute for running though it is good to cross train with things like squats, swimming, exercise bikes, elliptical, etc. However, starting to do any of those with only 2 days to go will only hurt you at this point.
Today is Wednesday so really you need to focus on the mental versus the physical I would say. I don't run but I bike ride and certain songs give me a pump even when I'm not listening to them on ipod just hearing them in my head. If you can figure out what a couple of those songs are write them down and think about them or listen to them when you have to do the real thing. I know this sounds cheesy but it makes a difference for me between my being blah or kicking ***
If you want to get better at running, then you need to run. Getting on the elliptical and lifting weights makes you better at the elliptical and lifting weights, not running.
The best way to improve your running is to run. And that means to run outside. Vary your routine to include sprints, 2 mile runs, and 4 mile runs. In my peak days, my weekly program went like this:
Mon: 2 mile run
Tues: Sprints (Sprint 200m Jog 200m for 2 miles)
Wed: 2 mile run
Fri: 4 mile run
I would also work calves as well if you don't already lift weights, but it sounds like you do. Calves are primarily slow twitch muscles so you may want to try a variety of exercises.
i have alwaysdrank and smoked while in the army. while running i just enjoyed the sights and this kept my mind off of pt i didnt seem to be gasping for air. also , time flew by. good luck lou
Make sure when you run you use your arms to help pump you. Keep your stride open.
You can get a jump rope that will help with endurance and cardio.
Try to focus on something far in the distance when you run.
When you are on your way to the end try to sprint it out. If you have someone that runs slightly faster than you try to keep up with that pace.
Lose weight. And by no means am I saying you are fat. During your run you should concentrate on breathing and think about something other then running. Also like the other person said... running is good practice for running the elliptical is not. Good Luck
Well there is nothing you can do before sat that will matter.
But you can jump rope, that will increase your cardio and also let your knees and legs adjust to the pounding that happens when you run.refill
A couple of NCOs that I have known have had some bigger guys wrap their torsos in ceran wrap during the day or while they sleep. But that is an extreme method. Increase your miles you run and your time on the weekend.ARMY PT question im sure other people have probably asked before.....need advice though...?
With a PT test in 2 days, there is nothing you can do now that will improve your time beyond what your body is already capable of. In other words, you cannot turn water into wine, but you may be able to make the water less polluted.
The best advice that I can give you is to get a good nights rest the night prior, eat a healthy meal, stay plenty hydrated, and stretch well the day prior.
For future advice, if you want to improve your run time, you need to get out there and run. Everyone is always trying to look for the magic machine or the easy way to get better without actually working for it. If you know that running is your weak area, then concentrate on running and skip some lifting. There really is no substitute for running though it is good to cross train with things like squats, swimming, exercise bikes, elliptical, etc. However, starting to do any of those with only 2 days to go will only hurt you at this point.
Today is Wednesday so really you need to focus on the mental versus the physical I would say. I don't run but I bike ride and certain songs give me a pump even when I'm not listening to them on ipod just hearing them in my head. If you can figure out what a couple of those songs are write them down and think about them or listen to them when you have to do the real thing. I know this sounds cheesy but it makes a difference for me between my being blah or kicking ***
If you want to get better at running, then you need to run. Getting on the elliptical and lifting weights makes you better at the elliptical and lifting weights, not running.
The best way to improve your running is to run. And that means to run outside. Vary your routine to include sprints, 2 mile runs, and 4 mile runs. In my peak days, my weekly program went like this:
Mon: 2 mile run
Tues: Sprints (Sprint 200m Jog 200m for 2 miles)
Wed: 2 mile run
Fri: 4 mile run
I would also work calves as well if you don't already lift weights, but it sounds like you do. Calves are primarily slow twitch muscles so you may want to try a variety of exercises.
i have alwaysdrank and smoked while in the army. while running i just enjoyed the sights and this kept my mind off of pt i didnt seem to be gasping for air. also , time flew by. good luck lou
Make sure when you run you use your arms to help pump you. Keep your stride open.
You can get a jump rope that will help with endurance and cardio.
Try to focus on something far in the distance when you run.
When you are on your way to the end try to sprint it out. If you have someone that runs slightly faster than you try to keep up with that pace.
Lose weight. And by no means am I saying you are fat. During your run you should concentrate on breathing and think about something other then running. Also like the other person said... running is good practice for running the elliptical is not. Good Luck
Well there is nothing you can do before sat that will matter.
But you can jump rope, that will increase your cardio and also let your knees and legs adjust to the pounding that happens when you run.
How to get away from negative people/friends. I really need some advice here :/?
okay, my boyfriend's (ricky) friends are absolutely driving the both of us insane. we just don't know what to do.
to keep it short- age ranges from 18-23. a 'normal' night is sitting in the basement of one of the boys houses, which is smoke filled, smelly, dirty, musty. No one ever has money to do anything. me %26amp; ricky like going out to dinner , mini golf, the movies, someone else's house, hanging out at the bar, going out somewhere nice, etc. we don't mind spending money- everyone else does. they can't plan a single event without fighting or being late. we just don't know how to handle it. how do you just get away from this slowly %26amp; painfully? i feel like these friends can ruin our positive %26amp; healthy relationship if we continue hanging out with them. it's terrible, and i feel bad because they have been friends for years.
i don't want to be the girlfriend who ';takes him away from his friends'; this is all him. i just agree with it.
any help/suggestions/advice is really appreciated.
Thank you!!!!!!!!(:How to get away from negative people/friends. I really need some advice here :/?
BF needs to make plans and then inform friends they are welcome to go. He needs to stick to it and they will either go or stay and eventually all things will change.
to keep it short- age ranges from 18-23. a 'normal' night is sitting in the basement of one of the boys houses, which is smoke filled, smelly, dirty, musty. No one ever has money to do anything. me %26amp; ricky like going out to dinner , mini golf, the movies, someone else's house, hanging out at the bar, going out somewhere nice, etc. we don't mind spending money- everyone else does. they can't plan a single event without fighting or being late. we just don't know how to handle it. how do you just get away from this slowly %26amp; painfully? i feel like these friends can ruin our positive %26amp; healthy relationship if we continue hanging out with them. it's terrible, and i feel bad because they have been friends for years.
i don't want to be the girlfriend who ';takes him away from his friends'; this is all him. i just agree with it.
any help/suggestions/advice is really appreciated.
Thank you!!!!!!!!(:How to get away from negative people/friends. I really need some advice here :/?
BF needs to make plans and then inform friends they are welcome to go. He needs to stick to it and they will either go or stay and eventually all things will change.
Can any of you lovely people help out with video-editing advice?
I make videos for YouTube using various video editors, and have them all stored on my hard drive. Today upon trying to play them on my media player, I found that four of them will not play any longer. Yesterday they played fine, and so I'm totally confused!
I have about twenty videos all up, and the four of them that no longer seem to function have the common denominator of all being made with the PowerDirector video editor, which I am trialling for a month. I have eight days left on the trial and assume this should not affect the videos that have already been produced and saved to the hard drive.
These four from PowerDirector were saved in MPEG4, whereas most of the others were AVI. But I doubt this could be the problem because there are at least two others (from different video editors) in MPEG4 that are still playing normally.
Does anyone know what on Earth has happened to my videos? I put so much painstaking work into those four and I want them back, darn it!!!
Any help will be greatly appreciated. :)
Thanks!
Can any of you lovely people help out with video-editing advice?
Windows Media Player does not support MP4 playback you need to install a MP4 Codec
Please read here:
http://www.tech-faq.com/windows-media-pl鈥?/a>
Codec Installation Package for Windows Media Player 7.1 download:
http://download.microsoft.com/download/5鈥?/a>
Save the file to Install in XP/Vista right click on the file, then click on Properties%26gt;Compatibility%26gt;In run this program in compatibility mode for%26gt;select Windows 2000%26gt; Click Ok. Then double click to install now you should be able to watch MP4's in windows media player :) Can any of you lovely people help out with video-editing advice?
that means CODES problems.....
download media player classic .....here
then install it .......it can play all type of video ....
http://www.free-codecs.com/Media_Player_鈥?/a>
You may need to find an all-in-one video editing program on http://www.videoeditorsoft.com/
I have about twenty videos all up, and the four of them that no longer seem to function have the common denominator of all being made with the PowerDirector video editor, which I am trialling for a month. I have eight days left on the trial and assume this should not affect the videos that have already been produced and saved to the hard drive.
These four from PowerDirector were saved in MPEG4, whereas most of the others were AVI. But I doubt this could be the problem because there are at least two others (from different video editors) in MPEG4 that are still playing normally.
Does anyone know what on Earth has happened to my videos? I put so much painstaking work into those four and I want them back, darn it!!!
Any help will be greatly appreciated. :)
Thanks!
Can any of you lovely people help out with video-editing advice?
Windows Media Player does not support MP4 playback you need to install a MP4 Codec
Please read here:
http://www.tech-faq.com/windows-media-pl鈥?/a>
Codec Installation Package for Windows Media Player 7.1 download:
http://download.microsoft.com/download/5鈥?/a>
Save the file to Install in XP/Vista right click on the file, then click on Properties%26gt;Compatibility%26gt;In run this program in compatibility mode for%26gt;select Windows 2000%26gt; Click Ok. Then double click to install now you should be able to watch MP4's in windows media player :) Can any of you lovely people help out with video-editing advice?
that means CODES problems.....
download media player classic .....here
then install it .......it can play all type of video ....
http://www.free-codecs.com/Media_Player_鈥?/a>
You may need to find an all-in-one video editing program on http://www.videoeditorsoft.com/
Any advice on how to cope around drunk people?
My mother died eight years ago from liver failure brought on my severe alcohol misuse. As a result, I have suffered a very difficult childhood, during her drinking and also after her death. Admittedly, I used to drink - I started going to house parties at the age of 14 and only gave up drinking heavily a short while ago, as I finally came round to realising just how stupid it all is.
However, I am beginning to find that the repercussions of being around drunk people are getting too much for me to cope with. Wherever I go, I cannot get away from people's drinking. My father has a habit of drinking unnecessarily large amounts quite frequently, most of my friends are into going out and getting drunk, and my boyfriend's family - whom I come into contact with regularly - are not impartial to getting drunk either. My immediate reaction to my discomfort used to be to get drunk myself, to keep up with them so that I would relax, but now that I'm not drinking, it's so challenging to be around something that I feel like I can't escape. When I am around drunk people, I shake uncontrollably, stutter (occasionally), get a stomach ache and feel very, very sick (but have never actually thrown up because of this). Because of people's drinking, I find it increasingly difficult to willingly go out in the evenings now, and I get stupidly obsessive over how much my boyfriend drinks, even when I'm not there. I hate feeling so controlling over him and really don't want to feel like I'm monitoring him but I really can't help it!
I just don't have a clue how to handle this anymore, and I'm scared that this will only get worse as I get older. Does anyone have any advice about how I might be able to cope better?
Please be aware that this is a very sensitive issue for me to discuss and so I would be very grateful if you would answer accordingly. xAny advice on how to cope around drunk people?
I feel very sorry for you, my mum is an alcoholic too and my childhood was terrible. I also used to drink quite heavily, I have cut down though and now I'm an occasional drinker. I think you should seek counselling, I'm no expert but it sounds as if you are haunted by your memories of drunk people. I haven't experienced what you have, but I do feel guilty for having a drink, even if it's just one glass of wine, I'm frightened to death of turning out like my mum. I'm sorry I can't give you any further help, but I do know what alcoholism does to you so if you ever fancy a chat, send me an e-mail xxxAny advice on how to cope around drunk people?
so SORRY U HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS AS I AM GUESSING HERE BUT I IMMAGINE U R QUITE YOUNG, BUT U NEED 2 CHANGE UR SOCIAL ACTIVITIES,[IE] FRIENDS WHO DRINK] TRUST ME I AM PROBABLY A LOT OLDER THAN U AND HAVE A ALCHOHOL ISSUE MYSELF NOT BAD BUT COULD BE BETTER. GO JOIN A GYM OR SOME CLUB OR SOMETHING LOVE WE R ONLY HERE ONCE. GOOD LUCK. TRUST ME IT CAN B DONE.
First step - don't worry about when you're older. Just deal with the present moment. (FYI things usually get easier to ignore when you're older.)
At this time, you are seriously traumatized by people's drinking.
It is okay to avoid people who drink. Be around them as little as possible. Leave the house when the drinking starts. PLENTY of people who are now sober do this. It's not something you have to steel yourself to be around. Avoid it and don't worry about whether you're ';too sensitive'; or whether people ****** about it. Put your sobriety first. I certainly don't hang around scenes that are traumatic to me. I leave them. If people don't like it, that is okay with me.
I can understand why you feel like that after your parent's problems because other people's drunkenness must bring up the same feelings you had back then, I think the best thing is to get some counselling, you can probably find a specialist in this area via your local alcoholics anonymous service
i must admit i am an alcoholic myself but when i am not drinking and other people are drinking i usually just watch them make an idiot of themselves i realise this is a bit hippacricial as i do make an idiot of myself when i get drunk but i do watch them anyway like just recently my sister is considering having a massive piss up for her 21st i dont know whether to show or not i might have a few beers but not enough to get myself drunk and then walk off and let everyone else get absoloutly smashed and make an idiot of themselves while i catch up on some sleep
Maybe therapy is in order. You are letting the past control you now. You can't expect the others to have such an aversion to alcohol like you. I know when I was pregnant and not drinking it was difficult to be around people drinking. I had to change myself. I chose not to hang out with them. I would go to movies, read books, go to the gym, or just go out to dinner. Try to do things that do not involve alcohol. I would drink non alcoholic beer and ';pretend'; like I was partying with them. You may need to avoid the other people for a while until you can control your own emotions.
You need to let people know that drinking is an issue for you and why. Try not to put your self in positions where alcohol is, and heavy drinkers hang out. You are trying to clean up your life to improve your health, and don't want to see others hurting their health. Your friends and family may not change their actions, but atleast they will know where you stand, and if you decide not to hang out with them...they'll know why. Tho many people that drink heavily will become alcoholics...not all will. Many go through the drinking stage as teens and 20's. most will learn to be responsible regarding drinking. Unfortunately is all around us, and can't be totally controlled, you can control where you go. I commend you on your choices. Be strong. Hope this helps...
I understand exactly what you are feeling when around drinkers. It is to do with your past experiences and you can only come to terms with all of this if you go to some meeting for ..adult children of Alcoholics..these meetings will help you have a better understanding of what you are experiencing...or you could go for therapy to someone you specialises in Alcoholism. I just refuse to be around drunk people..I like a drink but I don't like a drunk person..even if they make a nice drunk I still don't want to be around them... Keeping drunks out of my life is the only way I can deal with it. I works for me but I don't know if it will work for you. You really need to come up with some way of dealing with all of this . I really think therapy is the answer .
However, I am beginning to find that the repercussions of being around drunk people are getting too much for me to cope with. Wherever I go, I cannot get away from people's drinking. My father has a habit of drinking unnecessarily large amounts quite frequently, most of my friends are into going out and getting drunk, and my boyfriend's family - whom I come into contact with regularly - are not impartial to getting drunk either. My immediate reaction to my discomfort used to be to get drunk myself, to keep up with them so that I would relax, but now that I'm not drinking, it's so challenging to be around something that I feel like I can't escape. When I am around drunk people, I shake uncontrollably, stutter (occasionally), get a stomach ache and feel very, very sick (but have never actually thrown up because of this). Because of people's drinking, I find it increasingly difficult to willingly go out in the evenings now, and I get stupidly obsessive over how much my boyfriend drinks, even when I'm not there. I hate feeling so controlling over him and really don't want to feel like I'm monitoring him but I really can't help it!
I just don't have a clue how to handle this anymore, and I'm scared that this will only get worse as I get older. Does anyone have any advice about how I might be able to cope better?
Please be aware that this is a very sensitive issue for me to discuss and so I would be very grateful if you would answer accordingly. xAny advice on how to cope around drunk people?
I feel very sorry for you, my mum is an alcoholic too and my childhood was terrible. I also used to drink quite heavily, I have cut down though and now I'm an occasional drinker. I think you should seek counselling, I'm no expert but it sounds as if you are haunted by your memories of drunk people. I haven't experienced what you have, but I do feel guilty for having a drink, even if it's just one glass of wine, I'm frightened to death of turning out like my mum. I'm sorry I can't give you any further help, but I do know what alcoholism does to you so if you ever fancy a chat, send me an e-mail xxxAny advice on how to cope around drunk people?
so SORRY U HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS AS I AM GUESSING HERE BUT I IMMAGINE U R QUITE YOUNG, BUT U NEED 2 CHANGE UR SOCIAL ACTIVITIES,[IE] FRIENDS WHO DRINK] TRUST ME I AM PROBABLY A LOT OLDER THAN U AND HAVE A ALCHOHOL ISSUE MYSELF NOT BAD BUT COULD BE BETTER. GO JOIN A GYM OR SOME CLUB OR SOMETHING LOVE WE R ONLY HERE ONCE. GOOD LUCK. TRUST ME IT CAN B DONE.
First step - don't worry about when you're older. Just deal with the present moment. (FYI things usually get easier to ignore when you're older.)
At this time, you are seriously traumatized by people's drinking.
It is okay to avoid people who drink. Be around them as little as possible. Leave the house when the drinking starts. PLENTY of people who are now sober do this. It's not something you have to steel yourself to be around. Avoid it and don't worry about whether you're ';too sensitive'; or whether people ****** about it. Put your sobriety first. I certainly don't hang around scenes that are traumatic to me. I leave them. If people don't like it, that is okay with me.
I can understand why you feel like that after your parent's problems because other people's drunkenness must bring up the same feelings you had back then, I think the best thing is to get some counselling, you can probably find a specialist in this area via your local alcoholics anonymous service
i must admit i am an alcoholic myself but when i am not drinking and other people are drinking i usually just watch them make an idiot of themselves i realise this is a bit hippacricial as i do make an idiot of myself when i get drunk but i do watch them anyway like just recently my sister is considering having a massive piss up for her 21st i dont know whether to show or not i might have a few beers but not enough to get myself drunk and then walk off and let everyone else get absoloutly smashed and make an idiot of themselves while i catch up on some sleep
Maybe therapy is in order. You are letting the past control you now. You can't expect the others to have such an aversion to alcohol like you. I know when I was pregnant and not drinking it was difficult to be around people drinking. I had to change myself. I chose not to hang out with them. I would go to movies, read books, go to the gym, or just go out to dinner. Try to do things that do not involve alcohol. I would drink non alcoholic beer and ';pretend'; like I was partying with them. You may need to avoid the other people for a while until you can control your own emotions.
You need to let people know that drinking is an issue for you and why. Try not to put your self in positions where alcohol is, and heavy drinkers hang out. You are trying to clean up your life to improve your health, and don't want to see others hurting their health. Your friends and family may not change their actions, but atleast they will know where you stand, and if you decide not to hang out with them...they'll know why. Tho many people that drink heavily will become alcoholics...not all will. Many go through the drinking stage as teens and 20's. most will learn to be responsible regarding drinking. Unfortunately is all around us, and can't be totally controlled, you can control where you go. I commend you on your choices. Be strong. Hope this helps...
I understand exactly what you are feeling when around drinkers. It is to do with your past experiences and you can only come to terms with all of this if you go to some meeting for ..adult children of Alcoholics..these meetings will help you have a better understanding of what you are experiencing...or you could go for therapy to someone you specialises in Alcoholism. I just refuse to be around drunk people..I like a drink but I don't like a drunk person..even if they make a nice drunk I still don't want to be around them... Keeping drunks out of my life is the only way I can deal with it. I works for me but I don't know if it will work for you. You really need to come up with some way of dealing with all of this . I really think therapy is the answer .
Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
I find it interesting on all the swinging questions on YA, so many people says things like, Don't Do It! It will ruin your marriage. It will give you STD's, you should have never got married nor took vows, it's disgusting, it's cheating, it's immoral, it's abnormal, you cannot turn back. You are a sick person...
Then if they choose to qualify their backgrounds, it's always a friend, and it's always a failure. If it does work, it's an exception.
Why don't these pro's of swinging say something like, it's only for one type of marriage, and if your relationship equates love and sex as the same thing, it will ruin your marriage. Nope, instead, the part about being able to separate love and sex never gets uttered by these so called experts.
Then come the calls that you will get an STD. I say to these so called experts, prove it. Just find me one site like the CDC, that says swinging, or that kind of lifestyle is spreading STD's, and I will be happy. I will warn you naysayers, I have looked far and wide for these details. I am not saying it cannot happen, I am just saying that it's not as big of an issue, because protection is a far greater issue, not to mention selectivity of swingers. Yes, they can be choosy, and very critical who they have sex with. But NO! Swingers are suppose to have uncontrolled, and wild sex with every other swinger they meet. Really folks? When you were single, did you jump in bed with every person who was willing or made a hit on you?
The list just goes on and on. Why do these so called experts do a little research first? At least before they try to tell others how it's not done, what the facts are, and what it really means to Swing?
Speaking of which, I challenge anyone who disagrees with Swinging to find one negative website that is not a blog, or YA answer that says swinging is bad, will ruin your marriage most of the time, and will give you STD's? I have been doing that myself for more than a year now, and still can't find one.Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
WOW!...... Thanks so much for posting as you have.
I certainly don't want to convince anyone that swinging is a lifestyle for them, I wouldn't even try to. But geeezzzz before not even attempting to offer me the same respect, atleast know what you are talking about before trying to sound knowledgeable on a subject you know absolutely nothing about.
I totally agree with your perceptions, thanks again for sharing them!
Would you like to do some writing for http://www.Ginsopinion.com LOL
Ginni Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
Well if you have all the answers then why do you need to post here? To get pissed at people that disagree with you %26amp; put them in their place? Whatever. When some poor soul comes to the Marriage %26amp; Divorce section asking if that's a GOOD idea they will usually be told that it's NOT. Should everyone just be like ';yeah do it. It's cool watching your husband bang other chicks';. NO. If you don't want opinions then don't ask the question.
just because you do not think swinging is bad
does not make it so
you are of a mindset
and no one is ( even with evidence in hand ) will change your mind of what you think swinging is
so you get defensive for the sake of the lifestyle
rather than say who cares what you think and delve headlong into it
so what do you have to hide?
yes most of us did jump in bed with the first person who hit on us, we were teenagers, and if you need to look for something, try finding out , of all the thousands that died from aids, how many of those were swingers or just had sex with others, and do u really think u can select a couple that u know for sure , is 100% clean, the ones of us that are still alive today are very lucky
Here is all the research I need.
There is no such thing as an open marriage. Screwing whomever whenever is called DATING. If dating is all you want, why not have one steady gal or guy and screw whomever on the side? Why take something like marriage (which is still sacred to some believe it or not) and try to put an STD infested spin on it? I don't believe swinging devestates marriages, because there is such a lack of respect and self worth there to begin with that marriage (in the definition that most people know) isn't even there in the first place. You're kidding yourself and you are making a complete *** of yourself for trying to justify your lifestyle. If it was something you felt good about, you wouldn't feel the need to get defensive.
why do you always ask this question on YA if you are so sure about what is right and what is wrong, is it your life, and im sure many people care about how you live it, but cant prevent you from doing it, youve called me ignorant for finding your first post a joke apparently but ten you go on right after putting how if its ok if u date another women with a spouse.i find it interesting that how from maybe 8 posts of your idiotic remarks and after getting ALL these people against your side, you still try to prove us, which probablly dont care, wrong. keep swinging for the rest of your life, i hope you get tired of it, because youll never find the joys of having a family and true love, stop asking yahoo because youll keep getting the answers you hate getting like ';itll ruin your marriage, and you will get STDs'; i could go on and on on how you think that being married, swinging is not bad, you even went to the extent where you said that God wanted you to swing, your so desperant you found it in yourself to even say that, and you were proven wrong horribly by one answerer, Go swing, remember, its your life, and i assume that youll think youll be happy the rest of your life swinging, obviouslly you yourself know it is wrong but cant admit it, so you try to post these questions with some random website trying to prove us otherwise so you can feel better, your wife deserves better and you deserve better from yourself, all you get is negative answers from your question, i just dont understand why it wrong get through your thick skull, you act as if swingers are all clean and loyal and loving and everyone woul benefit from swinging, you wont
btw your link dosnt work
I answer questions on Yahoo Answers all the time and I do not consider myself or claim to be an expert.
I have answered questions a time or two about swinging. If people wanted responses from experts they certainly would not come to this web site because it is a well known fact this site is Full of opinions.
Swinging is kinda a taboo to many people and maybe they do think swingers are swinging from the ceilings have wild untamed sex with whoever passes by. This site is full of different personalities from many different walks of life and Im sure there are many different views on this topic.
I don't believe non-swingers give much of a damn what other websites or people think/say about what swinging can do for your marriage. Because that is not the kind of thing non-swingers would even think of looking up in their free time.
I am guessing people who answer and say anything about STd's are thinking anytime you have sex even with one person you could be subjecting yourself to disease. The more numbers you add to your list the higher your chances increase. Condoms break and unless every sexual partner goes through a STD screening right before having sex there is no guarantee the condom won't break and a disease may leak right out.
I see no reason to get upset over answers from regular everyday people who live many different types of lifestyles.
I don't need to jump off a cliff to know its gonna hurt a lot at the bottom.
You don't need to be an expert to know that swinging is unwise.
A marriage would have to be pretty hollow emotionally and spiritually to willingly give oneself away to someone outside your bond.
Do newly weds in love even entertain the idea of swinging? No.
Couples who swing are ineffectively dealing with issues in their marriage , have low understanding of the concept of marriage or are simply horny and think if both partners cheat, then its okay.
As for being mature adults, consenting , choosy, bla bla bla bla bla. There is always a RISK of losing your partner to another (intellectually, emotionally, not just sex and stds)
If you truly loved your partner,simply the thought of possibly losing his/her heart via swinging should invoke healthy jealously, protectiveness and possessiveness in you. And you should feel that way towards each other.
Then if they choose to qualify their backgrounds, it's always a friend, and it's always a failure. If it does work, it's an exception.
Why don't these pro's of swinging say something like, it's only for one type of marriage, and if your relationship equates love and sex as the same thing, it will ruin your marriage. Nope, instead, the part about being able to separate love and sex never gets uttered by these so called experts.
Then come the calls that you will get an STD. I say to these so called experts, prove it. Just find me one site like the CDC, that says swinging, or that kind of lifestyle is spreading STD's, and I will be happy. I will warn you naysayers, I have looked far and wide for these details. I am not saying it cannot happen, I am just saying that it's not as big of an issue, because protection is a far greater issue, not to mention selectivity of swingers. Yes, they can be choosy, and very critical who they have sex with. But NO! Swingers are suppose to have uncontrolled, and wild sex with every other swinger they meet. Really folks? When you were single, did you jump in bed with every person who was willing or made a hit on you?
The list just goes on and on. Why do these so called experts do a little research first? At least before they try to tell others how it's not done, what the facts are, and what it really means to Swing?
Speaking of which, I challenge anyone who disagrees with Swinging to find one negative website that is not a blog, or YA answer that says swinging is bad, will ruin your marriage most of the time, and will give you STD's? I have been doing that myself for more than a year now, and still can't find one.Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
WOW!...... Thanks so much for posting as you have.
I certainly don't want to convince anyone that swinging is a lifestyle for them, I wouldn't even try to. But geeezzzz before not even attempting to offer me the same respect, atleast know what you are talking about before trying to sound knowledgeable on a subject you know absolutely nothing about.
I totally agree with your perceptions, thanks again for sharing them!
Would you like to do some writing for http://www.Ginsopinion.com LOL
Ginni Why are there so many people who are Swinging Experts, dispensing advice, but has never tried or even wants to?
Well if you have all the answers then why do you need to post here? To get pissed at people that disagree with you %26amp; put them in their place? Whatever. When some poor soul comes to the Marriage %26amp; Divorce section asking if that's a GOOD idea they will usually be told that it's NOT. Should everyone just be like ';yeah do it. It's cool watching your husband bang other chicks';. NO. If you don't want opinions then don't ask the question.
just because you do not think swinging is bad
does not make it so
you are of a mindset
and no one is ( even with evidence in hand ) will change your mind of what you think swinging is
so you get defensive for the sake of the lifestyle
rather than say who cares what you think and delve headlong into it
so what do you have to hide?
yes most of us did jump in bed with the first person who hit on us, we were teenagers, and if you need to look for something, try finding out , of all the thousands that died from aids, how many of those were swingers or just had sex with others, and do u really think u can select a couple that u know for sure , is 100% clean, the ones of us that are still alive today are very lucky
Here is all the research I need.
There is no such thing as an open marriage. Screwing whomever whenever is called DATING. If dating is all you want, why not have one steady gal or guy and screw whomever on the side? Why take something like marriage (which is still sacred to some believe it or not) and try to put an STD infested spin on it? I don't believe swinging devestates marriages, because there is such a lack of respect and self worth there to begin with that marriage (in the definition that most people know) isn't even there in the first place. You're kidding yourself and you are making a complete *** of yourself for trying to justify your lifestyle. If it was something you felt good about, you wouldn't feel the need to get defensive.
why do you always ask this question on YA if you are so sure about what is right and what is wrong, is it your life, and im sure many people care about how you live it, but cant prevent you from doing it, youve called me ignorant for finding your first post a joke apparently but ten you go on right after putting how if its ok if u date another women with a spouse.i find it interesting that how from maybe 8 posts of your idiotic remarks and after getting ALL these people against your side, you still try to prove us, which probablly dont care, wrong. keep swinging for the rest of your life, i hope you get tired of it, because youll never find the joys of having a family and true love, stop asking yahoo because youll keep getting the answers you hate getting like ';itll ruin your marriage, and you will get STDs'; i could go on and on on how you think that being married, swinging is not bad, you even went to the extent where you said that God wanted you to swing, your so desperant you found it in yourself to even say that, and you were proven wrong horribly by one answerer, Go swing, remember, its your life, and i assume that youll think youll be happy the rest of your life swinging, obviouslly you yourself know it is wrong but cant admit it, so you try to post these questions with some random website trying to prove us otherwise so you can feel better, your wife deserves better and you deserve better from yourself, all you get is negative answers from your question, i just dont understand why it wrong get through your thick skull, you act as if swingers are all clean and loyal and loving and everyone woul benefit from swinging, you wont
btw your link dosnt work
I answer questions on Yahoo Answers all the time and I do not consider myself or claim to be an expert.
I have answered questions a time or two about swinging. If people wanted responses from experts they certainly would not come to this web site because it is a well known fact this site is Full of opinions.
Swinging is kinda a taboo to many people and maybe they do think swingers are swinging from the ceilings have wild untamed sex with whoever passes by. This site is full of different personalities from many different walks of life and Im sure there are many different views on this topic.
I don't believe non-swingers give much of a damn what other websites or people think/say about what swinging can do for your marriage. Because that is not the kind of thing non-swingers would even think of looking up in their free time.
I am guessing people who answer and say anything about STd's are thinking anytime you have sex even with one person you could be subjecting yourself to disease. The more numbers you add to your list the higher your chances increase. Condoms break and unless every sexual partner goes through a STD screening right before having sex there is no guarantee the condom won't break and a disease may leak right out.
I see no reason to get upset over answers from regular everyday people who live many different types of lifestyles.
I don't need to jump off a cliff to know its gonna hurt a lot at the bottom.
You don't need to be an expert to know that swinging is unwise.
A marriage would have to be pretty hollow emotionally and spiritually to willingly give oneself away to someone outside your bond.
Do newly weds in love even entertain the idea of swinging? No.
Couples who swing are ineffectively dealing with issues in their marriage , have low understanding of the concept of marriage or are simply horny and think if both partners cheat, then its okay.
As for being mature adults, consenting , choosy, bla bla bla bla bla. There is always a RISK of losing your partner to another (intellectually, emotionally, not just sex and stds)
If you truly loved your partner,simply the thought of possibly losing his/her heart via swinging should invoke healthy jealously, protectiveness and possessiveness in you. And you should feel that way towards each other.
Please advice on first car, honda and toyota people?
I am about to turn 19, and since I'm not one of those people that get their first car from their parents, I have been putting away some money and need advice. I have my mind set on a honda or toyota, and yes that includes acura and lexus. I want something reliable, that can make it past 220,000 miles and still drive beautifully without any problems. Smooth ride preferred, gas efficient, nice horse power, and preferably two door. Also something I can make into a project car later with a nice swap or some boost or something. I demand manual transmission lol. And please no civics, i love them ad they're great but it's really hard to find one that has not been abused by little amateur racers. I am a responsible driver and will treat it like a baby, just to school, then work and back home. Please suggestions. Coupes and hatchs preffered.Please advice on first car, honda and toyota people?
I'm gonna set my suggestions based on a 19 year old's budget (or at least a really tight budget) and I'd recommend a Honda Prelude. They're clean, two door, sporty compact %26amp; the type-sh model has a pretty good 200hp h22 motor. Chances are with any of these low end tuner vehicles, you're gonna see that your car is definitely gonna be a target for thief. By doing any mods of it, you're risking the security of your car, and once its stolen it's gonna hurt badly cuz it was your money that purchased it. If i can re-suggest you to getting just a nice commuter car that will stay out of any bad attention just get a toyota corolla xrs. it's clean and still sporty, it's very torque-y and i think you'll like it.Please advice on first car, honda and toyota people?
i know u said no civics but heres my list in order that i would buy them.
99-00 civic - coupe or hatch. preferably an Si (coupe)
94-01 integra (hatch) gsr or ls
scion tC
93-95 civic hatch (eg)
Del Sol, i guess girls look cute in them if there clean.
IS300
if you look around and actually invest the time as well as the money you can find a nice clean stock honda. just have to be dedicated to your car...
toyota celica=hatch, 180hp+, $8,000-$11,000
honda prelude=coupe, 200hp+, $10,000-$15,000
toyota supra=coupe, 200hp+, $8,000-$20,000
all are perfect just pick your style!
A Scion tC is what you're looking for.
I'm gonna set my suggestions based on a 19 year old's budget (or at least a really tight budget) and I'd recommend a Honda Prelude. They're clean, two door, sporty compact %26amp; the type-sh model has a pretty good 200hp h22 motor. Chances are with any of these low end tuner vehicles, you're gonna see that your car is definitely gonna be a target for thief. By doing any mods of it, you're risking the security of your car, and once its stolen it's gonna hurt badly cuz it was your money that purchased it. If i can re-suggest you to getting just a nice commuter car that will stay out of any bad attention just get a toyota corolla xrs. it's clean and still sporty, it's very torque-y and i think you'll like it.Please advice on first car, honda and toyota people?
i know u said no civics but heres my list in order that i would buy them.
99-00 civic - coupe or hatch. preferably an Si (coupe)
94-01 integra (hatch) gsr or ls
scion tC
93-95 civic hatch (eg)
Del Sol, i guess girls look cute in them if there clean.
IS300
if you look around and actually invest the time as well as the money you can find a nice clean stock honda. just have to be dedicated to your car...
toyota celica=hatch, 180hp+, $8,000-$11,000
honda prelude=coupe, 200hp+, $10,000-$15,000
toyota supra=coupe, 200hp+, $8,000-$20,000
all are perfect just pick your style!
A Scion tC is what you're looking for.
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